I am remarried and i have a child her maker wants no part in her life. how do i tell her?
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Oh my god!! Some of your responses are way out there and I pray that you use common sense.
a) How old is your daughter
b) How involved is your current husband
c) How old was your daughter when you married your current husband.
d) When was the last time your daughters biological parent saw her?
e) Does your current husband consider your daughter his daughter?
Do you see where I am going with this? First, if your daughter isn't asking, then don't tell. If she is asking, keep it brief. Don't lie, but explain to her that sometimes one parent isn't as involved as another. There are so many unanswered questions here, that to make a decision based on only your question, is impossible. If your husband is actively involved in your daughter's life (feeds, kisses her boo-boos, goes to her ballet recitals), that's her real father. A small fish doesn't make a parent. It's supplies DNA for another human being. Raising a child (with or without assistance) isn't about money...it's about what you're doing every day. Putting her concerns first, worrying about her development and emotional well-being and deciding what's in the best interest of your daughter. Base your answers on her questions. Don't put down her BF (biological father). Don't use your hate of her "maker" to make your point. Use facts on what parenting is and what your husband does. As she gets older, she'll understand what a true parent is, and be a better one because of it.
Good luck.
if she asks, be honest (but nice about it). if she doesn't don't worry about it.
if you're saying her mother wants nothing to do with her then just don't say a thing the child will figure it out eventually and when she does and is older you can talk to her about it then
be honest and remember her age? because as she gets older she may want to confront this person personally.
make him pay child support... b/c he help made it... and u tell her the truth.. and tell her u wish u could have had her but with another man... b.c thatz not right that he will have sex and make a baby then he dont wanna take care of it... i will go to court for child support... even if i dont need the money
I wouldnt say anything unless she would ask! If she does ask just tell her the truth but if she doesnt just let her find out on her own!
i Would not tell her untill she was older and asks you and if she asks tell her that your father the one you married loves you more than anything and her other dady ddoes not want to see her and take i from there.
I would tell her when the time is right, you don't want to scar her with being unwanted before she can handle it. My mom told me I was adopted when I was 15 she felt like I was ready to find out my parents didn't want me. I understood even though it hurt reall bad. Now that I am 22, I have a great relationship with my biological parents.
Don't tell her. She'll realize on her own that he isn't interested. Don't do anything to make her feel she isn't wanted by someone.
It will only hurt her and it isn't necessary.
Well first of all wait until the child is old enough to understand this .Lets say at least 14 years old anything younger then that will cause to much emotional stress on the child. If you wait until she is older her maker may want to see the child and therefore you won't need to ever have the conversation with your daughter. We need to protect our children from being hurt and if your ex doesn't want anything to do with your daughter then it's there loss not hers. But definitely wait until she is older you won't be sorry ..I promise.
there's no real way to tell her that her mother/father doesn't care so all you can do is wait but not to late to tell her just try to make sure she knows even though he/she doesn't care you still do and that she is loved
I find your terminology interesting. One usually refers to the father of a child as the father or something along those lines, not the "maker". Don't you feel that you have a part in your child's life? Do you reject her?
I feel badly for your daughter. It seems as if neither one of her parents care about her. That will mark her for the rest of her life through no fault of her own.
Maybe if you can't find maternal love and compassion for your daughter you might think about giving her up to someone that can and will love her.
What a shame. Please learn about and practice birth control so that you do not bring another unwanted child into the world.
i was in the same situation and what I did was just waited for her to ask and then i was honest with her but in a way that would not make her blame herself.
You don't depending on the age. If she's older you tell her the truth that her dad is a scumbag and left both of you, never exclude yourself because that is why he doesn't want to be in her life, he is mad at you. If she is to young then your new man can be the dad.
You should tell her. If she finds out another way she will be very upset and probably even mad at you. You should at least make the maker of her pay child support, if he doesn't already. If he wont take him to court. This is a serious issue and he should be apart of her life.
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