2 year old and newborn.?
If you are only going to be rude about how far apart my children are...please do not answer!
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It may be a difficult transition for him. But...it shouldn't last for more than a few months. Humans are very adaptable creatures. At first it will be a lot of work, physically and emotionally for you. But...there are many benefits to having your children so close. Try incorporating him in your activities. ask him to help you with his new baby brother. Make sure to thank him when he "helps" and explain how important he is, and how much his baby brother needs him. Eventually, they will entertain each other. Good luck!
I thought the same thing when i had my last child last year, but my daughter loves her little sister she tries to help change her, and other things. Dont worry he will be ok.
My son was five when i had his little sister. After I gave birth and the baby was sent back in the room with me, I sat my son up on the bed with me and his little sister and held them both. I told him he was a big brother and still my number one son. Then I passed his sister to my mom and held him for a little while by himself to assure him. His little sister is 8 months old now and he loves her and kisses her on the forehead all the time..its so cute.
We have a 19 month old baby and a 10 week old baby. Before bringing the new baby home we explained to the big girl that SHE was getting a new baby. So now we always refer to the new baby as HER baby. We ask her to help with the new baby. To make her feel important, like she is a part of the baby. We used to ask her to give the baby kisses, however her kisses turned into bites so be careful. Good luck. God bless.
I babysat a 3 year old and a 1 year old and the older child was very mean and jealous toward her brother.but I also noticed both the parents worked a lot and would only bother to spend time if the baby was crying, etc. The girl also made comments like "my mom says I'm mean to my brother, my mom says I'm stupid" etc. I think it's very important to pay attention to BOTH children but most importantly, SEPARATELY...if you always do things as a family it's kinda like 'well we have to do this anyways so they dont want to be with me'...also, praise your older child for what she/he does well like in school, coloring, hang up what they do (crafts, awards) etc, say how much you love them at night, and also they can help you take care of your newborn like saying "you are such a good brother/sister" or asking them to help rock the baby, prepare meals, etc so they are always involved
I surely wont be rude about your kids being 2 years apart heck mine are 13 yrs 1 month and 15 days apart! I also have a step daughter who turned 6 right after our son was born. As much as you can try to involve your 2 yr old with the baby like letting him pick out outfits, getting the baby his socks or a diaper if he is able to. And please let him know it is OK to touch the baby as long as he is nice about it. And when the baby is sleeping do activities with your 2 yr old as much as you can. He'll be just fine wait and see.
make sure you set aside time for him and dont let anything interupt that time
my kids are only 13 months apart and they have grown up harmoniously..when my 2nd was born we just focused on how the older one was now a "big sister"...they got rough and tumble together...they were like two puppies for a really long time and even though now they are teens and have seperate lives they are still close and watch each others back..It was great having them so close in age...they loved it and so did I
what, 2 years apart? That's not bad. My boyfriend and his brother are 11 months apart. Apparently it took their mom a while before she realized where babies came from. But anyway about your little man feeling left out just make sure you schedule some time for just the two of you to spend together. It doesn't have to be much time but try to make it something that only the two of you do together. That's all it takes really.
Make him part of everything, he can be Mommy's little helper, he will love it.
1st of all babys dont know what attention is.. so try to give most of it to your older son.. 2nd of all get your older son involved .. help you take care of the newborn.. anything that can make him feel included and make him feel like hes the older brother..
My boys were 18 months apart. It is really a trip! Go from one bottom to the other putting on fresh diapers. Luckily, the 2 yr old won't really be that jealous as would a 4 yr old. There will be times he will be impatient but a newborn does sleep a lot (hopefully) My best weapon - a playpen. It was a safety measure to put the little one in so the older couldn't get to him while I ran to the bathroom, etc.The older one did seem to want to sit on the baby. I got a tandem stroller and actually went out a lot during the day which made it easier for me. Keeps the older one interested and the little one at peace just strolling around. Make big brother important by getting diapers, powder, whatever. Enjoy and try to relax. My boys are now 24 & 23. It was harder when I had their sister 4 years later. I was out of practice, lol.
I don't know what you mean by "how far apart" your children are! Two years is nothing! In fact, that's probably the most normal spacing of children. My two girls are nine years apart.
You're just going to have to make a conscience effort to make sure that your little boy is a part of his new brother's life. Let him help you when you bathe him or change his diapers. Your little guy can get you the towel or diaper. Don't stop him from holding his brother. Allow them to bond and get to know each other. Always remember that your first-born is still a baby himself and needs your undivided attention too! Good Luck!
YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!
i am 34weeks pregnant and i have a 2 1/2 yr old daughter. i asked my DR. about it and he said its best to give yur toddler the attention he/she is used to getting. the newborn is too little to understand if he is the center of attention or not but your toddler will. Ask him to help you take care of his little bro/sis-make him feel like he is an important part of his siblings life.
My kids are 13 months apart. My daughter is now 19 months and my son is 6 months. My daughter was jelous at first, thats a very natural and acceptable response to a new baby but now, she hugs him, kisses him and plays with him all the time. They will grow up to be the best of friends and understand eachother on a level that no one else could. I wouldn't worry, once your son has his time to be jelous, everything will be fine. You'll just have to br prepared to give lots of extra hugs and kisses. Also, it might sound silly, but for the last few weeks of my pregnancy, i carried around a doll... my daughter liked the doll and would cuddle up with it... just like she cuddles up with her baby brother now. Good Luck, I Hope Everything Works Out for the Best..
Have a safe delivery and all the best for a happy and healthy newborn...congratulations
My kids are almost exactly two years apart, and I worried about this, too.
Turns out that my older girl was entranced with the baby. And we gave her every opportunity to help take care of her sister.
I still focused a lot of my attention on the older child, reading to her or sitting with her while she drew pictures or watched moves and I nursed the little one. My husband and I both made big efforts to spend at least a little one on one time with her every week.
And you know, I ended up worrying that our second child wasn't getting any attention. But my mother, who had four kids, pointed out that even though *I* couldn't give the little one my undivided attention, she was still getting plenty--from her big sister. And that most of what the older child was doing would be modeled from what the older child and I had done.
Mom was right. (She almost always is, isn't she?)
And now, at 3.5 and 1.5, my kids are good buddies. And we've figured out, slowly, how to give each of them what they need.
You will, too.
DONT WORRY MY KIDS ARE 1 1/2 YRS. APART AND FIRST WHEN MY DAUGHTER WAS BORN AND MY SON WAS A LITTLE JEALOUS FIRST AND I TALKED TO MY DOCTOR ON HOW IT WOULD WORK OK WITH MY SON, SO WHEN YOUR BABY ITS BORN MAKE YOUR OLDER SON HELP YOU LIKE WHEN YOU CHANGE YOUR BABY DIAPER MAKE BRING IT OR SOMETHING LIKE THAT. THATS WHAT I DID KNOW THEY PLAY TOGETHER AND SOMETIMES FIGHT BUT THAT BROTHER AND SISTER LOVE. WELL I HOPE MY ADVISE HELPS YOU. AND GOOD LUCK ON YOUR NEWBORN.
My first and second are 22 months apart. When I found out I was pregnant when my daughter was 15 months old I cried my eyes out! I thought she would feel so neglected. She was just the opposite! She was so happy to be a big sister! Always make them feel extra involved. Tell them they are going to be your special helpers with the new baby and make them feel like you have specail duties for them. Children love to help and feel needed. Also make special time and projects for your son while the other one is sleeping. If you notice a jealousy thing it is natural but will eventaully go away with your extra attention and effort. Good luck.
He should be ok, especially when he gets to help take care of the baby, he'll feel like such a big boy and so important. Also it wouldn't hurt to schedule in some time for just your son and you or just him and dad.
I guess the lil guy is gona have to adjust, it probably will not be the easiest thing in the world, but there are lots of sibling that close to gether or closer. I would reccomend accepting all the extra help that is offered, and take the opportunity to spend time with the boy. Also, try getting him a baby doll, and talk about having a baby and how to treat a baby, so when mom all of a sudden shows up with a baby, it will not be a complete shock.
Hi. I have an 18 month old daughter and a 2 month old son. I also had your worries when I was pregnant with my son. Things turned out really well for me. I don't have the problem of my daughter being jealous of my son. She loves him to death. I think one of the main reasons for that is that I let her help out with the baby. She loves talking to him, she tries to play with him, she likes helping feed and change the baby and she likes to sit and hold him. Allowing these kinds of things to happen lets you spend time with both children. And of course, you have to give the oldest some alone time with you sometimes too. But you can't expect them to have exactly the same amount of time with you but things will still work out fine. I wish you luck. It's definately a hand full but it's also a lot of fun. :)
well i'm nearly 13 and my lil bro is like two months old...i guess it's a question of maturity, ask him to help with the baby stuff (not really, but just to make him feel included since he's only 2) and like praise him a lot just for handing you a diaper or something so he'll feel like really special
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