How do I get my 3 month old daughter to stop using her dummy?
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I totally had the same problem. My 5 mo. old still wakes up for it (but only about once a night). I told the doc about it and he said it really didn't have anything to do with the pacifier...it was more of a "sleep cycle" thing. She's waking up at the end of her sleep cycle...then fussing because she wants to be soothed back to sleep (with her pacifier). Makes sense, I guess. Either way, it's extremely annoying, I know. Here are my thoughts...
1) She needs to suck SOMETHING at that age. If it's not her pacifier, she's likely to find her thumb...which could give you even MORE problems.
2) In just a little while, she'll know how to put it back in herself...AHH...finally some rest for mommy.
If you can stick it out a while longer, she will learn to put it back in and you won't have to get up. I really wouldn't take it away from her at this young age...like I said, she needs it at the moment.
But, if these ideas don't work for you, then just take it away if you want. Hey...YOU are her mommy...so YOU can make any decision that you think is best. :-)
What does it matter? She is three months and happy! It's not the end of the world it's not like she is 30!
First question, what is a dummy? Is that a pacifier? If your referring to pacifier, i wouldnt worry about that till she is around 2. Its a comfort for her, and shes only 3 months for gods sake. She needs some comfort when your asleep and the "dummy" is it, i guess.
She's 3 months old, give her a break. It's not like she's 3 years old and still doing it.
Try rocking her to sleep with some soothing music instead.
Why would you want to stop her? Ventriloquism is a very difficult trick to learn, and if she's got it down at age 3 months, well you could put her in movies!
why would you wnat to take the dummy away at such a young age?
what is a dummy? her blanket, doll, night light?
Go cold turkey and just stop using it. She's too young to be really addicted yet.
HI! I think the best way is to just stop giving it to her. It may be a few more nights of restlessness, and lack of sleep, but it will be worth it. There is no easy way to ween a 3 month old off of it, so just take it away, and let her get used to not having it. It will happen!
Good luck!
I am going to take a stab in the dark because I have no idea what a dummy is so I am guessing it is a pacifier. It is funny because I almost wish my daughter had liked them she would scream a lot but refused the "binkie" What I did with bottles to get them off of those is picked a day and threw them all away there was no going back so I suggest the same with the dummy and If I got the definition wrong I apologize.
3 months is too soon,let her keep it for a while if it makes her happy.
It is soothing and comforting to her. Why would you want to take it away? My son will be 2 next month and we are down to just nap time now. There is nothing wrong with a 3 month old being "dependent" on the pacifier. It is better than getting up a dozen times to let her sip on a bottle or nurse for a few minutes to fall back asleep.
I hope someone can give you a good advice. I have seen many toddlers about 2 or 3 year-old with a dummy in their mouth. They are too old for such things!
Good luck!
P.S. May be you could comfort her or give her some breast or formula milk. She is still very little and needs to be fed during the night.
i guess i do not understand why you would not allow a 3 month old to have a pacifier. the need to suck is going to be instinctive for some time still and it is theraputic for her to be able to have that.
Getting up many times in the night with a 3 mo old is pretty common, i am not sure what you are expecting of her. Please allow her to be a baby and not turn in to the experiment... that is meant sincerely. Just flow with things, the habits, including blankies and pacifiers, are part of many normal babies development. - worry when she is 17 and in high school with it.
My son had three social workers (he's adopted) until he was 3 years old. They said to let them use a pacifier until they were 2. If you take it away too soon, they'll find another means of comfort, ie their thumb, which is much harder to break and eventually will be gross (think of them touching everything and then sticking their thumb in their mouth)
Buy a pacifier leash. They're short so they can't get strangled and she will eventually figure out how to keep up with it herself. They're fairly inexpensive and just clip onto her outfits. Breaking it when they're 2 is much easier. My son always used his pacifier 24/7, but he walked away from the pacifier after a couple of days.
Let her be at 3 months she needs the sucking action! If she were 3 yrs old, that would be a problem.
My kids got rid of theirs between 6 and 7 months on their own. some kids it's longer. If she only takes it when she is sleeping, she will most likely give it up when she's ready. You don't want a thumb sucker do you? A thumb sucker is a lot harder to break, as my daughter found out with her first 2 kids the one is 4 and the oldest is 9 and still suck their thumbs. She decided to try the 'binkie'(we call it), with her 3rd. He is 7 months, and only takes it when he is sleeping.
I would let her keep it until she is at least 12 months. She may give it up herself before then.
i was 2 when my parents took my dummy away; what they did was tell me that becuase i was big now, i would have to give my dummy to santa...so i left it out for him that year :)
UMM, 3 month olds generally do get up at night because THEY ARE HUNGRY. try feeding her. Assuming that a "DUMMY" is a pacifier, she is only 3 months old. let her have it. She is probably waking up because she is hungry, that is what 3 month olds do.
First off.whats a dummy?? A pacifier? Well, if it is.why need her to stop taking it? Our daughter's doctor said that around a year old is when it is NEEDED to be taken away and not any sooner. At 13 months (we waited an extra month because we had a lot of family problems and we were traveling a lot) we took it away cold turkey. There was 3-4 nights with her waking up and a couple little tantrums during the day and then it was over. We also consulted a children's dentist before deciding how long to let her have it and he said the same thing...and actually said that up to 24 months with it is still not physically damaging to their formation, but more emoitional when you take it away than at 12 months. 3 months is still an infant.they need to be soothed and comforted.
I had the same experience as you about getting up all night long to stick the passy back in, so at around 6 months, I began sleep training my child and he did so much better sleeping through the night by self-soothing instead of needing his passy. Somewhere around 8-10 months, they will be able to recover their passy on their own, so if you can wait that long, it will get better. Also at 4 months, I introduced what we call a "snug," which is a blanket that he associates with sleep and cuddles up to. My son is now 13 months and we have not completely weened him of his passy, but he only uses it to go to sleep and when he is up and playing, he knows that his passy belongs in the crib.
she's only 3 months old! Let her have it. Hide it when she's 3 years more like but not at 3 months :-)
At three months you let her play with it. Some kids have imaginary friends, pillows, shirts, etc...It's a comfort blanket.But if you want her to discontinue using it, don't give in to the tears. I am a parent and when I wanted to take my son of his pacifier, I just took it and never gave it back. All he did was cried until he got tired, but no harm done. Mothers often times give in to the tears and crying from guilt. Remember, as you will see as you child gets older, it's already harder to do the right thing
Is a dummy a paccifier? If so it makes your child feel secure. Why would you want to take it away? I leave my daughters paci near her face when she's asleep. She finds it easily at 4months.
Sucking is perfectly natural and will happen much more often in the next few weeks. It is good for developement and it is believed that use of pacifiers may help to reduce sids.
Leave her be for now. She's just a baby still. As far as getting up several times a night this is normal. Try the no sleep method. Or put in a cd with lullabys. Also a machine that puts out white noise may help. Put her crib at the foot of your bed. It will allow her to feel close but still feel safe. My daughter only wakes once a night now, but she didn't at 3 months.
For gods sake she is a baby if you didnt want her to have a dummy why give her one in the first place when shes older you can worry about it but right now it gives her comfort and she wont understand why her mum gives her something to shut her up and then takes it away when she starts to like it. I can understand its frustrating getting up in the night but hey welcome to motherhood. Honestly it is much much better to have a dummy than a thumbsucker I know this because my son who is now 10 still sucks his thumb no matter what anyone says and the dentist has told him he must have a head brace because his teeth no longer bite and it is causing huge damage to his mouth dummies dont do this and when your baby gets to about 2 and a half you can start to take it away with all the tried and tested techniques im sure you will read about in due course.
I was lucky, neither one of mine would take a pacifier. When I couldn't stop them from crying I wished they took one. But they wanted to suck their thumbs. I would give them the pacifier and if they did take it the next thing I knew it was out of their mouths and their thumbs were in there. I was really worried about that becoming a habit. But I was also grateful for them being able to sooth themselves. Amazingly they both quit sucking their thumbs when they started cutting teeth. So I never had to ween them off of the pacifier and never had to figure out how to get them to not suck their thumbs. Just wanted to share this.
I'm wondering too..is a dummy a pacifier?? If you didn't want a child to depend on a pacifier, why introduce it in the first place?
We, as parents, help these habits form then we decide we dont like it and try to stop it..do you see what I am saying?
I weaned my first child (now 11) off his pacifier when he was 6 months..now my daughter ( 7 1/2 weeks) uses one occassionally, which is good cause she isn't dependant on it...there is nothing wrong with your 3 month old self soothing in this manner, and for you to condemn it now, ugggg...did your 3 month old ask for it to begin with? Take some responsibilty and let your baby be a happy baby... Babies don't need stress!!
What is a dummy I hope it’s not a doll because babies that age shouldn’t be sleeping with a doll haven’t you heard of SIDS. If its a pacifier then get used to it because my son always loses his and wakes me up and he's 5 months you don’t take it away in till 1 year old, if you don’t want her to have it anymore than you should never of gave it to her. And babies at 3 months shouldn’t be sleeping through the night yet why you are so mad when she wakes you up? She’s a baby you should have known that she would wake you up all babies do. And maybe when she wakes up she might want more than her dummy she may need to eat or be changed so you should really try that, care more about your child then your self she comes first its called being a parent. A lot of parents have to go on 4 hrs of sleep but we don’t care because it’s for our child.
Woah! Chill out! She's only 3 months old! I just bought loads of dummies & put them in the cot. My daughter soon found them herself.
For goodness sake, she`s only 3 months old and you want to get rid of her dummy? If she was 3 years old I could understand it. If you don`t let her have one you may find yourself with more problems if she can`t settle without it. Having babies means broken sleep and sleepness nights. Your`re lucky, you want to have a baby with colic, then you`d know what getting no sleep REALLY means.
i think your already doing the right thing in only giving her it when she's tired. my granddaughter used to do exactly the same thing during the night and her parents were crazy with it! i cant remember when it stopped, possibly when she was old enough to reach out for it or root around for it but its stopped! good luck!
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