4 year old boy - normal or lazy?
He won't put on/take off shoes/clothes. He's still in night-time pants as cannot be bothered to use the potty next to his bed or the toilet. He could be watching tv and even if he needs the toilet he'll hold on and slightly wet his pants. He takes ages to eat breakfast, get in/out the car. If he was an only child fine but he isn't! He can do all these things.
I am no way expecting him to dress himself fully etc but just a tiny show of effort to do something would be welcome.
Of course he's gorgeous, but he takes all the time in the world! Any advice or is this just lazy boys?
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lazy boys!!I have a four year old boy and he was the same(and still is sometimes)sometimes he is very help full and other time he wont get himself dressed with a fight.he is also a very slow eater,and keeps getting down from the table and messing about,no matter how i shout ,he still does it every night.I live in hope that he will get better!
Normal, he's just not a morning person that's all.
He is only 4 for crying out loud! The poor little chap, give him a chance, he sounds like a little angel. Much better than having a hyper-active 4 year old then you would be stressed!
It is possibly laziness but at the same time, he does it because he can. You allow him to continue to get away with this type of behavior. If the television prevents him from going to the bathroom, then do not allow him to watch it. Take things away from him that matter. He will learn. You have to show him who is in charge or he will continue to control you and make your days hectic.
He's exercising his right to lazy mornings, it's practise for when he becomes a man!!
I think you've let him be lazy. My 5 year old grandson does lots for himself, he is very independant and wants to do things for himself. Its all according to how you have treated him. If you've let him get away with doing things so far, then you can't expect him to start now just because you want him to. They have to be taught how to do things for themselves.
hi my eldest child was exactley the same, he'd let you dress him, feed him in fact do everything for him. he's still quite reluctant to do a lot for himself. just try and make things fun try telling him you'll time him to see if he's faster than all the other children you know. failing that just refuse to do little things for him till he helps you.
kids eh, why do we have em lol
LOL,you are his teacher,kids take after the parents,No hes not lazy just a kid,he has his own little personality,someday you will look back on this and laugh.
i think that you need to give him encouragement make him understand that he is a big boy and has to do some things give his some things to do for others this will make his realise that he is mummy's/ daddy little helper if he only doses small thing still praise him reward some thing small like stickers they always work for things he does but remember that he is four it easy to forget how young they are when they act like teenagers
Sounds like all 3 of my boys. They are still like that sometimes(taking forever getting in and out of the car and stuff like that. THey are slow) Mine are 3, 7 and 9. THe 7 year old is the worst. Its normal I think.
What about trying a task and award chart? Only work on one item at a time such as finishing breakfast on time and promise a small treat, such as a comic or seeing a favourite TV programme if he manages it three times in a row. Once one task is consistent, work on the next. Do not try to work on more than one thing at once as a four year old's concentration is limited and you will just get frustrated.
my son would always turn the tv on in the morning before school and then you couldnt get him to do anything,now he must be washed, dressed,breakfast,teeth then if there is time left he can watch a bit of tv, same after school...amazing how quickly he does things now! Toilet thing is more than likely laziness, no treats if he wets, if you still not sure go see health visitor at doctors,they will give you advice.Good luck.
4 year olds are not inclined to help around the house so I don't think he's lazy.
However, he should be able to go to the toilet by now and should be gently discouraged from using the potty and waiting until it's too late to reach the toilet. (lot's of children do this)
limit his TV time and encourage him to take toilet breaks, if goes to the loo praise him, don't reward him as he may revert back too wetting if the rewards stop, praise costs nothing and means everything.
Remember all your children will have their own little personalities, don't expect them to develop at the same rate or behave in the same way. Good luck
I have a four year old boy. I hate to ask but are you giving him enough attention? My son was doing the same thing. With him it ended up being that he needed attention. My sons father and I were going through a lot and my son was trying to cause any and all destractions to keep us from fighting and what not. We ended up spliting up and you should see the change in him. I've had no issues with him waking up motivated and helping me with little things. Regardless try rewarding him for small things see if it helps. Good luck
well kids will be lazy and also see what they can get away with.He should be dressing his self lay his cloths out if you must and get him up 10 15 minutes before the normal time you get him up,they have those Dog alarm clocks that bark to wake the child up we have one it is cool.He should not have a potty next to his bed he is 4 he can walk to the bathroom just remind him like on a comercial to go use the bathroom,my kids watch tv but not a whole bunch my son like to play his play station 2.you need to tell him he is a big boy I know he is only 4 but just remhind him he a baby anymore,in moms eyes yes he will always be.
Could be a little laziness a little attention seeking or a slight lack of attention. Also without you realising his older sisters when he was younger would've done alot for him which he probably has got used to. despite all that remember he's a little man in the making need i say anymore?? lol
Try reward chart and stickers that works well.
My son is exactly the same. He is nearly 4. When he first started learning how to do stuff he was briliant, but in the last 6 months he has got so lazy. He won't get dressed or undressed, if he could, he would get me to feed him!! A lot of mums I have talked to with kids the same age are going through exactly the same thing-boys and girls. I think we have to try and be patient with them and encourage them to do stuff on their own but do it for them if they get too stressed. I'm sure they will grow out of it but at the moment life is too short to get stressed with them!( and things get done quicker)!
this behaviour is perfectly normal when going to school. regression is perfectly normal stage of development particularly when there are changes, i.e starting school/new siblings/ new house, etc.
try and ignore the bad behaviour but praise him whilst he is doing his tasks and have physical rewards, i.e visual charts, treats, stickers, etc. counter challenge his behaviour by setting games like "lets see if you can put your shoes on before i count to 10" so he's doing what you want but by him thinking its a game he may show a different response.
My son is 6 years old, and even now he is a pain where most of this is concerned...
He takes ages to get in and out of the car, he faffs with everything, you have to tell him 20 times to do the slightest things, he regularly has toilet accidents because he waited too long... I think your son is just normal, you see a difference from your other kids because they are girls! :) Oh apart from the potty training, he really should be out of night time pants by now, although our son is very lazy, he stopped wearing night time pants when he was 3... Hope this helps :)
some kids r jus slower than others dont make him feel like he is being naughty as this will just make him not want to tell u anythin it really does,nt have anything to do with boy or girl my son has jus turned 4 he,s not wet bed in 6 months he can be slow getting dressed but i think he jus rather i do it it what we get used to in life we start expecting does he still tke dummy my son was terrible 4 his dummy now wen he wont act like a big boy he gets told the dummy n the bib r comin back out oh he really does,nt like that .ood luck
my son went like this but it was only when tv was on, not that he watched loads of it just when it was on he wouldnt move hed pee himself cos he wouldnt go to loo hed get up to go dance about in one place for a bit then next thing hed shout mam im wet, he doesnt get tv at all now only as a treat and still when he does get it he wont move (he does go to the loo now tho
hes normal, just dont shout at him cos that will make him worse.
yep mine's mostly the same!! I don't think he is lazy just gets easily distracked into putting all thought into other more interesting things!! It took mine 40 minutes to eat half a happy meal the other day! It drives me INSANE but there's not much I can do. Try to get him to do the task you have set without any possible distractions, then if you think he has done well you can reward him. I know you would like him to be doing these things without a reward but it may just help you out if there's an incentive. My son has been dry (night & day) for ages, so imagine my shock when he wet himself whilst playing Nintendo DS, his excuse was "I didn't want to get killed on Mario"! Where is the logic I ask?
all boys are lazy!
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