Terrible 2's 3's4's?
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I am haveing a problem with my son too not to the extent you are having with your nefew but here is what i am tring. when he acts out first breath.lol Then come down to his level and tell him that the behavior is unacceptable with you. Tell him that if it happens again he will recieve a time out on a chair of your choice with no tv or toys for five mins. When he does it again pick him up and put him in the chair...ignor screaming or freaking out. if he gets out of the chair tell him that his time starts again and put him back on the chair... unless he is just squirming around. dont get mad the calmer you stay the less he will act out kids like to get a reaction from you. The first couple of times he will keep getting out and you will just have to put him back on it. but dont worry he will soon learn that you will not tolerate the behavior and will be amazing with you. I promise if you just keep this attitude it really does work. just remember to tell him that everytime he gets out of the chair his time stars over again. Good luck.
talk to his parents about millitary preschool..jk.you do need to talk to your brother/sister about how he behaves and work together on how to correct his behavior.and believe me your kids will get their revenge when they get old enough.
First of all stop trying to PUNISH him and start learning to DISCIPLINE him. Spanking and yelling is only proving that YOU'RE out of control..YOU are acting just like he is so WHY SHOULD he listen to you and mind you? Resorting to violence is going to do nothing but teach the child to be violent...and obviously it's working. Maybe some parenting books or classes might help you? It is obvious this child NEEDS discipline and worst that those around him have no clue as to how to do it...I pity this poor child because the adults around him are very undereducated in child rearing.
Spanking teaches kids that might equals right. It also makes it harder for them to trust and makes them more afraid and it is difficult for them to handle authority.
Once you hit a child they never forget it and will hold it against you.
If you have to resort to hitting a child you have failed as a parent and never should have had a child.
I would because its not worth putting ur babies in misery in their house!
Your nephews discipline is not your problem. You have your hands full with your own little ones.
Let your sis know that he can't come over until he learns to behave or she learns to control him. Having him there is putting your kids in danger and that's not fair to them or to you. Plus the screaming, yelling and hitting is hard on your kids.
For your own information as your twins become older, spanking and yelling really isn't a good way to discipline. Consistent rules and punishments work much better than yelling or hitting and they teach kids to think rather than react to something frightening. My two boys have made it to 14 and 19 without ever having been spanked and they're as well behaved as they can be.
You definately need to have a heart to heart with your nephew's parents and with him and insist that if he doesn't behave then he can't come over until he learns to remember the rules in your house. It doesn't matter how old he is he can learn that when he is at your house, you have special rules and if he breaks the rules he has to go home. Then make your sister/brother or in-law take him home.
It's your house, if the child's parents get mad, they only have themselves to be mad at because they haven't been firm enough in disciplining him. Many years ago my parents told my brother and his wife they didn't want to come over for dinner anymore until their boys learned some manners. It worked.All their boys are grown now and well behaved young adults
To be completely honest, that is a situation where you need to let his mother know that either she gets her son in check or that his visits to your house should be minimal. It's not because you don't love your sister or your nephew. You have to look out for your children first. My husband and I have some friends who are sweet people, but there son is NUTS. He is always terrorizing my son and my son is 2 years younger than this boy. we had to lay some groundwork with the parents and let them know that their son, while we loved him, was not allowed to come to play with ours until he learned some boundaries. That required them to have to get him under control. things have gotten much better, but when you've exhausted your resources trying to correct this boy, you must put him back on his parents.
Spanking fuels aggression.
When You find the answer to this PLEASE let me know. I have a 3 year old daughter who is out of control nothing works. My family said if I don't stop her now she will be way worse when shes older.
damn... :/ tell your sister she either has to come alone, or not come at all if she can't get away from her son. its not to be mean, but she should sympathize with the fact that you have baby twins!
as far as the spanking, a good spanking and apology works. kept my *** in check. let him know that he can't treat babies like that. good luck :)
if he continues to act like a little ***, then tell his mother to PARENT him. You shouldn't be the one doling out the punishment if she is present. Sounds to me that you are running a zoo!
If spanking doesn't work, try sticking his hand over a hot flame or making him kneel on rice like my momma used to. Of course, I am KIDDING>
You need to tell your sister if she can't control your nephew not to bring him over to your house. I have a friend that has an out of control 3 yrs old, my daughter was only 7 months old and her daughter picked up a toy and threw it at my daughter's head. After putting her in isolation for about 5 mins, I called her mother and told her to come get her. Then I told her mother if she couldn't behave herself, she was not welcome at my house. It is his mother responsiblity to disipline him, you need to concentrate on your twins. Yelling at him and spanking him will only make things worst.
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