1 or 2 Kids?
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What do you value more? Possessions and opportunities or the love of a family who will always be there for you?
As an only child who had everything (and then some), I'd say give her a sibling instead. She'll be much better adjusted and she'll have someone who will stand beside her the rest of her life, even once you and her dad are gone.
Every child needs a sibling. Life is very boring with out one. I am very close to my brother that is 2.5 years younger than me. I couldnt emagine life with out him. Only childs are very demanding and will always ask YOU to play with them when no one else is around. With a sibling you can go to amusement parks and not have to worrie about who will ride on the ride with your daughter. Holidays are more fun too, cause the kids syke each other out. Again, if your asking for opinions, mine is more than 1 kid! good luck!
BELIEVE ME; I WAS AN ONLY CHILD MY WHOLE LIFE.PLUS MY DAD LEFT SO ALL I HAD WAS MY MOM..I WOULD SPEND HOURS CRYING BECAUSE I DIDDNT HAVE ANYBODY TO PLAY WITH.AND I ALWAYS FELT LONLEY.
I have the exact same question! I wish I could tell you the answer. I have a 20 month old and we are talking about maybe giving her a sibling. We would be able to spoil her more at Christmas time and pay for more of her college if she was an only child but at the same time, she'll never have nieces or nephews to spoil and her children won't have any first cousins (on our side anyway). I say, go for it, give her a little bro or sis! Good luck!
your ?
no one can decide for you how many kids you can have
the decision depend on you
I always prefer 2 or 3 than 1 again that is me
I still travel as a matter of fact more than most people do
3 vac a year we still go to France, we have been to all the Island
now we are in ST Barth (home school)
the point is I have friend that use the same excuse for having 1 child yet they never gone nowhere the child have a lot of toys
and rotten , demanding
so make your pick
I think the answer is simple : Do not have another child unless YOU want one. You obviously don't seem to at the moment and this may in time change as your youngest begins to grow a little.
Don't be told how to live your life by other well meaning people.
YOU will both know whether to have another child or not.
Hope this helps
I had one and stopped at one.. in this world one is plenty.. the United Nations is warning us that human overpopulation is our number one threat to continued human existance as everone of us creates a burden on the planet and resources.. babies dont replace the parents if they parents are still alive...
anyhow one is best because you can focus your time and energy on that one.. they know they are loved (kids with brothers and sisters often worry about not being the favorite.. or not being loved)
you dont want one child with "everything" you dont want to create a spoilt brat but you can afford College, braces etc.. stuff that with 2 kids would be tougher.. plus TIME.. with one you have more time.. you can get play groups so she will have play mates..
the reason why most people say to have more kids is because they behaving like people who smoke who encourage others to smoke - because they dont want to be the only ones in the position they are in, and think that if you do it too.. then you wont be saying stuff to them like how good it is to only have one kid - I am not explaining this right.. but people who often do things they secretly regret.. often try to get others to do the same thing probably unconciosly or how ever you spell it
I wish I had an answer for you.
My son will be 3 in 2 weeks. I want another child so he has a sibling. However, I'm concerned I may not be able to have another one due to my fight with Hodgkin's lymphoma a last year. My husband and I are now weighing the risks of having another or even trying to have another baby. We don't want to adopt
My sister and I are 4 years apart. Up until we had kids, we were the best of friends. I can't imagine my life without her.
Now my husband and his brother don't speak & only see each other on the holidays (maybe).
My kids would be lost without their siblings. But each child is different. Wait at least a year b4 you decide, don't want them so close. You can save up more, plan better.
I have 2 boys and they play well together and they fight well together too. 1 child is good sometimes. Having 2 kids is good too, then they have each other to play with. As far as the cost part. I don't think it costs that much more. If you don't have high demands on certain items for your children. I have 2 boys, I just saved all the clothes from my first child and passed them down. Good Luck! Kids are the best no matter how many you have!
HAVE ANOTHER CHILD. It's hard being the only child. It's also hard being a sibling too, chuckel.
I think 2 kids are lovely, it is not fair for your child to grow up alone, a sister or brother is very important in our lives
My belief is you should continue the generation or family name by having one child for each parent, so therefore 2 children. No more, no less. More children increases the population, and less weakens the chances of the family name to be carried on...
i have 3 daughters 14,13, and 3. yeah sometimes the 2 oldest get on each others nerves, but they are always there for each other, even the youngest. vacations are still done, holidays are the funnest! oldest and youngest have b-days on x-mas holidays. you learn to do all your holiday shopping all year round and try to find the best hiding spots. i was an only child for 9 years, and i was so glad to have a lil sis. i just wish she would of come sooner. life was not boring after that..good luck.
My husband and I had five babies practically all in a row. We have led a nomadic type of lifestyle in rural Alaska, travelling and living our lives naturally by subsistance. We also travelled the Alaska-Canada highway with our children with no problems. We traveled the whole length of the Yukon river throughout interior Alaska with our children and they have been tremendously blessed educationally, economically, spiritually and we have a very close family bond. The number is not important in how many children to have, each child is a priceless gift from our Creator and it is our values we instill in our family that supercedes any other issue. Believe me, we were a poor family financial wise but a rich famly when it comes to the spiritual values we all lived through and carry on as precious memories today.
1 there are so many upside to just one.a)she gets all the attention
b)she doesn't have to share her toys and gets more stuff
c)You get to have more of a life than you would with 2
d)You and your kid will relate to each other better.
Giving you child a sibling is priceless for countless reasons and you want your child to have that special bond with that sibling.
she needs a sibling,if shes going to be the only one,she'll be one spoiled kid.
Obviously you and your husband need to do what is right for you both but I would definitely suggest having another child. I am a mom of five children and I also come from a big family, there is never a dull moment.
Perhaps if you wait until she is two or three to have the second child, she can have all the attention a toddler needs. I often think all my kids are too close in age.
There is a lot to be said for growing up with siblings, she will ove the company of nothing else. Best of luck to you both.
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