How do I get my son to stop whinning and screaming so much?
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i have a daughter who just turned 3 years old and she has always been that way for me. anytime i am with her she screams and whines and yells and talks back to me. but with her father or anyone else she is almost perfect. i tried time outs, standing in the corner, giving her a smack on the butt (diaper) and even putting in her in her crib in another room but nothing worked. so finally i got sturn with her and told her if she keeps up the yelling, screaming and talking back she would get soap in her mouth and i would show her the bottle. she didn't believe me and said nope and kept on going. so i put just a very small drop on my finger and rubbed it on her tounge. she hated it so much. that was only last week and she has been pretty good for me ever since and she keeps telling me how bad the soap tastes and doesn't want that again. and now she seems to understand when mommy gets sturn and tells her no or raises her voice that i am not joking. it seems to have done wonders. and when she starts acting up now i just ask her if she wants me to get the soap and she just stops and says no. i ask if she is going to be good and she always says yes. and sure enough it just talking about it now straightens her right out. give it a try and hopefully it works for you the way it worked for me. and don't worry they won't hate you for it. my daughter still loves to cuddle with me and tell me she loves me and always wants me there. it doesn't change the way they feel about you just they way they respect and listen to you b/c they understand you are the boss. good luck!
toddlers go through this stage. try positive reinforcement. if he yells you yell. if he behaves then you allow him to color or do something fun. you can't let him run you. you've got to stand your ground. you're not hurting him.
Watch that show "Nanny 911." A lot of people are having the same problem. Parents can seriously learn a great deal from that tv show.
give him to your mom 4 a couple of weeks or go to a hotel by your self
It sounds like he is getting attention from you when he does these things. No matter what people may think of you, as long as your not hurting him, do what you feel is right. If that means letting him kick and scream in time out, then do it. Try not to give into him!
Don't respond to his bad behavior. He is still young, but try to instate a reward system. Say if he doesn't whine or scream for a whole day he gets a special treat. Each day he is well behaved he gets like a little tub of playdoh, a special desert, a new matchbox car, etc.
Your child needs boundaries. He does this until you give in. If you know he is not hurt put in in his room and explain to him why he is in there. When he starts the whining tell him mommy will talk to him when he can stop whining and talk like a big boy. If you are consistent all the time he will respect your rules and stop the screaming and whining. He is trying to communicate with you the only way he knows how. If you help him through this he will be able to tell you what he wants and needs without getting frustrated. You will find what works best for you when you stay consistent.
Do not give in to the crying and screaming.
Do not show your child that the screaming is getting to you.
You need to ignore this child, and continue on with the time outs and strict rules.
Let your child know that he needs to speak to let you both know whats wrong and then see what can be done.
This child is still being treated like a baby so he is going to act like one. I went through the same issues with my now 4yr old daughter and we are still working on it.
Set up schedules for the child to play, eat and etc. and try to spend more equal time with the children, maybe reading or game night...
its gonna be a haul but you'll get through it.
Wish you the best of luck!
Take care.
Sounds like he's doing it for attention. Ignore him when he does these things. Walk past him, don't look at him. I'm not saying ignore him to the point were if he's doing something he could hurt himself, you don't say anything...just while he's throwing his fits or whining. At 2 he should be old enough to understand you if you tell him that he won't be getting any attention if he's whining and screaming, if you want to try to explain it to him first.
Pay lots and lots of attention to him when he's not wining. After a couple of days of that he should start learning that he'll get the attention he wants when he's NOT whining.
punish him severely once for doing that without having mercy on him. be really serious about it and he wont do that again but be sure to inform him of your action else he will hate to have you as a parent. be careful how you hanle kids.
1. PLEASE watch the show Nanny 911. Airs on FOX at Monday 8:00 PM it's VERYYY helpful.
2. tell him how his behavior affects everyone around him even though he doesnt know it. if he still believe in santa, tell him he wont get any presents if he keeps up that horrible behavior lol. tell him you cry at night because he hurts you. (lol). hey if i had a kid who sounded annoying and disobeyed me so much i'd try it.
2. whining only has one n... teehee.
i think that he is doing this because he gets your attention when he does. if he did not get anything out of it, than he would not do it. maybe he is jealous of his big sister. you may want to spend more one on one time with him. if he is like my son, he is such a mama's boy. my son likes to show off when his half sister visits. he does not like it if my husband shows her attention.
good luck and happy new year!
He can't scream if he can't breathe. You think about that.
Try this! If he is only doing this when he is with you and no one else, Ask your husband to talk to him, or your mother, get him in a comfortable place, and "find out". There is a reason for this but your child is too young to communicate it to you. He is trying to tell you something. It could be that he thinks when you leave him your not coming back! Maybe your too "stick" with him and show much more attention to the First child. Jealous actions are a typical way for a child to act out in "anger". I strongly suggest that if this Does Not happen when your husband is around, then HE needs to also support your efforts to find the solution. One participant suggested that you watch the Nanny Show, you really should,as I have learnt from it and I am a grandmother. Good Luck and I do know what you are going thru as I raised two "girls" only 14-months apart. Now that's' another storey.
Do you spend time with him each day? Do you read to him, play with him, give him lots of hugs and kisses? He is trying desperately to get your attention. Children feel that negative attention is better than no attention at all. Try this and see what happens. Don't expect an overnight miracle, give it a few weeks, but I'm betting you'll see some positive changes in your little one. If not, talk to your pediatrician, or call Super Nanny!
This is what I tell my son if he starts to pitch a fit or whine about something, "if that's how you are going to behave, you will do it alone in your bed so no one has to listen to you." Then when he starts I put him in the crib and leave the room. I do not go back to get him until he has been quiet for 3 minutes. He knows, because I tell him this each time, that time out does not start until he is quiet, so the longer he cries and whines, the longer he has to stay in his empty bed by himself. I rarely have to put him in his bed anymore for a time out, he knows I'm serious and will stop whining the first time I ask him to because he knows what will happen if he doesn't stop. You just need to be firm and consistent and he will stop, obviously because he doesn't behave this way for other people like you said.
I see that time out don't work. Take toys away. Put him to bed early.Act like it don't bother you, It sounds like he's getting a reaction from you.. Also are you asking him to stop or are you telling him? Your tone of voice is very important. Hope this helps.
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