17&pregnant--teen mothers please!?
i live at home
im a junior
i have a 4.0
i might be getting a job (im getting called back this week) but its only 8 dollars an hour.
but im with the father
and his parents would help
p.s. i know abortion is wrong so please dont leave thing telling me it is
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Well Like you I was a teen mother.. Though I was married and out of school before I got pregnate I was still 18 when I found out that I was going to have a beutiful baby boy.
It's really hard for teen mom's I won't lie to you. There is alot of things that you at times will regret not being able to do because you have a baby, But those will leave you everytime you see your baby.
Also be perpared to get alot of bad glances from people because they have this "issue" with unwed young mothers *rolls eyes*. I think personally you will make a great mother. I went to school with alot of teenage mothers. Some of them weren't great parents. Others were the best ones I have ever seen.
I am really glad that even though my son wasn't a planned pregnacy, And that I really didn't want to have a baby yet. I am glad I did because every time I see him smiling at me I know now this is what I wanted. A baby is a blessing regardless of how it was concived and even though times will get rough..because they will.. This little saying will help you get through those tough times.
"In the mind, eyes, and heart of a child their mother is the world."
Like I said before I carried my son for 9mths..When I found out I was pregante I cried because I didn't want a baby..I was only 18 years old, only married for around 5 mths and I wanted to settle in and also write my novel (I am a writer btw) before I even thought of bring a child into this world but sometimes even though do everything to pervent it. It still happens.
I remember crying so much. The 1st few months but then as my son grew inside me and went from tossing and turning to kicking my bladder at bad moments (lol) then seeing him on the ultrasound and hearing his heart beat and knowing that such a little and vuneralbe person was living and growing inside of me..
The tears went from being mad, angry and confused to being filled with joy and happeniess. Then when I held my son in my arms after 9mths of carrying him then 7hrs of labor to bring him into this world. I knew..I knew then that this is what I was ment to be. I was ment to be this boys mother and regardless of the stares I got from old ladys in the store check out line.
And regardless of all the hateful words that surround us teenage mothers. I knew that none of that mattered anymore because My son didn't care about those words all he cared about was the love that I gave him and that, to this day, is the only thing that matters to me now and I think back on the 1st few months of being pregant and I feel so stupid for never wanting to have the baby I had in my womb.
Now I know that My son was born to be with me. That even though I didn't want him at 1st He still wanted me. All your worries will melt away once you hold your baby in your arms and you realize that this little life depends on you so much that what anyone else has said to you or done to you just melts away with that 1st tiny smile and the tiny hand that reaches out to your finger and never lets go. In that moment They will hold your heart forever.
I think that you will be great. All children want is there parents love and even though we were considered to young and to immature to raise a baby. The baby doesn't care because all that baby wants is your love.
In answer to your question in the beginning I did regret greatly about being pregnate and was mad at the changes I would have to make to my lifestyle that I wasn't ready to make yet. But once my son was here..None of that mattered anymore..Because once he was in my arms. He was mine and no matter what changed I had to make. I would move the world for him if I had to.
I am 19 and pregnant (Just barely still a teen)...I was shocked when I first found out but never had the notion of getting rid of the baby. I wouldn't have when I was your age either. I think as far as teen parents go you're pretty well off. A lot of kids these days that get pregnant in highschool don't have it as well as you do..(ie. good grades, a boyfriend who would be willing to stick around, and the possiblity of a job).
Congrats if you find out you're positive.
Well, be brave and just know that whatever choice you make needs to be the best choice for you. And by the way, abortion isnt wrong, its just a social value, but if that is one of your values there are other options. If you need any support or just to ask a question or talk, email me.
Hang in there. I'm only 23 and I'm still just a kid, but I am done high school. It was still hard for me to tell my dad even though i don't live at home. I always say " there's no
right time and theres no easy way" At 17 your pretty mature. Good luck and congrats!
Find your local Planned Parenthood clinic and make an appointment. They'll have counselors, nurses, and doctors that will help you with your situation.
im not a teen mother but me and my girl are having a bay and all i can tell you is the baby should come first the babys dad should work as hard as he can to help the mom me and my girl are both young and thats what we are doing good luck
wow. umm. not a mom. but i do watch teen drama shows. in this one episode this girl got pregnant and after she had the baby she gave it to a family that could handle it. its adoption, and you might get to meet the baby someday. its a good plan i think. good luck. dont let me decide for you im only in jr. high i know nothing about parenting.
Sorry honey. You knew the risks when you may have made this baby, please don't abort. There is only a 48 to 72 hour time frame every month that you can get pregnant. Take a pregnancy test. If your not, get on birth control. If you are pregnant-consider adoption, but talk to his and your parents first. Grandparents often raise their grandchilden now days. But raising a youngster at 17/18 is hard, you will need support. No more unprotected sex! Period. If your going to play like an adult act like one and be responsible.
I was a teen mother. I am 27 now and my children's father is my husband of almost 11 years. I can only tell you that not everything works the same for everyone. I would not take anything for my children. I look at it this way.. When my children are old enough to take care of them selves, I will continue with starting my career. Stay in school, if you need to work, work. I have one of the best husbands and the most beautiful loving children. We got a lot of criticism in the beginning, but several people have had to apologize now that we have made things work on our own and are wonderful parents. You will be just fine, try not to worry and set goals and never give up on anything. You can move mountains when you are pushed to do so.
I'm 21 and mother of 4,yeah i do wish that i waited longer to get pregnant.Hun, you gotta be careful and tell you paretns and the father of the baby that you're pregnant they'll help trust me. you are too young but i wont give you a lecture on that ('cause i was younger when i had my first one.) go to the doctor regulary and dont have sex again until you older.i got a abortion when i had my 1st child and i wished i hadn't, so just relax take the pregancy medication and stay positive you could do it.Good Luck!
im a teen mom i got preg. at 16 and i am now 19 and i have two wounderful babies a boy and a girl. Yes i wished i would of waited longer because i droped out of school and i am a stay at home mom and my husband the father of my children just got a $11 hour job after going through job to job before finding one that pays bills without stuggling so yes it will be hard but it is worth it so dont give up your miracle because he/she can chane your life forever. best of luck to you.
I got pregnant at 17(am now 27, married w/ 2 kids) and yes I wish I waited. I feel like I grew up with my daughter. And now that I am older, I find parenting very difficult next to other parents who went to college, got married and PLANNED their children. But guess what- my daughter also changed my life. She is everything I always imagined her to be. It will be hard, but it is worth it, with or without support. I was single without any family and I made it, so you can too. It will take some major life changes but hang in there. good luck and remember- a baby is a gift for God. feel free to email me if you ever need to talk
Well, I am 35 now--and my beautiful, smart daughter is almost 18--minus 18 years i had her at 17--yea it was hard, not that much though. Life is life--I was and always will be a teen mom--it changes you mostly in good ways--you gain so much from having a child so young and lose some things. But I will tell you I have learned so much by having her young and we are so close because I was (and am:)) a young mom. Things in life work out--I was in the same thing you are now 18 years ago and wouldn't change a thing except for the abortion I had a year after she was born--I miss that child. That is my regret.
I still finished high school, went to college, got married and had 3 more kids--you can still pursue your dreams with a babe. I already told you my only regret in life.
hey i got pregnant at 17 too but that was like 2 yrs ago im 19 and pregnant with my second child... yes im still with my hubby and were excited about another one ... i know i could have waited longer to start having a family but i do NOT regret my beautiful little daughter which is a 1 yr old im due in march Its a boy! well when i was working i got 6.15 an hour your doing much better than i did so your good...i wish i had $8 an hour lol...you will do good but the thing is you wont be able to go out anymore maybe yes once in a while but not as much as you used to...i miss going out but its motherhood...good luck to you and your baby! i forgot to mention i did finish high school im in college right now you can still follow your dreams...
Things may be tough for a while, but please hang in there - it will all be worth it. I had my daughter while I was 17 and still in high school. When I found out for sure that I was pregnant, my heart sank and I thought my life was over - I think I cried for at least 3 days.
How wrong I was and how little I knew.
My beautiful girl is 10 years old now (making me 27) and I wouldn't trade her for anything in the world. I am a college graduate, married to a wonderful man and am now expecting another child this coming July. Life does go on and things do, in fact, work themselves out.
It might be easier to have your life all planned out before you have a child, but that's not usually how it works in the real world. Just go with it, enjoy it, and be grateful that you are having this little miracle. You can raise a child and still become what you want to become in your life.
My best wishes and heart go out to you. Please stay strong and seek support if you need it, but hang in there.
I know where your coming from. im 19 and im pregnant with my first. I am engaged tot he father. i do live on my own tho. I do wish we would have waited longer. It only takes one night of forgetting a condom, then your pregnant.
I totally agree with you, abortion is wrong.
Email me if you want to talk about your pregnancy
Heather_did_it@hotmail.com
I know exactly what you are going through the only thing is that my baby's dad never stuck around..I was 16 when I got pregnant with my daughter and I was 16 when I had her. I love her to death she will be 9 in June. If I could I would have waited if I would have known everything that I know that but other than that I would have not changed a thing. I am 25 years old now. I found a man to marry me when my baby was two and we have been married now for 5 years it will be 6 in October. And we have three other children together. So in my opinion just because we are teen moms it does not make us any different then the rest of them. Just think you will get to spend more time with the grand kids that is how i look at it now that I am older because if my daughter were to get pregnant the same time that I did that would make me a grandma at 32 and that would make me happy..Well that is enough about my story...I wish you the best of luck in what ever decisions that you make...And congrats on the baby ( if there is one) I also wanted to tell you that I also lived at home with my parents and they were very supportive. I went to school and worked and my mom watched my daughter so that I could do both.
I hope your not consindering that. I am 23 I got preg at 17 I was so shocked my boyfriend who is now my husband was so helpful and both our parents are great. i would never take anything back I am so happy being a mom and you know what nothing should stop you from doing what you want yeah it is a little harder but you have to be strong I worked until my due date, finished high school. went on to collage graduated. you can be a mom and be other things trust me you just have to apply yourself. but I am glad that I had when I did. now I want another one it is a blessing to have a baby good luck
hey i got pregnant at 17 and actually i was so happy but i had gotten my ged before i got pregnant so i wasnt in school. thats awesome your still with the father. having a baby is a hard thing but it is so worth it when you see that sweet smile everyday. im 21 now and there are some things that i missed doing like going to college but i figure i can do that later when there in school.
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