My nephew was just born and turned out to be a retard. Do I say "sorry" to my brother? Or say congrats?
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People are not diagnosed with mental retardation until after the age of 3. It is called a developmental delay up until that time.
Your question is really rude and offensive to those who have children with special needs. If you really have a nephew who was born with problems you just tell your brother congratulations on the baby, because he will bring joy to their family.
I think it is really insensitive to say the word 'retard' towards your nephew, or towards anyone for that matter. Get a life!
Frankly, if you are going to use the word "retard" in that manner,ever, I think you ought to just keep your mouth shut!
I would say it depends on the reaction of your brother.
If he is just thrilled to have a child, definately congradulate him.
If he seems overly bothered by this then you should share his grief.
WHY DON'T YOU SAY HE IS BEAUTIFUL, AND YOU ARE BLESSED.
of course you say congrats!!! give him some positive words that is a difficult thing to deal with. But those are some of the most special people out there and they are probably the most close to God just remind him of that. good luck and happy holidays to you.
first of all...dont call your nephew a retard..that isnt nice he is your nephew...and you tell your brother congrats because that is his son...no matter what may be wrong with him...he will love him for who he is.so should you
If it's that awkward for you, it's probably better you don't say anything and come off as either insensitive or patronizing.
You say congratulations, I have a sister who is retarded and she is no differant than us I cannot believe you would ask such a question!!
He is a baby just like everybody else. What would you want someone to say to you if it was your case?
congradulations!!! It is still a baby, a human. any child is a blessing. even the ones that we think are not the way we think they should be. who says that babys not perfect? Its hard i know, but that baby is a blessing and will bring joy.
Say GodBless
you should say sorry and ask him if you can dispose of it for him.
First of all theres nicer ways of calling him, next you should always congrats him, he will always be your nephew
the word retard is harsh especially when using towards an innocent baby. don't ever be "sorry" when a baby is born rejoice knowing that your family has been blessed with a baby. whether the child has problems or not.
You're a jerk! All babies are a gift. And I can't believe you called your nephew a "retard". What is wrong with you?
Say Conrads to your brother and so sorry that your new nephew has an @sshole for a uncle.
WOW! I agree i think you are kind of a sh*thead..
SAY CONGRATS!!!!!!
Be their for him when he needs you the most..
That baby is still a person, stop using that term to describe him/her. Tell your brother congratulations and be proud that you are a uncle. Everybody in the world can't be perfect, that means you and me.
Tell him congrats because retarded children are much much much more sweet than normal kids...they aren't greedy they don't care what they get or how their life is...it's just nice and even if they aren't as smart as all of the other kids and take more money and time and effort in my opinion it would be worth it.
First, please change the way you speak of the baby. The baby may have been born with a syndrome that usually includes mental retardation. The baby may have other problems too. PLEASE offer support to your brother and the baby's mom. This baby is a precious life that may be a real blessing to them as well as a stress. Help them love him, point out his positve features (cute, pretty eyes, etc.) Ask specifically what the doctor said, or speak to the doctor yourself (with the parent's permission). I spent 30 years as an R. N. in hospital nurseries and have seen how difficult this time is for parents. You are the baby's aunt...be the kindest, most loving, accepting aunt you can possibly be. I hope the baby does well and is a blessing to all your lives.
For just once I wish somebody as stupid as yourself would E-mail me back so I could give you an address where we could meet at so I could BEAT U into a PERMANENT state of retardation !PLEASE meet me Mr. BIG BRAVE MAN, hiding behind your little keyboard !
HOw can you be so insensitive and uncaring! you should say congratulations and the go ask many many bunches of forgiveness for thinking such a thing about your family member! that term is extremly offensive! you should be ashamed! Grow up you should feel pride that you have a nephew!
So that would be the second retard in the family including yourself. There may be a pattern.
A baby is a baby. A baby is to be celebrated, no matter what problems the child has, it's a new life.
EDUCATE yourself on your nephew's condition. Find out whatever you can in order to help raise this child. You might be amazed with yourself, too!!
how would feel if your baby is born like that. think about what you just said. i wouldn't you around the baby is that how you feel about the baby
As a mother of a severely brain damaged child I have 2 bits of advice for you.
1. Dont say "retarded" its out dated, its usually used now a days as an insult. I hate that words. Most disabled people hate that word. Say brain damaged, disabled, special needs etc.
2. Say Congrats! Your nephew is here, despite his problems he is still your nephew and he is still your brothers son. Do not treat him diffrently than you would any other nephew, deep down he is just the same.
Please try to be there for your brother as well, its very hard raising a child with such challenges.
You are so mean that is wrong what you just said.
that is just plain mean to say about your nephew, you should be happy about having a nephew and so what if he turns out retarded he still human, he has a heart, he has feelings, he touches,he smells,he cries whenever he feels bad.
Say congrats. He has a son.
Change your vocabulary. The child is developmentally disabled. Your son has a long, heartbreaking road ahead. He also has the gift of all the joys a child brings.
The child has every opportunity to grow into an adult who can function at his maximum level independently, even if he lives in a group home eventually. Be the loving sibling. Love your nephew. He is a gift.
no do not say sorry to your brother because you are going to love that kid as if he were normal because all kids should be loved the same no matter what babies bring us
By all means congrats. Down's syndrome kids are affectionate and a joy to have around. I spent 7 years working with Autistic kids and the rewards are huge. It's like everything, the more you put in the more you get out.
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