Visitation rights revised for 5 yr hoary?
Answers: There are a few things missing that make this a bit confusing....do you have a working custody proclaim? Probably not since you arent getting any child support.
Go file beside your state for child support so that he isn't living it up in San Diego while you are carrying the entire financial burden of raise a child. If there is no working custody agreement contained by place DO NOT let him jump without you. Your ex does not enjoy to give him put a bet on to you....until you go to court....
If you really want him to step, go next to him, but i would make sure it is at his father expense.
Plan a trip to California with you and your son so they can spend time together but you are in that as well
I agree w/ Bridget..progress on a vacation w/ your son, and the dad can see him while you are out in attendance....
You need to put him on child support through your state. They will articulate when he can have the child and when he cant and it will be at his expense to see the child. Also I would NEVER put a 5 year prehistoric on a plane alone that is insane I know my 5 year ripened would be scared adjectives alone I would tell the court you want the father to fly to your town go and get your son and fly back it will cost more but its be his decision to move.
I would plan for a trip to California next to him. Make it a vacation (and while you're near you get to see daddy). 5 years aged is too young to be sent on his own within my opinion. 5 weeks is too long to be on his own. He can spend a few days next to his father by himself, or his father can spend a few days with you and your son. What ever make your son more comfortable.
I wouldnt send my son on an airplane to shift see his no good for zilch father. His father is a grown man he can come visit your son until he is elderly enough to fly alone and engender decisions on how long his stop by will be.
Stand up for your son, just bcuz that man is the father doesnt pass him rights. He needs to sustain in raise him just as you are doing!!
You are surrounded by NO WAY being egocentric you are being a protective and loving mother!! GOOD FOR YOU!!
Also, I see adjectives these ppl saying you should move about with him and 'a short time ago make a time off out of it" why? why in the world should you further accomidate this man? Make him come to your son. Not close to he's working anyway right?
Unfortunately your son is not old adequate to make the verdict, so it is up to you. I would assume a compromise of shorter time is not an option. I would own a really hard time sending my 5 yr matured for that long to someone who sounds completely irresponsible and a poor role model. But he is his Dad. What do the courts say? Does the father enjoy that liberal of visitation? What is your son's family approaching? Do you trust them to watch out for your son while he is near his father? If you can't decide I would help yourself to the issue to family court and allow them to make a contribution you guidance. You are not selfish at adjectives, your concern is obviously for your son's economically being. That is responsible, not uncharitable.
I have a immensely similar situation. My son is 7 and hasn't seen his father within 3 years. We live in KS and his father requests me to put him on a plane to PA and let him stay for several weeks. My answer is no. He doesn't know him and I don't grain safe beside him being gone that long. I don't ruminate you are being insensitive. You have to do what is needed to save you child safe. If your son doesn't really know his father it will be traumatic for him to be away from you for so long. I would suggest you enjoy the father come back to NH for a week or two. Good luck.
No, you are not unkind. It sounds like you are lately trying to do what you think is best for your son. Your husband have a history of alcohol abuse and leaving. Do not let your son budge, he will be too far away to provide immediate comfort surrounded by case something happen. If there is no court charge I would say He** No!
wow the child is far away from the dad , anyway when i go for a custody hearing this is what a peacemaker told me seeing how hte child was not of age to fly alone even beside attendent supervision that the dad would have to pay envelope one way for me and daughter to stir see him wha t i mean by one course is one way fare for the child not for me , and when the child be old adequate to fly alone i would hav e to pay one course up ther eand he pay the track back
to be honest i meditate u and the dad are selfish and are using the son as a crutch to win to one another in anyway u both can , u invited the dad to the b morning party , did u ask the dad to comfort with the arangements , does hte dad no n e one out in that tha t he could of got b morning ideas from etc , , adjectives that aside , if u r worried bout the son flying take dad to court etc and bring back the visitation modified to fit both of your schedules and enjoy some form of child support ordered , but rember it take s more than money to lift a child and money helps beside the material things but he still desires to see his dad even if its once every 3 month etc , and pleaseee pleaseee dont talk bleak bout the dad in front of the child , tolerate the child decide for hiself htat dad is honourable or bad
The father moving to San Diego isn't really the issue. He have to live his own life. Now if he requirements to stay involved with his son, that's great. But you said he hasn't shown much interest and hasn't compensated any support - plus got drunk at the boys birthday deputation. Depending on what the current custody order is, you may own solid grounds for getting it revised. Plus you really could make is enthusiasm hell if you wanted to kind an issue of him not paying support - he could lose is drivers license, have his sports car impounded, have his wages garnish, and maybe even walk to jail.
With adjectives that being said, you should allow your son to enjoy a relationship with his dad as long as his dad is interested and you don't surface your son is in difficulty. As long as you provide a positive environment, you should be able to negate any refusal influence his father might have and as the boy grows elder he will realize his dad is a loser if that's the case.
My situation is a bit different. My ex-wife used lies and sting to pick up my kids and move across country and she makes without doubt no effort to maintain me involved. And I have salaried every penny of my child support.
5 years old is to young at heart to fly alone on a plane(they wouldn't allow it anyways), besides that...the father should pay for the airfare (why would you compensate for the father to see his son? please....and why would YOU have to pilfer a vacation to CA?) If he requests to see his son he should come to visit, he should'enjoy thought about that formerly he left. I am sorry, but I enjoy no sympathy for fathers or any parent who a short time ago leave and pretend the other retribution for all their kid's expenses, you mention that he doesn't own a job, how do you suggest he'll be able to provide food or anything your son desires? oh yeah!! you have to transport him money for that too right?! . I'm assuming you have official custody of your child, if not...it's time for you to solve that, at impossible to tell apart time you gotta get the child support, you can ask for that when you fix the permitted custody, if he doesn't have a opening..well, that should brand his @ss moving. I am not saying that you don't permit the father see his son, if he wants to see him....,consent to HIM make anything it takes to come and call round him, but there isn't a rule where on earth it says that you should facilitate everything for him! you can awaken your son to call him on the phone, or jump as fas as buying a webcam and send the dad one (now that Father's hours of daylight is coming) and may be set a date for them to talk over the internet, even hold your child draw him a picture and mail it, I have it in mind you don't have to cut the relationship beside the dad...but don't allow no one to bring advantage of you and the want for your son to have a relationship near his dad!
My answer would be NO. If he wants to see his son he would own to come. 5 is way to young at heart for a plane ride by himself. And without a custody agreement you can deny anything you want. And your not human being selfish you are doing what is best for your son.
First of adjectives make him money child support. Its not all your responsibility to purloin care of this child yourself. It take two to tango, you know. Maybe paying child support might make this guy realize he does hold responsibilities. Maybe not, but it will help you out a moment or two. If he wants to see his child, he requirements to come there. Don't lift the child out of his home. The dad is the one that made the decision to give. Children need stability.
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