What do you think about smacking children as a form of discipline?
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If it's on the bottom, like spanking then I'm all for it. If it's on the face then I have to say no.♥
its ok to hit them lightly when they are being naughty but NEVER beat them!! a little smack on the hand is fine.
I think it doesn't work and it teaches them nothing about what they did wrong.
do it!!
in my opinion it teaches children that it is ok to hit someone that does something you don;t like. I think we need to step back and try to figure out why the child is behaving the way he or she is and then fix the underlying problem.
Thats was back in the days method they dont use that no more they check the heart beat and everything. I think that was a bad method because some people dont want you to spank their child on the butt.
i don't believe in smacking its a rather violent form of punishment there are other ways such as the naughty step/corner to discipline children. in my opinion violence only causes more violence and that is not what children should be taught.
not in the face but a smack on the rear may be appropriate depending on what they do.
Disgusting and wrong, pretty soon the UK will join the rest of europe and an out right ban will be in place.
It doesn't matter what the popular vote is, smacking will be illegal soon.
As a form of punishment, everything in child development tells us it is wrong.
Whether it is bandura's studies on social learning theory, or the modern view of modelling, everything about using physical violence to make a point is wrong.
We know children understand more than we ever thought before, we also know how damaging it is to humiliate and hurt them.
Anyone who thinks hitting someone smaller than them to make their point know is seriously lacking in something.
The fact that a parent cant use reason and proper parenting techniques is disgraceful.
As a very last resort, and without anger, a quick, immediate slap works as a reprimand when all else has failed.
I completely agree with a smack,but not a thrashing.
The children today are not respectful at all,and it didnt do us any harm ,I dont agree that it breeds violence,no-one of my age is violent and we were all smacked.
Most of the violence these days is off the young ones who have no discipline whatsoever.
I think that there is a difference between smacking and disciplining. I have told my daughter no so many times, but sometime I have to slap her hand (only) to get her to stop. I feel it may be necessary with some children. In my family the threat of a spanking worked for most of us, for the others taking their toys away or grounding them worked best. For my daughter I may discipline her, but then I hug her and reassure her that I am not mad at her, but she needs to listen for her own good and safety. You are going to get some interesting comments on this. good luck with your paper.
Nothing wrong with it if it`s done at the time the child does something wrong. You can`t however `wait until you get home` then smack. The only place to smack is on the bottom or legs. I used to have a slipper hanging up for my 2 kids, but I only used it a couple of times on my daughter `cos she was a stubborn little mare at times. From then on she always stopped short of pushing me too far because she knew if I said I`d use it, she knew that I would. It`s called positive discipline. All this fannying about denying privileges, stopping pocket money, taking computers away as a punishment only makes the child have tantrums, and causes stress, and then the parent gives in. So what kind of message does that send? Smacking doesn`t do them any harm as long as it`s explained why they`ve been smacked.
I think it's unnecessary and counter-productive, possibly even in the most extreme circumstances, although where the child may damage themselves, a tap on the wrist for example may suffice.
If you hit a child for doing something wrong then your teaching them that its OK to hit someone if they do something wrong to them.
My wife and I spank our 2 1/2 year old son. Not all the time. Only when he does something dangerous that can hurt him or one of our pets or something like that. It's not about inflicting pain. It doesn't even leave a mark through his pants and training undies. It's more about the shock and fear factor that is getting acrossed. When he get jerked up and smacked on the bottom, it scares him more than anything else. I can honestly say that on the rare occasion he does get a smack on the bottom, it is very rare that he does that specific deed that he earned his smack from again.
Hi, I these days people dont smack children as much as they used to and look at the children of today no respect for no one.
I donr believe im smacking children as nowing when a parent is angry with you and shouts at you is enough, but these days most parents arent bothere by there childrens behaviour and let there children get on with it. But it doesnt teach there children as they forgive there children to quickly after what they have done.
I think a slight tap to let them now they have done wrong, but not a severe beating like the old days. Bottom smacking or hand smacking yes.
useful when needed
smacking yes, beating definitely not. You cannot reason with a young toddler to stop poking his fingers in the sockets or fire or anything else that may be hazardous to his or her health and safety. A smack on the botty and the child will remember, words tend to go in one ear and out the other when they're too young to understand.
im not a mother myself, but to be honest, if u smack a child, doesn't that teach them to do the same thing back to you? yh. however, a lot of mums and dads believe that it is their own kid, so they can dicipline them in anyway they like. i think its mean!
isn't it illegal anyway?
I think they know the answer already. They are merely sponsoring this assignment to get people's opinion which ultimately they hope to pass as the way to go and for all to accept.
Adults who "smack" their children show the mark of low intellect. It is much easier to give a quick slap then to be creative and engage with the awesome curiosity that children display. It is laziness on the part of the parents and very simply not wanting to be bothered with bettering themselves in order to rear more compassionate, loving, responsible adults for the future.
To adults who smack their children, there is no recourse to explain to a child why violence is wrong when the child grows older or begins displaying this behaviour to classmates or their peers.
It is ignorance personified, this practice and I personally, get a delight in the idea of a child reaching about 16 or 17 and giving the parent a good wollop.
Hey, it's discipline, remember?
Oh, and to the people who are marrying the decline of smacking with rebellious children. No logic in that, I'm afraid. Just because a sense of fear is instilled in a child, it doesn't mean they're going to suddenly respect their surroundings. Child delinquincy is rooted in adult delinquency. There isn't any evidence to show that the children who are unruly aren't being "smacked". In fact, there is a very real possibility that they are being struck and not disciplined by a logical, responsible adult.
Incidentally, your children do not respect you when you hit them or smack them - they just can't fight back because they're too small. Don't confuse yourselves.
Fear is NOT respect.
I like the answers that go along the lines "not to leave a mark" or "never on the face". That is the very logic adult abusers use to cover up their misdeeds.
It's time to grow up, people. Just because it happened to you and you came out just fine doesn't mean it is good for yours or any child. It is a dangerous and slippery slope.
Smack an undiagnosed high functioning autistic child and that child will grow up to do exactly what you've taught them. They will not understand that you can't go around hitting other adults. Is it worth the chance?
It is time to break the cycle.
Here's my observation. The majority of children I see today have absolutely no respect for anyone and are so bad-behaved it's craz Now, I'm not talking about every kid I see, I'm only saying the majority of children that I have seen around. I don't think parents are doing anything to discipline kids these days. It's like their kids walk all over them. I don't entirely agree with smacking kids. There's no point in smacking them if you're not informing them that what they did was unacceptable. My mother smacked my on the bum once and she only needed to do it once. She sat me down, told me why she was doing it and why my behaviour was unacceptable. It was pretty rough at the time, as you would imagine, but I respected her. I think though, that parents should find alternate methods of discipline that are effective. Smacking (which would be a light smack on the bottom or something) should only be used as a very last resort.
Smaking is on the decline. Punishment in schools has been abolished and child and teenage violence has increased dramatically, it's not rocket science is it folks?
A good smack on the bottom is an excellent form of discipline. It shows the child that the parent means business & won't tolerate being disobeyed. Too much "Nanny State" these days has let the kids walk all over the parents, & made their job harder. A "Naughty Step" is hardly the answer.
Yes, as long as the parent controls themselves and only when it's in an extreme situation. Kids do not respect their parents anymore and it shows them who is boss.If you discipline children early on, they won't back talk to you and start thinking that they have the authority in the relationship.
I can understand why some people don't want to do this to their children. But I'd really like to know what they do to keep their kids in check. Talking and grounding can only go so far.
I GREW UP BY SPANKINGS BEING A FORM OF DISCIPLINE. A CHILD DOES KNOW WHEN THEY DO SOMETHING WRONG! (AFTER A CERTAIN AGE OF COURSE, PROB AROUD 3-4) SO, IF YOU SPANK THEIR BUTTS OR SMACK THEIR HANDS~NEVER THEIR FACE~THEY WILL KNOW THAT THAT HAPPENED BC WHAT THEY DID WAS WRONG. AND AFTER A COUPLE OF TIMES (HOPEFULLY THE FIRST TIME) THEY WILL PUT 2 & 2 TOGETHER AND REALIZE "HEY IF I DO THIS IM GUNA GET A BEATING, AND I DONT LIKE THAT, SO IM NOT GOING TO DO THAT"... KNOW WHAT I MEAN? SO, WHEN NECESSARY, A SPANKING OR SMACK ON THE HAND IS JUST FINE. RASIE YOUR CHILDREN HOW YOU WANT TO, NOT HOW OTHERS WANT U TO!
I was smacked as a child and have grown up as a very level headed person with strong morals and views. I feel that smacking is not the only way to disapline a child but if the child is being violent then they need to learn that it hurts to hit people etc and I feel telling a child this doesnt get through as they dont understand the concept. (when I say smack I dont mean hard enough to leave a mark, just enough for a shock) Myself and my brother were smacked as children and I feel it was the best way for us to be disaplined (at the time I didnt) and we have never been in trouble and have nothing but respect for our parents. However, our younger brothers and sisters were not smacked and they will answer back to their mother and refuse to do anything they are told. (Other methods of disaplining have been tried with no avail ) I do give them a smack if they are doing this in my presance and they dont dare do it to me. I feel this proves smacking works. (Im 24, my brother is 22 and they are 11, 10, 6, 4 and 3.) The rule about smacking needs to be clearer as it can be abused by people being overly harsh. Also parents are to scared to smack now days because they are afraid of there children being taken away if the child tells anyone that they got smacked, even if it was lightly. generations before us were smacked and its never been so frowned upon as it is now, however our youth are the worst there has been for a very long time. makes you wonder why does'nt it?
Absolutely. In fact, I wish I could smack (as in spank on the bottom) other people's kids - especially when they are running, screaming, cursing and being disrespectful in public. Actually, some of the kids are such little brats, I want to smack their parents.
Nobody of course wants to smack their kids, but toddlers/children aren't always capable of proper reasoning (until they are older), as to why something is right or wrong.
For example, if a five year old runs out on a busy road, and is finding it funny to do to see you upset/angry, what can you possibly do? A good smack will make it clear they are doing something wrong, and in the long term they will learn that you will be punished for bad behaviour. If a smack changes their wrong doing (which it usually does as no-one, especially kids want to be smacked) and one day that saves their life, and that kid no longer runs out in roads, then wouldn't a smack have been worth it? I think so.
Of course there is a line between smacking and abuse, of which the large majority do not cross. For those that stay within that line, nobody should be able to interfere. If I have kids, whatever the law says, if they misbehave, they are going to get smacked. Not for every little thing mind you, smacking is a form of punishment reserved usually only for the more serious naughty behaviour, or repetitive bad behaviour of a lesser evil.
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