Any idea (for all mothers)?
Answer:
It is hard not to get angry every time this happens, but what I do (I have 2 kids with behavior disorders) is:
1) If this happens in the house, walk away and ignore them until the behavior stops. They are trying to get their way and if you pay attention to it, tantrums work and the behavior will continue.
2) If it happens in a store or public place, pick them up and leave. Put them in the car and go home. Explain to them why you leaving, and why you will not return to the store if this behavior continues.
I know it sounds like YOU are being punished becuase you cannot continue shopping, but a few times of leaving abruptly and going home should help.
Take a deep breath, deal with it as an adult, and know you are doing the right thing. Just think--by doing it now, you wont have to deal with this behavior much longer and you can enjoy all the special moment that make you a mom!
All children do this, I ignore the behavior & my daughter stops. She just wants my attentions & hopes I will cave & give in.
Thats so normal. Its only a phase! They will grow out of it. Just dont give in. They get the point. I always just left them and let them get it out of their system. I didnt care really... its a normal phase most kids go through.
I did that as a child. I would also hold my breath until I would pass out. My pediatrician advised my mom to just leave me alone and let me cry it out and if I passed out not to worry about it, I'd be fine. My mom said it was frustrating and luckily my son hasn't done that (then again he's only 10 months old) but perhaps, if your child isn't in danger of hurting him or herself walk out of the room and give yourself a little break and just let them cry it out. I know some parents think that technique is cruel.but it honestly seems to work. Just 5 minutes or so.and keep checking in to make sure he/she is ok.
That is the child's job...to push our buttons and see how far they can get. The important thing is to not give in to their behavior or let them see that they are getting to you. If you react, chances are they will keep at it! Remember, it is just a phase, one of many that they will grow out of!
I agree that u just need to walk away and let them get it out. If you give in, they will just learn that they get what they want that way.
If you are in the store and this happens, you may need to pick them up and take them to the car until they are done. Dont smack your child in public or yell at them. Take them out to the car and let them get over it.
Good Luck sweetie! My daughter has not done this yet, but she is 2 and i know its probably coming!!
it depends on how old ur child is. if ur child is very little u shud pretend like the child is not having a tantrum. pretend like u don't care and whatever u do don't get angry and yell at the child. if the child is 7 and up then do the same but tell them ur disappointed at them. make sure to say disappointed and noy angry.
Well...one thing you can do is walk away...they'll stop when they see you are not responding to it!! It might take a few times..but they'll get the hint!! After they have pulled them self together take him/her aside and let them know (calmly)...that the way they behaved is UNACCEPTABLE.also let them know IT IS okay for them to feel angry or frustrated but it's not okay to throw fits like that! Be sure to give them a few examples of how they CAN express their anger or frustration! Even if they are little (1- 3 yrs). They need to be taught how to control their impulses.
You will feel angry..but keep in mind you are an adult and they will behave the same way you do.if you handle their fits with a sense of calmness and verbal expression...they will eventually mirror you!!
I know it's hard but keep trying!
My daughter threw a tantrum on the dining room floor when she was one. The floor was ceramic tile. I just looked at her and said very calmly, "You must be very uncomfortable in that spot." She stopped long enough to move to the carpet. This was very humorous and so we started to laugh. She stopped because she saw that it going to do her no good.
When my kids tried this (and yes, they both did) I just laughed and said they can feel free to pitch a fit on their own. I would be in the living room ready to talk when they were done. I walked out and waited in the living room for them to be done with the fit. I think my daughter tried this a few times, so then I sent her to her room to finish the fit. Adding that I could only hear her when she talked in a big girl voice.
I never had to leave a basket full of food in the store, but I was willing to do so. My friend had to leave the store a few times before her daughter quit throwing fits. She also, had to leave her home when she went shopping as a consequence ("I only take kids to the store who know how to act").
My son, the oldest, 2 , has Been doing that for about 2 weeks straight now. He goes through these uncontrollable fits that sometimes late an hour or so. He gets completely out of control rolling around on the floor, screaming bloody murder, and literally foaming at the mouth. I haven't found a very effective way to deal with these fits during them, but I have found a way to avoid them without giving in to them!
I tried ignoring him, Didn't help
I tried putting him in time out, Didn't help.
Spankings and talks just made it worse!
The only thing that has helped at all is when he's not throwing a fit is to praise each and every little thing that he does that is good. "good, boy, sharing!" Good boy, eating dinner!" "Thank you so much for bringing me that!"
Then I had to start letting him "help" me more. He loves doing little tasks for me.
Your child could be more advanced then his age and need to be challenged. Maybe he's board? Smart little kids need more of your attention and more new things to do.
That has cured my son. Hope it works for you too!
P.S. It took my son about 2 days to mellow out after doing this so give it a little time!
And dads! Let them cry and get it out of there system ! Just place them some where safe and let them have at it . oh it is not easy especially for dad but it has to be done. I would give Baby B anything she wanted till I started seeing and her mom telling me the affects it has on a Baby when you give in to every demand.. And one should never get angry its all a roll o coaster ride . our future!!
It isn't easy. Distance yourself from the child. Leave the room or put her in a safe place (like her crib or room) and leave her alone. If you are out as I often am when I don't get what she wants and she has a fit. Say goodbye and walk away. She will follow shortly. Usually very upset about it. Basically you just have to deal the best you can until she outgrows it. Some do so sooner than others. Good luck
So long as you're at home, walk away from the child. If you're not at home, it can be difficult to calm the child down. Just try to kneel down to their level and talk quietly. They say that the quieter you are, the less chance of the child screaming will continue. If you yell and spank (it's temping! been there, done that!) it will not quiet the child down.
Just let them do it. If they do not get any reaction from it they will stop doing it. Unfortunately this will do nothing for your nerves. If it gets too bad, make them throw their temper tantrum in their room, or a room designated to wear the noise will be less stressful for you, but the result will be the same. The child will not get the result they are searching for and they will stop eventually. Be consistent, and don't let them wear you down, otherwise you will have to sart all over again.
just dont dont say or do ne thing if she gets a reaction she mite think its funny or some thing andif u dont react to it she/he will get ova it and stop doing it
Several ways I deal with those kinds of trantrums:
(a) If they're in a store, I pick em up and march out of there. Otherwises I'll -
(b) Ignore them. They get bored and do something else
(c) Get down on the floor and do one too. Good golly, sometimes its actually feels good.
(d) Rate the trantrum, give her a bow and a clapping ovation.
(e) Offer suggestions to make the trantrum better.
After all this, I also re-enforce her to use words to discuss how's she feeling.
All mothers have dealt with it. I say ignore it and don't give in. The child will learn that it doesn't work.
first off your child does this to get a negative reaction out of you, what you need to do is when the child does this turn your back and think of something funny do not chuckle out loud cause then it makes the child more mad then before they started the temper tantrum, then what you do is walk away with a grin on your face and your child does not see it, after a few weeks of doing this your child is gonna stop cause there not getting that attention they want from you, but remember when the tantrum is done and there playing make sure you notice the good behavouir and reward him/her by saying thank you for playing quietly, or so good, you should be proud of yourself, this way the childs tantrum will actually stop and the child will think instead of being bad and not getting attention and being good and getting alot of attention I think I will be good, but be consistent though.
Just ignore it! Once they notice they aren't going to get a reaction or get what they want they'll probably stop or at least do it less often. If you absolutely can't stand to listen to it, put them in a safe place (like a playpen, crib, their room)...and walk away until they stop. Depending on the age, sometimes telling them why you said no helps (if it was for a good reason).
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