My mom goes through my backpack! is this okay to do as a parent?
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I highly recommend parents snooping on their kids - that way we know what you are up to. Hopefully one day you will understand, and when you have your own kids, you too will snoop.
Good luck and enjoy the rest of your childhood years.
My mom used to clean my room, so she never checked my back pack, but my whole room and bathroom though. <~~~~~non snowy xmas too
Yes it is okay. You live under her roof, she buys your stuff, she pays your bills (grocerys, rent, utilities) and it is her job to protect you. Plus, if you had something illegal in there she could get in a lot of trouble right along side you. Have you given your mom a reason not to trust you? Ask her. Work on building an open relationship with her so she doesn't feel like she needs to snoop.
I know you feel like its an invansion of your privicay, but dont feel that way. Your mom is only doing what she thinks is right, she is only trying to keep you safe. Good for her.
YOUR NOT THE ONLY ONE.
Come on if you get checked on the airport or school would you make a fuss? If you don't have nothing to hide then don't worry about it because they are only doing it for your safety its not like they are placing drugs or anything.
If she's concerned about what and how you're doing, then she'll snoop. I realize for a teen this can be annoying and feel like a lack of privacy, but she's doing it because she loves you. Try not to be too hard on her.
Yes it is perfectly fine. would you rather her not care. In truth it is a sign of her love & concern for you, although you can not see it. You will not understand until you become a mother.
No my parents have never done that ... that's kinda an invasion of your PRIVACY
How old are you?
I go through my son's backpack because sometimes things get lost in there and he can't find them! (He's 12)
As parents we have the right to look through your things. But depending on your age, your parents should also be respecting your privacy. My son knows I won't snoop, but that I have the right too, which keeps him honest!
What's in your backpack that you don't want them to find? That's the real question. If you're hiding things from your parents, you should ask yourself if maybe YOU should be the one to show them what's in your backpack! They love you and will be there for you, regardless of what you're hiding in your backpack!
As a parent, I routinely search my 14 year olds room, purse, backpack and whatever else she has because I cannot trust her to not be in possession of things that are prohibited in my house, or to take things that are not hers. I rarely go into my 13 year olds things because I already know what she has... she shares with me. In your case, your mom is most likely trying to make sure you're safe and not being pressured into doing anything you don't want to. I hated my mom doing this when I was a kid, but now that I'm a parent, I understand why.
Yes, it is ok. She probably just wants to make sure you're bringing her home things she needs to read from school. If I waiting for my son to give me things the school sends home for me, I'd never know about anything going on at his school.
she probably does it because a lot of kids "forget" to show their parent notes from school. test grades, homework assignments etc. You could talk to your mom and tell her you feel like you are responsible enough to show her what she needs to see and to let you have a bit of privacy.
yeah, but you're not supposed to know abou it..
well shes your mom, so yeah...but it is kinda like an invasion of privacy and mean/rude.
my mom never did, but then she never had a reason to distrust me...i was always honest with her...i told her when i started smoking, drinking...we talked things through...
by the way, don't smoke and drink...
i know that i would not go through my daughter's backpack unless i had a good reason to...if my daughter proves to be not trustworthy and i have reason to believe that that's where she hides things she shouldn't have, then i would...but i'm big on the right to privacy...however, that right has to be earned...
i would sit down with your mom and talk to her...ask her why she does it...is there something you're doing that makes her think she needs to rifle through it.talk to her and set her mind at ease...ask her to allow u to gain her trust and then make sure you're always honest with her.
Yes she love you and is wanting to give you the best.
When I was younger my mother read my journal. There were things in there that I hadn't told anyone to this very day. There were things (bad) that I wrote about my mom and dad too. LMAO I still have that journal, too. 10 years later
for me no!it's a big no!! because at our age we should have privacy. like my mom when someone calls at our house she would ask them so many things that my friends would get irritated. she even read my messages.
it is and it isnt shes checking for something my grandmoe know better than to check my stuff she goes through my purse and laughs at the girlie stuff i have in there but i mean your parents can because they raised you and deserve to have a say in your life
yes it is ok. your mom is responsible for you, even more than you are. if you were selling dope she could be held responsible. If you get into trouble before you are 18 she will be held accountable. If you have nothing to hide what's the big deal? If you have something to hide she needs to know that too. Parents have the job to teach you how to be an adult that makes responsible choices. They can't do their job without getting in your space.
She is only looking out for you . There are so many dangers in this world and so much that can happen to you. She is trying to protect you . Just dont trip , its all out of love.
i think you mom is just looking out 4 your well being she dose not want u get ing the wrong people but on the other hand she should trust u too soo in a way she is just looking out 4 u and she mught not trust you
It's your mom's job to know what is going on with you at school.
Here this and remember when your own children come along!"As long as you are under my roof and protection ,YOU WILL ABIDE BY MY RULES!!
I am a parent and I do this to my daughter. It is annoying now, however, you will understand when you children are in school. I hope you have a MERRY CHRISTMAS!
OMG...control your parents! You can't let them act up like that! That's your stuff! If they wanna know your grades they can wait for report cards just like millions of other parents... LOL
And no, I think secretly my parents are afraid of me. They know one thing--and it's I DONT LIKE YOU IN MY STUFF, and they pretty much trust me not to do anything overly horrible. I can handle myself for the most part, and they know it. I guess they started treading on ice last summer when I locked myself in my room for 2 days because Mom said I wasn't disciplined...
Yes it is okay for parents to go through back packs, bedrooms, etc. My mother even went so far as to rip the back off of my locked diary so she could read what was in there...She got an EYE FULL. The fact is that your parents have the right to know what is going on in THEIR home. THEY are paying the bills, putting a roof over your head, clothes on your back and food in your stomach...so suck up and deal with it. If you don't want them finding something that might get you into trouble, don't take it home.
i know how you feel. i'm a teenager too, and i feel it's an invasion of privacy. i know everyone says that your mom cares about you and is trying to protect you, but i don't think it's right. parents should talk to their kids if they don't trust them. going through their stuff is not okay in my opinion.
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