Do you think my dads being totaly unfair?
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no he's just being your dad, i'm a mother and i'll be dammed if my child is going out with a 16 yr old at the age 13. You at the age you are can't see what your dad is trying to protect you from and you wont until your a mother yourself. he's only looking out for you and your safety. At 16 boys only want to see how far they can get with girls and then brag to there friends about it. So just listen to your dad and suck it up, dont be so quick to want to be fast.
i dont know. well your dad isnt fair who cares about 3 years difference for shi*t
Your dad is totaly unfair.
no, i think he's doing the right thing, 3 years age difference is alot at your age
I understand what you mean, i am 13 too, i am sure your dad is just being protective of you he prob just doenst want you" to make the wrong choices " haha yeah its very unfair but try not to think he is doing to make you mad, even tho it totally sucks well goodluck with that one=)
You're only 13, that is WAY too young to be going to the movies with a guy 3 years older than yourself. When you are 15 he will be 18, he will be an adult and you will still be a child and him dating you would be against the law. It is called "contributing to the delinquency of a minor" and if you were to have sex that would be called statutory rape and he could go to prison. I suggest you listen to your father and stop being a spoiled whiny brat.
well the only reason you posted this is to make people have some sympathy for you and agree with you, i agree completly with your dad he was a teen and he knows that when he was that age he wanted sex like most boys. sit down and talk with him very calmly and ask him why you cant you do certian things with your bf. did you do something to make your dad think you were untrustful, ps never say you hate your dad i said that one time that i can remeber im 14 and my dad died ast year and i regret saying i hate him every day of my life
all of these things may show love but there may be a reason your dad doesnt trust your boyfriend
i think that is so unfair. Look at some parents these day, they're like 10 years apart and your dad in complaining about a sorry 3 years? Thats BS.
He may be unfair, but he's smart.
It's good that you hate your dad. This just means that he's being a caring, loving father and you are very lucky to have a father that is looking out for you. He loves you and he's trying to protect you from getting yourself into any trouble that could affect the rest of your life. Trust me on this one.
I remember when I was your age, I couldn't stand my dad because I thought he was too strict. Now, looking back, I think he wasn't strict enough because I sometimes got into stuff that I shouldn't. I feel very guilty for the way I treated my dad then and now he's in his 70's and I fear that he won't be with me much longer. I am thankful that he was there to protect me when I was too young and stupid to protect myself.
So, in short, just listen to your dad. He was your age once and he was also a 16-year-old boy. He knows how they are. Also, 13 is way too young to date a 16-year-old. Now if you were 22 and he was 25 -- that would be a different story.
Three years is a big difference at your age. I wouldn't let you do it either. You are too young to have ANY kind of serious relationship and he's too old for you. When you are older then three years isn't a big deal, but in your teens it is. You will understand later.
Your dad must seem really ,totally ,unfair to you right now. But he's doing what he thinks is best for you. We've all been 13 and gone through this with our parents, but try to understand your dads side. trust me when I say , as you get older, you will understand more and more why our folks told us we couldn't do certain things. I know it's not easy now, but it WILL get better. If your boyfriend is willing to wait, that's a good measure of his maturity, love , and respect for you.
I think it's horrible when kids say they hate their parents.
How well do you know your dad, really? How well does he know you? Look, your dad is the way he is for a reason. Why not take this opportunity to talk to him like an adult, and perhaps he'll be more willing to treat you like one. Sit down, calmly open discussion... "Hey Dad, I know I've screamed and yelled at you and said I think you're being totally unfair, but you're obviously older than me and must have a good, rational reason for not letting me go on dates. Can we talk about this?"
Well, it's just an idea. Remember this when you are 30-something and you won't let your 13-year-old daughter stay out late, alone, with a 16-year-old man who is essentially a complete stranger to you. I'm just saying, try to see it from his standpoint. Maybe he'd be willing to let you invite your BF over for dinner, so they can get to know each other, then maybe he'll be less paranoid?
He's is acting like a loving father who wants the best for his daughter. When you are older, three years isn't anything. But when you are 13, three years is a lot. I'm sure your boyfriend is a nice boy, but I don't care if he goes to church 3 times a week and sings in the choir, if he's 16 and male, all he thinks about is sex. Your dad used to be a boy that age and he knows. It's not your boyfriends fault, that's just the way boys that age are. And if you think you have the kind of love for each other that is the "Hundred Year" kind, that just goes to show you how immature you are. Trust your dad sweetie. A girl's daddy is the only man she can truly trust. Remember that for all your life.
You're too young...goodness me, I'm on your dad's side with this.
And it's not surprising that you are hating your father right now- you're 13.
Like it or not you are still his little girl and you will always be his little girl.
Be thankful you have the kind of Father that doesn't allow you to run around doing what ever you want and getting into trouble...he loves you and you should admire him for that.
Don't be so hateful towards your dad, he's acting in your best interest whether you think so or not.
As a non-parent (but hopefully a future-parent) and a former 13-yr-old girl, I can see both sides.
On the one hand, you feel that you're pretty grown up, you and your boyfriend have something pretty special, and you want to spend time with him. You don't see why Dad has to be such a jerk about the two of you spending time together- it's just a movie, you two can handle it.
On the other hand, your dad's been a 16-yr-old guy, and he has a pretty good idea what makes your boyfriend tick- he understand much better than you where your boyfriend is coming from, and what he's capable of (both good and bad). Chances are, Dad was a wild kid, and fears that your boyfriend is like he used to be, and he doesn't want you to be exposed to that kind of guy. Give your dad some credit- In his mind, he's doing what he thinks is best for you.
I personally would try to seek a compromise. See if Dad will let you and BF hang out together at your house, with Dad as chaperon. As unpleasant as it may seem to you, try inviting your parents on a date or two with you. Give your father an opportunity to get to know this new "man in your life" and make a more informed judgement regarding what kind of boy his little girl is spending time with.
Just remember that your dad loves you and wants you to be safe. You will always be his "little girl"... I know that's still how my dad feels, and I'm 31.. and married!!!
i posted to your dads question i think lol. but no he isnt being uunfair. its called jailbate (i kno hes only 16 but stil.) youre too young to b w a 16 r old and doing those things. just wait till u grow up
I don't think your dad is being unfair at all. I wouldn't allow my daughter to date period at 13.
13 & 16 is a huge age difference. When you are young that is a big gap. When you are both adults an age gap isn't a big deal, but now it is. I'm actually wondering why a 16 yr. old would even be interested in a 13 yr. old unless he just thinks you're an easy target. You may not agree but you are still a child. I wouldn't let you out of the house with a 16 yr. old either. I think you should stop and realize how lucky you are to have a dad that worries and cares about you. Not everyone is that fortunate.
3 years difference isn't so bad, but since you're 13, it's still a bit inappropriate. I would suggest waiting at least another year before dating him any more.
Your dad is right. You are trying to grow up too fast and you know nothing about 16 y/o boys. I work as a nurse on a maternity floor and I can tell you that young girls who date older boys often end up pregnant. Your screen name is also very inappropriate for a 13 y/o girl.
Your dad's got your best interests in mind. There are a lot of hormones raging at your age, and your bf's, so he's just trying to keep anything from happening in the moment. Maybe you can convince your dad to invite your bf over for a movie or something, and offer an opportunity for your dad and your bf to get to know each other so he won't be so leery of him.
yes i think that is totally unfair i"m 13 also and my bf is 14 but i mean stilll how many years older is ur dad then ur mom? probably more than three!
I am 45 and I can vividly remember being 13. I know how you feel and I know that you cannot imagine how much growing you have left to go.
I also know this: If your father let you date this guy, that would prove your father did not care about you. It would prove he didn't care if you focused on your education, on your own development. If would prove he didn't care if you got pregnant.
There is no way this can lead anywhere good. Your boyfriend has a strong sex drive, like all 16 year old boys and - unless he is gay and dating you for cover - he will be wanting sex from you soon. Well before you are ready for it.
Having sex creates attachment, strong attachment, leading girls to make very stupid decisions about their future.
At 13, you should not be dating anyone at all. You should be reading, writing, developing your self. YOU YOU YOU.
Your father loves you and cares about you and that's why he's doing this. It would be sooooo easy to give you your way, so easy not to suffer your abuse. You don't think it hurts your dad like crazy when you are mad at him? And yet, for you, for your future, he is willing to suffer this. Why don't you care as much about your future?
Stop dating and start doing something useful with your life so your not a sad, poor, ignorant single mom at 17. Go hug your dad and thank him for loving you.
The three-year-age-difference is of no consequence but being just 13 certainly is a problem.
I agree with "cassandra". Your father has the best interests at heart.
You're thirteen. You don't know what love is. Trust me, I thought I was "totally in love" when I was your age too.
And just so you know, guys will buy you anything and tell you they love you all the time to get you in bed with them.
Your dad is your dad, and he's just trying to look after you. You should have more respect for him, because some dads don't even care about their kids.
When you are older you will understand that NO MATTER what a guy buys you has NOTHING to do with the way he feels about you.
I had a guy buy me a car and all he wanted was what we could do it in.
If you were my daughter, he would not be your boyfriend. There is no reason for a 16 year old to be interested in a 13 year old. You're dad is protecting you because he knows what is best for you. And also, just because your bf bought you jewerly does not mean a thing.
When I was 13, I was too busy being with my friends being a KID to be worrying about a boyfriend. You're too young to be getting all caught up in this. Slow down a little bit. You have the rest of your life.
fyi.little boys don't "love" anything...they think about getting a girl to bed and that's it. There isn't anything else going on in their heads until they are in their 50's..be glad your dad cares, most don't!
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