Do you feel it is wrong to whoop (Not abuse) your child?
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No it's not wrong. But spanking is nto teh best method of discipline for every child. Some but not all.
below the waist, on the bum.
as long as it does not leave any bruses.
I fight the urge :)
Anyway, I only spank when my kids need a reality check.
yes, that is abuse. it has also been proven to be one of the least effective methods of discipline.
Holy doodle, most of you shouldn't be allowed to have kids if you are so ignorant! I guess this is the states, where people believe that facts are less important than teaching your kids to be violent!
no not at all, it definately depends on the age though
well how old are they and do you use your hand ... a belt.a paddle
It's wrong. It teaches kids that violence is a way to solve problems. What do you do when you spank your child and your child spanks your toddler? Many people do it out of anger, which really sends the wrong message. But even if not in anger, I would never hit my kids.
No, not wrong at all. Sometimes kids just don't get it. spanking (with the hand on the butt that doesn't leave a mark) is sometimes needed. I know I got a few whoopins, but never for the same thing twice!
I find that taking something away that they really like works better. Say for example if they misbehave they don't get to play videogames for a day.
I think it is wrong because it teaches a c hild that violence is a good way of getting back at someone
HELL NO! Nearly everyone I know was whooped when they were young. They are all productive, active and well balanced members of society.
no the kid earns a spanking below the waist is fine its not wrong i got whooped i turned out fine
no there is nothing wrong with whooping a kid but no abuse! The Bible says to not spare the rod so I believe you are supposed to spank them!
That butt was made for sitting and whooping. But use as a last resort, to get their attention during a fit or outburst.
I think to teach the child a lesson, no it is not wrong. Some people believe any kind of touching (in punishing) a child is considered abuse, however, i believe it is not.
when you spank a child it simply teaches them a lesson, and eventually they'll learn not to repeat the same mistake (because they dont want to get another spankin.)
some parents beat their children. and i think that is wrong, and just plain sick.
my deffinition of a spankin- a smack (not hard) on the butt. nothing else. and no. once again, i do not consider that to be wrong.
Yes, it's wrong!! You have NO right to take this little innocent child and make him hurt! He is a bright light in this world, and part of our future. All he wants for you to do is love him because he thinks you're the best person ever! Don't ever let him down! All you need to do is talk to him and explain what he did wrong, and why he shouldn't do it. THAT'S the way to teach a child!
No. It is not wrong if you punish in a controlled way and for the right reasons. Use your hand on the rear ONLY. Do not use a belt or switch. Our parents did and I believe it was a little to harsh.
Aslong as it is ONLY ON THE BUTT and if you don't do it more then one or two times then it's ok. I would use my hand...i do not feel right using anything else. I use my hand and smack them twice. Not to hurt them but just to wake them up and realize they did something wrong. The idea of a spanking is not to hurt. Showing the kid pain is not what teaches them.
NO IT DID NOT KILL ME AND IF THE CHILD REALLY NEEDS A SNAP OUT OF WHATEVER THEY ARE GOING THROUGH THEN A SWAT ON THE BUM ONLY WILL NOT DO MUCH!
AS LONG AS THERE AGE APPROPRIATE AND IT IS NOT TO HARD
I don't think there is. I got spankings when I was young and it did me good. I was very well behaved afterwards. And for the most part once a child realizes that you will spank them they will know not to test you. But if you threaten to count to ten and nothing happens once you get there your kids will know that you won't ACTUALLY discipline them and then you lose that control.
I dont think its wrong illegal but not wrong! My daughter has boundaries and if she crosses them i give her to the count of ten to rectify her behaviour (which is usually enough). If she doesnt then she will get a smack.
I dont think so... if they wont listen and they are in harms way... lets put it this way if i tell my son nicely to stay out of the road a few times and he goes and runs in the middle of the road... you can better believe hes getting his butt busted! I would rather him think that he gets a spanking when he goes in the road rather a pancake shaped head... I think spanking should be used as a last resort though. You have to teach them and give them a chance to two and then if they defy you and disrespect your authority *something i think should be a known prerequisite to a spanking* then yes spank their butt!
But a spanking is not a fix all and it will not work for anything if it is used for everything IMO
Sometimes a child needs a swift swat on the BOTTOM, but that's about it
It is not wrong. Kids need the occassional beating to stay in line. Our society has gotten incredibly weak. I'm breaking out the belt on my son right now.
no it is not wrong as long as it is not done every time the teenager do not get it often (like daliy to weekly)
I don't think hitting is ever a good example.
And, what does it solve? I've found I've had better results just by making my child sit than with spanking. I remember my dad getting over zealous with his belt and whooping me until I had welts in my bum...I couldn't even sit. My husband has similar stories with his mom spanking him. It's too easy to take too far.
Don't you remember the saying "Pick on someone your own size." Parents would do better to learn that one again.
http://www.nospank.net/n-q52r.htm...
A crack on the butt with your hand, I don't have a problem with. It is when it gets out of hand or the use of a belt or something similar is wrong. I always use other methods such as time out, talking, taking away a priviledge and so on. I grew up being scared to death of my father and his behavior modification techniques. Not that I did not deserve it sometimes, I just think there are different ways of handling it. I wish he would have sat down and talk to me sometimes instead.
Spankings are not right for all children. Some do not require spankings to understand who is authority. And some children do. But it is not something to be used often and it should never leave any bruises.
The age old question. Spare the Rod or Spoil the Child. I spare the Rod. I'm sorry, but if my child is being a stinker in the mall, or in the store, I take them home, give them a spanking, and let them know that it's not acceptable to act like that in a public setting. I was told by someone from CYS (or CPS) that an open hand to the bottom of a child is perfectly acceptable. So don't give me that "It's ABUSE!" crap. It's only abuse if you punch them, slap them across the face, or use another object to hit them with.
Not at all!! As long as you do it right - not out of anger but as a way to discipline - it is very effective.
Hitting of any kind, including spanking on the bottom, will only escalate the situation. Your child is probably misbehaving because they feel like they are losing control over their environment in some way. Spanking only takes away more of their perceived control. Although the parent should always remain in control in reality, the child should have some self-perceived control so that they feel like they matter and their opinion matters (ie: would you like a red hat or a blue hat?).
Also, spanking teaches your child that when someone does something that they don't like, they can feel free to hit that person. I have seen this up close several times. Lots of people use the excuse of my parents hit me and I turned out fine. That may be true, but could your relationship with your parents be a little better? I would be willing to bet that your positive characteristics have formed despite of the spanking rather than because of it.
The best way to discipline your child is to take away a privilege that they hold dear. If your 3 year old runs out into the street while playing outside, take them in the house and tell them that they have lost the privilge to play outside for the day because they chose to run in the street after being told not to. Repeat as necessary. after a few days of not getting outside time they will avoid the street like the plague. And this also teaches them that their choices determine what they can and cannot do.
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