Child Rearing QUESTION?
Do you think it's right to spank your child?, What part of the country do you live in?, If you think spanking is wrong, what are alternatives to spanking?
Answer:
I believe in spanking.
Good ol U.S.A.
no, physically hurting a child is not a way to get through to them. talk to them, or punish them. hitting them is only scarring them. WEST COAST. CA.
I think spanking is wrong. I live in California. Alternatives are: time outs, taking away privileges.
Yes...it is OK to apply the board of education to the seat of understanding!
Seriously, it is OK, but it must be done responsibly.
I am in the South.
Spanking works for some and not for others- a swat on the bottom- not a beating worked for my dau- but not for my son- time out worked for him- if it is does correctly spanking is fine- and depending on age- time out- taking away privileges- tv- games- may work= In am in NM
Do you think it's right to spank your child? No. (As of right now.)
What part of the country do you live in? Midwest
If you think spanking is wrong, what are alternatives to spanking? People say time-out works. My son is only 18 months old. When he does something he's not supposed to, I simply remove him from it and distract him with something else. It's worked fairly well, but I can tell that method is going to lose effectiveness pretty soon, so I'll probably try the time-out. I hope to avoid spanking if possible.
I think spanking is good cuz it's the only way my daughter will pay attendtion to me or my husband if we talk to her she just laughs usa
I live in California.
I have young'uns
I smack them on their bee-hinds when they smart off or disobey.
Usually I only need to do it once per offense.
My 3 yr old still has diapers so spanking is kinda useless. We put them in ''time out'' in the corner...they hate that.
I would usually use the time out method. I will say that I did spank but i did it rarely and only with one tap on the rear. I belive that if someone is too angry they can go to far, and physically hurt their child. I currently live in the southwest so I do not know what the laws are here. Also my children are now teenagers so I have more options such as no going out, taking away the car, phone etc. I don't know how many states still allow schools to spank children, but I do know that in Kansas there are some schools that are still allowed to paddle kids. So that is something that you can research for your paper good luck.
I have found that "spanking is ineffective and sometimes increases misbehavior. It's harmful to a child's self-esteem and the parent-child relationship. It reinforces non-compliant behavior because the parent reacts in a highly emotionally charged way, giving the child undivided, although negative attention. This will prolong the conflict as the child pushes the parent to react and lose control. In addition, children identify with the parent's negative example and learn to respond with physical aggression to get what they want."
What are the alternatives? Rules, rewards, and consequences. Have rules that are written out, reward positive behavior, use appropriate consequences for inappropriate behavior.
I live in Alabama
If a child does not respond to NO ...there are situations where a swat on the bottom will reinforce the NO. If that is what it takes to keep a child from running into the street...from pulling the new baby's hair.from climbing up to the medicine cabinet...then you must..What is more important is my right as a parent to decide..
spanking is suited for those spoiled children, those who wont listen and obey and keeps on demanding and wants to bnefit themselves.
other alternatives for spanking are advicing the child, by letting him experience it the hard way , so when things turn bad, he will regret what he did and will avoid it.
Texas. Old school. Spare the rod and spoil the child.
I live in Illinois, I don't think spanking is wrong. I do think parents should have other alternatives to punish or to incorporate better behavior. Depending on the situation time outs, stating the disapproval of the behavior, and taking away the child's interest are all alternatives. Hopefully, this will encourage better behavior, but you want to also have communication with your child, so you can look for more ways to help than just assuming discipline is the answer.
Yes it's right, I live in Left wing California. Also try asking this question on the Polls and serves section. They are really good at just giving a quick answer rather then a 10000 word response on their point of view.
Do you think it's right to spank your child?, What part of the country do you live in?, If you think spanking is wrong, what are alternatives to spanking?
yes it lets them know that it is wrong wht ever they are doing and spanking means that it is sending them a message to tell them there doing something wrong.. now "beating is a whole diffrent story.. but spanking is not hurting a child really bad its just letting them know whos boss... i live in the united states...
i dont think spanking your child is good. it traumatizes and makes it like a traditions they will do so to their kids and their kids kids to theirs and so on. spanking or any kind of ABUSE is traumatic, those kids are the ones going out and setting cats on fire you know. an alternative is TALKING with your child TALK TALK TALK! you will build a better relationship at the same time :D i am from missouri but raised in mexico
1. It is NEVER acceptable or right to spank your child.
2. I live in Hawaii.
3. Alternatives
a. Give the child a heads up in regards to the environment/function prior.
b. Let your child know what kind of behavior is acceptable. Set rules.
c. Acknowledge and praise your child for trying.
d. Reward child with hugs and kisses for a good job done and say it to them.
e. Give verbal warnings. Speak to them at their level with good eye contact. Explain the consequences of not following rules.
f. In more difficult situations, let them know how many "chances" or "strikes are left before consequences and always follow through. Leave the premises and go home if you have too.
g. Use time-outs and loss of privileges. I have my kids walk home (i accompany them) from school sometimes and they've learned to appreciate the car ride.
h. When my child does something extreme, I have them write a long sentence to the effect of their poor judgement lead to bad consequences and acknowledging their error 10-15 times. I usually am sitting next to them reading my paper as they are writing. When my child stalls, i give them warning i will increase the amount of times they need to write and follow through. After the child is done writing, I instruct him to read it all back to me. Then I have them explain in their own words what it meant. I hold my child closely, explain to them how it made me feeI, remind them how important they are to me, and how it is my job to teach them well. I then hang the paper on the door to remind them everyday.
Have your child participate with possible solutions and consequences for not following earlier directions or reacting undesirabl and take their suggestions seriously. Try to give them some control.
i. When my children listen, I comment on their reaction time and thank them for not giving me a chance to raise my voice.
j. "Do not make mommy yell" a rule and remind them.
k. Remember how it was for me when I was a kid and spanked. I used to support spanking (to a point) before I became a parent, but immediately changed my mind after watching a movie where a young man was beating his elderly abusive father to "show him how he used to feel" for the physical beating he succumbed as a child.
l. If you really have to spank your child, ask yourself, "can you forgive this child's action" and remind yourself that all children belongs to Jesus.
m. Count from 10 to 0 backwards very slowly.
n. Take deep breaths.
o. Be a better at listening to your child.
p. Solve the conflict asap instead of letting it drag.
q. Remind yourself that spanking is like a horrible band-aid to the problem. It solves nothing. You are sending the message to your child it is acceptable to physically lash out anytime when you don't get your way.
r. There are a lot of parents working full time, taking care of their parents and in-laws and raising children (like me) and they get by without physical harm. Know there are other alternatives, seek them, and carry them out.
Midwest, and I think spanking should be rare, relatively mild and only if repeated other methods fail.
The first time I ever did was when my toddler started to make a game out of running into the street, and we lived on the first house on the block off a very busy road. After trying everything else, i swatted her along with a "No" and we both cried. She never ran out there again. I'm sure it more surprised her than anything, as she was about to the potty training age.
Watch the nature shows, even they will nip at their young if necessary to reinforce an important lesson.
My kids are grown and we get along swimmingly.
I rarely felt it necessary to spank either one of them, but they knew mom could mean business, so it clarified the pecking order around the house. It can save their lives and many other body parts where siblings could do too much unsafe things to one another.
I see a nation of spoiled children because some people don't know the difference between a spanking every once in a blue moon with young kids and abuse. It worked for generations before us and I'm certainly not scarred from being spanked.
I live in Tennesee now, moved from Fla. 6 mos. ago, originally from Pa. and I believe in spanking if the behavior isn't resolved after trying other forms of discipline (ex. time out/grounding, taking away fave toy,,discussions, extra chores, write a page about why behavior was wrong etc) Parents need to get creative when something doesn't work. Every kid is different and responds differently to certain "tactics".
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