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It sounds like he doesn't really want to be involved with the baby once it's born. Ask him point-blank how he feels about becoming a dad. Tell him that the baby needs to have a father in their life. It is not the baby's fault that he/she was created and he needs to step up and take care of them.
Well, it was a wise decision on your part. Just be supportive and let him know that no matter what you're there for him. I think he's just having a tough time grasping the whole "my ex girlfriend's having a baby" ordeal. I'd just make sure that HE knows you're there for him. Let him know that you care about him and that just because it's over between them doesn't mean he has to stop caring about his ex girlfriend and her upcoming family. Let him know your opinions and tell him that there are ways of being friends and other options. Make sure that he knows you love him and no matter what happens you will be loving and caring towards him. I hope I could help. I know this may not be the first answer you receive, but please read it bottom to top and I'm sure you can find comfort within it.
he's probably trying emotionally to block the thought of his baby out also if his ex has hurt him there will be alot of hatred towards her.it must be difficult for him and he probably doesn't know how hes going to feel when the baby arrives are you going to be o.k if he starts going round to his ex's? i think the best thing you can do is be there if he wants to talk about it and if its difficult for him change the subject.
maybe he is afraid it is not his so he doesnt want to get close until he is sure. So maybe after the baby is born tests are run and it does turn out to be his he will be excited
Maybe he is feeling somewhat bad that he isn't having the baby with you instead? And you are being so supportive makes him feel indifferent about it? Give him time in the long run he will be happy you want to be involved. It's got to be tough for him.
Why would you want to be involved with someone who has got another girl pregnant if you have been in a relationship for the last 2 years. Even if it was on and off, he isn't obviously practising safe sex. It seems like with his reaction he thinks your interfering, maybe he is embarrassed about his situation and is trying to forget he is becoming a dad.May be it's not his choice to become a dad yet and doesn't want the matter pushed in his face. Take a step back. When the baby arrives, I doubt his ex will want you to take part in her life, let alone her babies. Sorry to sound so mean but i would want to get as far away from the situation as I could if I was in you position. Things will only get harder once the baby arrives.
Good luck on whatever your choice xx
maybe his babys momma dont like you and they wish you werent around sorry!
maybe its just weird to him that another woman in his life cares about a baby he is having with another women or at least just cares enough to be supported . a lot of women are ruthless .. hes nervous to of coarse and he might not even think the baby is his
Hes just finding it difficult at the moment and dont get down by the way he his i new some one hu had the same done to them.just try to help in any way that you can it mite be that he dont want you to get invold with his ex by giving presents.give him time he will get over it tell him to rember that he has got you there for him at all times good luck x :)
He's not sure of his feelings at the moment.His world is being turned upside down,by the fact he's going to be a father.
With you buying a present for the baby,it's making the reality of it much clearer and closer.
I'm sure he does appreciate the gift,but at the moment everything is in a turmoil for him.
Be there for him,so he knows he has a shoulder to cry on if he needs it.
I know in your additional details, you said that you know for a fact that he does want involvement with the child. but it DOES sound like he doesn't care and doesn't want to be involved. You need to take into consideration also that he may be thinking that the kid isn't his. the ex WAS sleeping around. Even if she says it wasn't before she got pregnant, it could still be a possibility... since she's a lying, cheating gal anyway. I would just leave the subject alone. You don't want to press an issue that's already stressing him out. The only thing that can do is push him further away from you, and maybe resent you for trying to press an issue he doesn't want to touch. I would wait until the baby is here... that's when his true feelings will arise.
Good luck.
he might be wondering if it's even his baby. or maybe he doesn't want YOU involved, maybe it's something he wanted to do
i think it's disgusting. what do you think the mother would think of the present, if the two of you have been seeing each other for two years then why is he having a child with another girl, are you mad it sound's to me as he uses you when he hasn't got much on ,have a bit of respect for yourself and get rid of him.
you must be one strong lady to put up with your partner having a baby with someone else.good on you for being mature about it all.all you can do is be there for him if he needs it,no-one can force him into being involved in the kids life unfortunately.its him that will miss out.
HAVE YOU WONDERED WHETHER HE IS THINKING THAT THE BABY IS NOT HIS?. A lot of first time dads find the pressure a bit much as well so give him support and he will come round. Probably worried about being a part time dad.
first of all u said you av been on and off for 2 years you need to know where you stand with this guy cause if he aint all that serious about you dont get stressing over his problems until u know hes prepared to share everything with you. some guys find it hard to show their emotions but if you think relationship is goin sumwear try not to push him into talkin just let him know you are there for him and let him talk in his own time
good luck hope everything goes well for u
dont you think he doesnt want to be attached til he knows whats what. dont pressure him hes a man and they have thier own way of dealing with things
maybe he might think the baby's his mates, that's why he is being that way.
Maybe he feels strange that his baby id due in four weeks and he won't get to see it everyday as the baby is being born into a split family. It must be hard for him to think that he will not have the same experiences as other dad's such as getting up in the night with the baby, waking up every morning and seeing his child. Give him space to adjust.
he maybe afraid that the baby is not his if his ex slept with his mate and he dosent want to get too close just in case just be there for him when hes ready to talk he will
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