Our multiracial children!!?
Recently my beautiful girlfriend and I were discussing about our future child. [She recently got pregnant!]
We want to know whether multiracial children have trouble with their sense of identity when comparing themselves with children of same race parents. Will their childhood be any different than others? With so many multiracial children these days I don't expect there to be many issues, but then again I could be wrong. Not that it bothers us, we are both excited and ready to tackle any challenges that awaits us, but we'd like some input especially from those with experience! [personal, family, friends, etc]
Just for reference, my girlfriend is white, I'm Asian, both in our early 20s. We both grew up here so there won't be any cultural hangups, but we can't help but wonder. Thanks!
Answer:
First of all, I think you will make very very beautiful babies!
But no...multiracial kids go through all the problems that other kids face..you however have to instill confidence in your children, teach them proper manners and hold their hands a lot. Love them and they'll turn out great!
children like being multiracial these days...they dont compare themselves with others...rap artists and other things explain everything and get the message out now adays
Your children won't be "multiracial" -- they'll be multi-ethnic. "Race" is a 19th century idea designed to divide people by skin color -- genetically it doesn't exist (you do know there's more genetic variation in any population of whites, for example, than between any white and asian, right?). Multi-cultural, multi-ethnic -- sure. But lose the outdated race thing, ok?
I'm of european descent and my wife is from the Philippines. Our kids (10 and 6) are happy, healthy, well-adjusted, and have lots of friends. They have no issues at all with the fact that their parents came from different parts of the world, and neither do any of their teachers, friends, friends' parents, family, etc.
I *did* once have somebody walk up to me in the grocery store, when I was shopping with my wife, and whisper to me, "why couldn't you be with one of your own kind?" To which I answered: "she is my kind -- she's human. Apparently you're not."
It may depend on where you live, but here in California -- no issues at all to speak of.
Best of luck with the coming child!
I'm multiethnic, and it's never bothered me, infact, I think its more interesting because I've got a more diverse family history. The only annoying thing is those stupid surveys where they ask what race you are..thats when the other box comes in handy! If anyone asks..Im just your average canadian..no need to go into details.
congratulations on your baby~! =)
unfortunately, anyone multiracial will some way, some how be treated differently by some prick! our society hasnt even gotten over treating certain races with dignity and respect, they really have it out for those that are a part of more than 1 race..you raise your child in love and unity, let him/her know they are most important and beautiful and smart no matter what and you will have a child that is secure and grounded in their identity. you love that child so much and show the baby that mom and dad love each other so much that it makes that child proud to be a part of mom and a part of dad
With the unconditional love and a good solid upbringing your child will excel.
It does matter whether you are white, black, Asian, Mexican, Cuban, English or whatever you deal with peoples expectations of you and their opinions of you.
If you raise your child to believe in them self, respect them self, keep an open mind and not to ever worry about others opinions of them if they are negative your child will do fine. You almost have to teach a child that anyway because of the type of judgmental world we live in today.
Being multiracial has nothing to do at all with the type of person you are.
I personally think that it depends on the area that the child grows up in, I am half white and half native and I grew up in an area that was predominately native and black.. I look pure white so I got a lot of grief at school and when I went out.. I've gotten stares, yelled at called names and even death threats... My own grandmother didn't like me b/c I was so light skinned, but she loved my brother who got ALL the pigment in the family so... It depends.. Kids are cruel anyway, but I'm proud to be mixed.. Mixed babies are cuter anyway!! My husband is black and our baby is just gorgeous!! If anything people will be jealous b/c your child is so darn cute!! Hope I didn't scare you, people are very narrow minded where I come from, I'm sure everything will be just great with your child.. Good luck!
First off Congrats.There are so many kids who are multiracial nowadays.Your Child will be part of the majority rather than a minority.If problems arise you sound like you are ready to handle them .
I have to biracial children and pregnant with my 3rd. my children get the same respect from everyone around them as other kids do if not more. people point out my children all the time saying how adorable they are and how we made such beautiful babies. in school they do great,have all sorts of friends,noone even asks about there color *they are black and white* Just explain to them who they are and how they originated,and tell them they are perfect everyday. my daughter never even asks me she knows,she tels us that she is brown and im white and daddys black...more people then u know are having biracial children nowdays,its sooo common that noone really cares anymore..Ur baby is going to be beautiful!~! Good luck and Congrats! =)
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