Is this considered to be thoughtless?
Answers: No. It take a strong person to be capable of handle it. I'm within this situation or maybe worse, married. It's absolutely been difficult or a roller coaster. I've be on here asking for advice, usually when I'm at my wit's pause or it just feel like it. One item though sometimes you can't help who you decline for. I love my husband very much. In time, I am loving his kids more and more. I reason they are adjusting better to me. We have a great weekend and a great Christmas together. It wasn't perfect but it feel like it's getting your strength back. But it is not for the faint of heart. If you find yourself contained by this situation then do anything you can to read and talk to other women who are within the situation already. But if you can avoid it then do. You're enthusiasm will surely be easier.
If you know you're not ready to hold kids, then it's not unkind. It's probably a smarter move for you & the kids.
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