Showering with your kids?
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i'm a girl and i remember when i was little showering with my dad and my mom. you know what i remember? my dad washed my face with a big scrub of the wash cloth, just like my husband does with our son! I don't think there is anything wrong with bathing together. In fact, you are right, it is a bonding experience! Congrats, sounds like you are a great daddy!
that is fine, if they were older than i can see. and who cares what other say.
totaly normal for kids to bathe with their parents ,especially a single parent.
,in Europe,Africa,Asia,China,Japan .probably everywhere except the USA.
Since they're boys and they're only 3, I don't see anything wrong with it. People are always more suspicious of dads for some reason. I bet no one would see anything wrong with a woman bathing with her 3 year old daughter. I think it's great that you are trying to make time to bond individually with each of your kids.
As long as they and you are comfortable with it, I would say it's refreshing to hear that you are taking the time to spend the time with your kids. You will know when it is no longer appropriate. All of the sudden, one day, your boys will look you up and down and you will know, that the time of innonence has passed. So, until that time, enjoy their innocence and spend the time!! You can't ever get it back, make the most of it.
Nothing wrong with it at all. Perfectly healthy imo. And it is a good bonding period between parent and child. You are the same sex, so it's not like they will be seeing anything questionable. My ex husband used to take showers with my little girls until they were about 15 months. He'd get into the shower and then I would take her to him to clean her up while he was in there. I can still remember how sweet they looked. Nothing at all wrong with it :)
Personally I'd shower on my own, and simply bathe them in a bath until they're old enough to shower themselves. Telling them where to clean before they get in and asking them if they did when they come out. Behind the ears and the like.
when our daughter was about 2 my husband started feeling uncomfortable with her in the shower.but i didn't. so he stopped showering with her and now that she's three she takes a shower with me every now and then. i figure it would be the opposite with a boy. so i think its perfectly fine that you still shower with them. and beleive me, you'll know when its time to stop.
Well i have a 9month old and i normally shower with him and my husband. I see this as much easier for me as he is too big to use his little tub. I have never thought of anything wrong with that he actually loves it. He's so used to it as soon as he hears the water he wants to go in the tub.
My husband takes showers with our 3 yr old son...I don't have any problems with it.
When they get old enough to ask questions or play with their parts, I'd stop.
they are only 3 let them enjoy being with there dad right now and not only that how else are you going to get a good shower in when you have to leave them alone my son is two years old he doesnt like showers at all but i have to leave the curtin open to be able to see him i think when they start to turn four though its going to have to stop but right now its fine who cares what ppl think right
I don't really see anything wrong with it. I remember as a young girl I'd shower with my mom all the time. My son is 14 months, and I try to take him in the shower here and there just to see if he'll even like it... he doesn't really yet, so I sit him down and let the tub fill up with water so he can take a bath and I get out. But my husband will get in the bath tub with our son. Sometimes we wear bathing suits, other times we don't. There's nothing sexual about it, just teaching him how to clean- and for now he loves to play and splash. Now when he gets older, I won't be taking showers with him. My son rarely takes naps- and if so, not for very long, so it can be difficult for me to shower with him being so mobile, so if he needs to bathe too, I grab him too!
You sure do have your hands full! :) A triple blessing! lol That would be lot's of fun, but tiring too I bet! Happy Holidays!
I see absolutely nothing wrong with showering with your sons. I am the mother of boys, however, but my husband took showers with his son when he was little and my boys took showers with their father. Therefore, in my experience, it's completely normal. I do think though that it should stop when they are older but they'll let you know when that is:). Incidentally, I've never showered with my boys because that's kind of creepy:)~
if your comfortable with it,why not.When they get to Jr.High it won't be uncomfortable showering in front of others.
Depending on how old they are, there's nothing wrong with it. When they start to get REALLY curious about what this or that is, that's when it's time to stop the showers. Or if they're past the age of 7.
When they reach that age, instead of taking showers, find something that they like, and do that with them instead. Some people will tell you that you should never be in the bath with your kids, but like you said, it's a bonding experience. Hell, my daughter is 6, and I take a bath with her every now and then, or she takes one with my sister in law. She knows what body parts are, but she doesn't understand what they're for. When she starts asking what they're for, then we'll put a stop to it, if not sooner.
There's nothing wrong with taking a shower with your boys, but make sure that they know they can't look, or touch. And make sure that they know how to wash themselves. Which can be difficult at first, but they'll get it eventually.
take showers with them if you want my husbands taken showers with all of our girls ( but we usually cut that off around 3) but you have boys so you can determine that cut point yourself ...our 4 yo still bathes with me occasionally
It's fine until they let you know it's not.
You should be able to tell. At a certain age (and not necessarily all at the same time), they will start wanting privacy and acting embarrassed when you or someone else sees them in the shower/taking a bath/on the toilet. When that happens, it's time to stop.
There's nothing wrong with a same-sex parent bathing/showering with a child who's still young enough to enjoy it. It IS wrong for a parent to bathe/shower with a child who does NOT enjoy it.
So just be vigilant for any signs of their developing modesty, and once they feel the need for privacy and independence, let them have it.
My first response to your question at first glance was that it was perfectly acceptable. As I was typing however I kept wondering why you felt the need to ask this question. If it's because someone in your life like the mother or her family was concerned with this behavior and they are corcerned for the boys. I would just explain as you did here about the individual bonding time.
I don't know what area of the country you live in or other circumstances like daycare providers becoming aware of you showering with your sons or what have you.
Just know that our society has become one in which everyone thinks they know what's best for everyone else. It could become an issue if a teacher or social worker becomes involved in your life. Sometimes people project their own diseased minds on other peoples behavior.
I can only tell you that I am the mother of an 18 yr old daughter and we both have fond memories of bathing together when she was little. We had fun singing to her favorite kids tunes on her kids cassette player while we washed each others hair. I'm also certain there were times when my 2 sons took showers or baths with their dad when they were little because it was time saving. Neither of us questioned whether it was right or wrong because there was nothing dirty about it.
I would assume with being a single father of triplets saving time would be a major factor, right? So have fun as long as you know that nothing bad is happening.
3 yr old triplets? Good Luck!! Wishing you all the best!
wow three year old boy triplets must be ruff. but that is perfectly fine for now! once they get older they will have to start showerign on their own, plus they will eventually get very disgustedd.
No, there isn't anything wrong with it. When I was little, I used to shower with my dad. At that age, it doesn't even matter if parent and child are of the same sex. The kid doesn't know anything about sex.
As long as both parent and child are comfortable with it (and there isn't anything inappropriate going on, of course), I don't see it as a problem.
I belive if you are the same sex as your child it is perfectly fine
Keep being a great dad and let the boys know that! America is over active about good parenting. Sounds like you're doing a great job for each of them to want their own time with you.
There isn't any thing wrong with taking showers with your boys. You are right, it is a great bonding experience. I remember taking showers with my dad, sisters,brothers,and my mother (didn't all take a bath/shower at once if that's what you're thinking). When I'd go to my dad's house and my sisters would be there me and my sisters would shower together. And when my sisters weren't there I'd shower with my dad. There isn't any thing wrong with that unless your a doing something you have no business doing which I know you won't. when your 3 boys feel that it's time to shower by themselves then let them. Until then enjoy your three little blessings and Merry Christmas and a happy New Year.
I don't see a single thing wrong with it. Even if your triplets were girls I'd see no problem. I think the western culture has made the human body this sexual, taboo thing. I have two boys ages 6 & 3. Up until very recently I still showered with them on occasion. We often would shower together to save time. They needed baths and I was gonna take a shower and it was just easier if they jumped in with me. But I'm pregnant with boy number three and just prefer my own time and space. But both boys still take baths and showers with dad AND I still take them to the community bath houses now and then. We live in Japan and community bath houses are the norm. My boys think nothing of that fact that everyone around them is naked. It is a natural, normal thing.
I don't like the idea of it. Privacy is very important to me. I know that a lot of people do it but I never would with my kids.
I think its just fine. They are your sons and its your decision. I think you will know when it is time to stop.
Whoever thinks it's wrong should have their heads examined. It's perfectly fine for young kids to shower with a parent and it does not matter what the gender is. Both my daughters liked to jump into the shower with daddy at 3.
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