16 and pregnant!!!?
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Well, waiting will only make it worse. Just come out and tell her over dinner. Or, if you can't tell her in words give her a letter. She might be mad at first, but she will get over it. She loves you no matter what you do. She cannot force you into abortion or anything like that, so don't worry.
Tell her you are very very sorry that you've made a Big Mistake and you need her help. Be prepared to deal with a lot of anger and weeping. She will come round eventually, but will be desperately upset and disappointed that her little baby is having a baby!!
Good Luck!
Maybe there's another relative or family friend that you can talk to before speaking to your mum, who can back you up?
Just tell her! She's going to find out at some point. I hope that since she has such a strong faith in God that she won't believe in abortion.
Congrats! You're going to be a mommy!!
It was your mistake. You must be responsible and speak to
your mom right away. If she is so religilous, she will not
turn her back on you. She should know it would be wrong to do that.
awwwwwwwww that was a hard question it matters how it happen if it was on purpose then just be like mah i think i am ready to have a child or if on acident tell her thet you aint mean to tell her this but you are having a child and hope she understands
Your mother will love you and guide you through this. You will need to rely on her more than anyone else. She will surely be upset and disappointed, but you need to be honest with herand trust her advice. Let her know that you know you let her down. Just remember even though she may get mad, she will always love you. Tell her right away.
You need to just tell her. She might take it better then you think. Holding it from her will make everything worse. So get up the courage and tell her.
Well, I think if he is so religious, then why is he having sex? Also, maybe you should just tell him, what else can you do? You know.
You will have to just straight out and tell her, she will be upset and may even say some things hurtful to you. But then she will calm down and things will go from there. Are you prepared for a baby? Please do not abort, do adoption if you can't handle motherhood this early. Make sure you are sorry about being pregnant this young to your mother, if you show any signs that you are happy about this.. it will make her even more upset. Praying for you .. hope all goes well.
better to tell her bluntly and soon. its not going to be fun or easy, but the sooner you break the news, the sooner she can get over it. she'll be really sad and mad at first, and maybe disappointed, but she loves you and she'll be able to help you.
Hey listen tell her that you are not sorry that some people out there can not concieve a baby n god out it there for a reason n she can't fight with that! Also if you do not want it then do not have an abortion, give it to me PLEASE I can't have a baby and me and my hubby have been trying for about a year now n so call me n tell me what you think 407 272 5422
I would decide what YOU want to do first, then I would write her a letter. Warn her the letter is going to be "life changing." Maybe put a little picture of you as a baby on the front of the letter (before she opens it) and write on the front of it "I Love You Mom."
You must be scared. However please tell her as she has to come to terms with your pregnacy. She is religious and will forgive you in her heart and faith. She is your mum and will guide you in the right direction. Good luck
Have you any family?Or you could take her along to the doctor and he/she can break the news to them.Wish you the best of luck with your problem and hope every thing turns out ok for you.
You must tell your mom. You made the mistake so you have to live with it. I find that with many young pregnancies the mom will be against it fully, but then they seem to come around when the baby is born. I think you should have like a family intervention in which you have some of your close family members backing you up. Though you are young, you must present a plan on how you will work to support this child. You were responsible enough to make the child, so show your mom that you are responsible enough to raise the child.
i say go to a teenage pregancy shelter and talk to them ... have them call your parents in.. or how to tell you parents. My sons gf is pregnant she is 21 she comes from the same religious family as you . her parents especially her father were very disappointed but because she is their daughter they stll are standing by her choice. they asked her to give up the baby and or have an abortion , she chooose nottttt... she is going to have thebaby any day. her parents are making her take care of everything since she made the choice of having the baby, BUT they refuse to kick her out since she is young and they still love her. on emore important factor, DONT GIVE UP YOUR EDUCATION. conitinue as you would if no baby with help of family and friends. stay in school is a must and let your parents know your going to still get your education...
i agree, i think you should def tell your mom. The question is though, do you want to keep your baby and are you ready to deal with it. Just know that you have a lot of options, and abortion is not always the answer and neither is keeping the baby. You can give it for adoption as well. All i am trying to say is do what YOU want to do. Not what your mom wants, what you want to do. Tell your mom you are sorry, but you wanted to come to her because you value her opinion and you go to her when you need help dealing with things. Your mother loves you and she may act very rash, but in the end it will end better than it begins when you first initially tell her. Be honest with her, because the longer you wait, the harder it will be.
And lastly, how sure are you that you are pregnant? Did you take a test or have you just skipped a period? I am only asking because I had a scare and had to face the same thing.
Good luck, I hope it works out for you, it always works out some how.
I also agree.. DO NOT GIVE UP YOUR EDUCATION
Hiya, I know someone who was in a similar position to you a few years ago. Firstly, you need to decide whether or not you intend you have this baby. You need consider your options: adoption, abortion or keeping the baby. Also, what support you will have, money, housing etc. Most importantly, you must remember that it is your life and your own decision. My parents are strict and 'religious' in most ways, but at the end of the day thats their choice not mine. While, yes your mother may indeed be shocked and disapproving, she should respect your choices and own beliefs. My aunty and uncle were totally against my cousin having her baby at first, as she was your age, at school and partner-less. However, they soon accepted it, despite being roman catholic and realised that it wasn't up to them to dictate the outcome. My cousin is living proof that it can work out, she has a beautiful baby girl, a well-paid job, a house and supportive family around her. I suggest you discuss it with a sibling, relative or family friend before telling your mam. However, if you do tell her make sure you have someone their to support you. Good luck.
She doesn't believe in children before marriage for good reason. Why didn't you consider this predicament before you decided to have unprotected sex.
You seem irresponsible and immature . . not the perfect qualities for bringing up a child. Who's income will be clothing and feeding your little one, not yours I shouldn't wonder.
You need to talk to you mom. Be honest and explain that you know she might be upset and dissapointed, but you made a bad judgement call. This doesnt make you a "bad" person. You made a mistake, but this baby is NOT a mistake! Your mom is going to love you regardless of what mistakes you made. Consider if you want to raise this child as a family or if you want to bless someone else with the ultimate gift. Please do not consider abortion, this baby didnt ask to be killed before he/she has a chance to live. Just talk to your mom, be honest. Her relationship with God will allow her to know that we are just people, we make mistakes. Wish you the best with your mom! And being a mommy, 16 or 26 really is the greatest!
tell her because if u don't she'll find out. i don't know how but mum's always hav the knack of finding things out. the best way would be to sit her down n then tell her. if she shouts at u tell her that u r an adult n cn make u're own decisions but thought that it was important that she should know. Also get in touch with the father so u both cn stick together. lol
best of luck
it is scary, i know. im 17 and 32 weeks pregnant. both my parents wanted me to get an abortion, but i didnt want to. i got married to the father of the baby ( we had been together for 3 years anyways and were already planning on getting married ) and now i live with him, and everything is fine w/ my parents. it took them a while to adjust, but they did. just tell your mom in a situation where you feel comfortable, and no matter what she says to you, know that its b/c she loves you and it scares her that her baby is having a baby. but if you decide to keep the baby, she will love it more than anything. do what you think is right. its your choice. good luck!
I worte my mom a letter when I found out I was pregnant with my daughter. it went over much easyer than I had expected. waiting will only have worse effects on your relationship with your mom, it would be better to just come out and tell her. just be like " Mom, I made a mistake, I hope you wont judge me for it." Good luck kid, it will be ok in the end.
hey if u are planning on keeping the baby u can just sign up for something on the internet to do with pregnancy or baby then when she see's the letter she is going to ask u if u are pregnant then u can tell her dont be scared she can only shout at u once have faith in urself.xx congrats
you should really go and talk to your mother and let her know what's going on because the longer you wait the worst its going to be. Because my little sister is now 16 and just had her baby boy in November 2006 and we didn't even found out that she was pregnant until she was 5 months but she knew from the get go but she kept it from us. And she had a lot of complication with her pregnancy that she didn't even know about..so sweetie please go and tell your mother because these things can be really serious she going to be upset with you truth enough but she'll understand in the end. Good luck sweetie and congrats
HEY GUYS STOP READING THE RIOT ACT TO THIS GIRL.WHATS DONE IS DONE...SHE ASKED HOW TO TELL HER MUM.SHE DIDN'T ASK FOR ABUSE FROM PEOPLE THAT SHOULD KNOW BETTER..where is the compassion...some of you really don't care do you.
I agree with alot of the good advice that you have been given...first of all you have to decide what is best for you.if you have the baby or not...once you kind of know which way you feel then sit her down and tell her the truth, its going to be hard and painful for the both of you...but stick to your guns and if you need to tell someone else that you can trust and talk to.maybe get them to be there when you tell your mum.
I wish you all the best with whatever you decide and hope that you get the support that you need xx
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