Teen daughter - good student - no discipline problems...?
IS THAT THE RIGHT CHOICE?
Do I let her "run away" from her problems? Or should she faces her fears?
Answer:
Your daughter did nothing wrong in this case (as you know) and it was right of you to check her e-mail in this instance. Threatening is a crime though. If you call the police, something will be done about these girls. This is not taken lightly in my town.
Although this will make them stop, I'm not sure it will help the problems at school. I would contact the police first, and then see how things go at school. If she's able to find a new group of friends and becomes happy once again, then no reason to change schools. If the harassing continues at school, no matter what, then I would consider changing schools. Teasing and taunting in HS can lead to permenant mental damage, and trust issues later in life.
I had that happen to me so I started homeschooling. I didn't consider it "running away" from problems, I considered it getting away from it so you don't have to put up with immature people like that and getting on with my life. I think you should let her switch schools. If not, school is going to be living hell for her.
well the last time i looked uttering threats what a criminal offence and should be taken to the police make sure these girls are aware that what they are doing is illigal and they could be charged
If the school is not willing to help you, I would consider letting her change schools. I would hate to see her get beat up (then of course the school would do something about it when it's too late) or her grades start slipping because of other students harassing her. Sadly some teenagers today take things way too far. I am sorry that this is happening to your daughter. I hope things get better.
You are the parent and only you know what is best for your child. I am 22 years old, and I think if I was in that predicament in high school and I said I wanted to change schools then thats what I would really want to do. I would let her. Sit down and really talk to her about it. Honestly if she is a good kid, good grades etc like I was, my mom would always let me make the decisions I wanted with her consent. I suggest if she wants to attend a different high school, and she has good judgement then let her do so. Good luck!
Did you try talking to this girls parents they obviously dont know what their children are doing. But to answer your question I wouldn't let her run. not everyone is going to like you. learn to deal with it.
there's a difference between "running away from her problems" and fearing for her safety!
you need to put her safety 1st. High school kids can be very mean. and unfortunately, even brutal.
I know if my 17 or even my 16 year old student were being threatened and there was another school I could put them in to get them out of harm's way, you bet I would do it, in a heartbeat!
you need to realize, however, that there may be kids over there that could be in on the problem, or become aware of the situation, if they happen to be friends with any of the kids in question. be vigilant in who she's with and where she is.
Have a daughter in the same boat, not much can be done unless the threatening girl takes action. Changing school is not the answer, remember her mind is going to follow her body wherever she goes. Next, if the girl is a minor and is still under your parental guidence, she can get as mad as she wants for you snooping. If she gets an attitude about it, I'd take away her computor. Nuff said.
I think you need to let your daughter know that the only reason you checked her e-mail was for her safety. The school should be doing something about this. Also, try contacting the other parties parents.
don't mean to downplay the situation, but it's probably just talk. These kinds of situations happen FAR more than you would realize.
If she wants to change schools, that's something to consider, but it'll probably blow over before to long.
Im nt quite sure what 2 do bt 1 ting i do no is NEVER read her personal messages or go on her MSN!!
I have a teenage daughter and I have done a little snooping myself. I feel entitled to seeing that this is my house and she my daughter, but I never tell her where I get my info. How serious is this relationship? It may be easier to find a new boyfriend than switching schools where shes obviously doing so well. If that doesn't work, find the school bully and tell her what this other girl is saying about her. A little distraction from your daughter may help.
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