Do you find that your husband/boyfriend gets ignored at your pregnancy appointments?
How about you?
Answer:
No, I never experienced this, even now my health visitor either talks to my husband or if he isn't with me she will ask how he is. Throughout my whole pregnancy, all professionals included my husband.
depends, do you take him to every midwife checkup? because i don't do that, my husband will come to the scans and ante natal classes with me but i don't think there's any need for him to go to every check up with me. There wouldn't be much for him to get involved with at them!
Yes thats true.And it gets worse when you are in labour.When i was in labour,they sent my boyfriend home for a few hours as they said i needed rest.It was awful.
Ye that is true they do ignore them that was one of the reasons why i changed midwives and managed to get my doctor who was a midwife as my midwife she was amazing and consulted and disc used everything this made all of our lives a lot better and we were able to understand things more.
good luck and congratulations.
Well, I just found out that I'm pregnant and my darling boyfriend is already making funny faces when I tell him when the appointments are and that he has to go with me. He would rather work and get a little overtime. I'm going to get my friend to go with me sometimes so he doesn't get the blues.
depends on your doctor... my husband didn't come with me to many appointments, but my doctor always asked how he was and if he was staying involved, etc, and when he did come with me, they would chat and the doctor would always ask questions like "do you have any questions about what to expect?" or "would you like to come find the heartbeat?" to get him involved. You can always try to get a different doctor, or at an appointment that your husband doesn't go to, try talking to your doctor and ask him to try and involve your husband more in the appointments. My husband was so excited and very involved in my pregnancy thanks to my doctor!!
Do you want the Doctor to charge consultation fees for your husband as well.
I think you're just lucky you can get him to go. I've *never* been able to get my husband to come with me, but that has mostly something to do with his absolute fear and hatred of all doctors. Even if he's not the one being poked. :p
It's no biggie. Us blokes realise you are taxi driver for one and we are taxi driver for two.
I don't take my husband along to my ante natal appointments. I don't feel he needs to be there while I have my blood pressure taken and my wee checked. If there was a problem with the baby and I went for a scan or to see a consultant, then he would come. But for routine ante natal appointments I really don't think it's necessary.
At these appointments, the midwife is essentially checking the mother's body, and is making assumptions about the baby on the signals her body is giving. Therefore I'm not surprised that they don't involve the partner too much. Where the sperm came from is irrelevant for their job!!
No! They didn't ignore him, they seemed to have talk to him more than me. I was like hey, I am the one carrying the baby. Talk to me...lol.
I was going to keep him in the waiting room, and they were like nooooooooo bring him back. It was weird.
my hubby goes to the ultrasounds with me when I had them but the pre-natels he don't that's just because they are always when he is working. First child for the both of us
I never had this problem .. but my husband is chatty and would jump into the conversation , and when i was in labour he had the nurses running after him making him toast and coffee and i was left lying on the bed being totally ignored !
our doctor made a point to talk to both of us which we really appreciated... unfortunately we m/c but the doctor still put my husband and I on equal peg and talked to us both about OUR loss. I would tell my midwife if she ignored him ... he is a part of this and we want him to feel welcome or he might back away, thinking he is not included or needed which of course he is. congrats on the bub!
Fortunately, I have a very attentive doctor. My husband is not able to make every single appointment. He has made about 75% of them and every time he is with me, my doctor always includes him and makes sure he answers all of our questions. He addresses my husband directly and includes him in all discussions. Gaging from the other answers, I guess we are very fortunate and have an excellent doctor.
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My husband is the father of all of my children - we were married after our first was born.
With my first pregnancy he was unable to go to all of my appointments, my mom went with me instead. With the second pregnancy I went alone most of the time. With this pregnancy he's come with to all the appointments and just this last one him and my doctor were busy talking while I was sitting on the table waiting for the doctor was looking for the heart beat. It was kind of funny in a way, but at the time I didn't think so.
I'm just glad that my doctor, who is a man, is sensitive to how the fathers feel and talks to them just as much as the woman who is there to see him.
i havent had this problem..which is good..when my husband goes they aknowledge both of us and they ask if we both have any questions which i really like..now if they didnt i would say something..it is both of you...good luck and congrats..
The midwife/doctors concern is you and the baby as you are the patients. In what way would you like them to involve your husband/boyfriend?!? My Fiancee insisted on coming with me to my first MW appointment (even though I told him not to bother) and my midwife asked him if he would like to feel my baby through my tummy like she does when she is checking the size/position but I think this is probably uncommon. He accepted but was useless as he is afraid of pushing too hard LOL. It is like going to the doctors for any other reason, you wouldn't expect your doctor to acknowledge whoever you went with as they aren't the patient, you are.
My doctor is very friendly and caring and at our first appointment, he included my fiancee into every aspect of the conversation that he could. Of course, when the questions were just about how I was feeling physically or emotionally, my fiancee couldn't really answer that! My doctor did call my fiancee over to us every time we hear the heart beat, though, and the technician even adjusted the monitor when I had my ultrasound done. When the physical exams are done, we often sit down in my doctor's personal office and discuss our concerns regarding future blood tests, caring for our future son, and anything else that might worry us. I feel as though he gives us equal time.
she acknowledged both of us. if i asked a question she answered by making eye contact with both of us. maybe your husband should make himself noticed more by asking a question or saying "what can i do for my wife/girlfriend to make things more comfortable?"
i wanted a female ob/gyn but got stuck with a male at the practice i wanted to go to. and suprisingly he asked my husband if he had any questions. i guess having a male ob/gyn has its perks for the significant other that is a male.
Can i just say its very unfair and you are extremely lucky that your man takes time to support you congrats on baby and choice in men!
yeah most of my midwives and drs were like that,however the nurse that gives my son his jabs, is brilliant..we are both deaf and will tell me what is going to happen then explain it all to my partner again to make sure we both know whats happening.she also makes ask BOTH of us if we have any questions..cant fault her!
i think some drs cant be bothered some days,its just work to them and they dont actually think that we are all real people..
oh well!!
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