What age should a parent give their child a swat on the bottom for a slight temper tantrum in a restaurant?
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I hit my kid with a spoon and he came out great!
never swatted my kid so i have no idea..time out works alot better then hitting
NEVER!
When they can stand up.
If they're old enough to know how to throw a tantrum, they're old enough to recieve a swat. A slight swat, just enough to get thier attention and let them know you mean business.
hitting your children reinforces violent types of behavior. Sure, they'll learn not to do it- but they may end up hitting their kids someday too. Don't forget, the young mind works as a constant tape-recorder; it records almost EVERYTHING it sees, feels, tastes, smells, touches, etc. All of this is filed away in the subconscious, and people basically go crazy when their subconscious surfaces later on in life. Proven psychology my friend.
When you know they know the difference between wrong and right.
Spare the rod...spoil the child.
I don't think they should be swatted at all. Take them outside and do not go back in the resturant until your child has calmed down. small children can usually only sit down at a table for about 15-20 min before they get bored and want down. Take some games, paper, pens; make a game with the crackers. Just keep them busy and you should be ok for a while...
i wouldnt in a retaurant because people our trying to relax and if you can find a sitter would be better .Ive been having the same problem, and Ive made up my mind Im gonna just stay at home or in the car until they know how to act.Sending them to bed when you get hme seems to work the best.Spanking for boys seems to never sink in .You could smack there hand .
I am SO not trying to be rude, but I can't help but laugh a little when I see parents doing this. It makes the parent look foolish. If you have to swat your kid to "show you mean business" or "get their attention", then you've already lost the battle.
And in a restaurant, it only makes the child louder and more miserable, which really annoys other people who came there to enjoy their meal without howling children and parents who have to resort to brawn over brains.
You should get inside the brain of an infant./toddler and see even what a "swat" does. My child participated in a study once. A group of little ones were put in a room with "no-no's", like the breakable things that grandparents have. Half were verbally told "no" and re-directed. Half were swatted on the hand. Later, they brought in toys for the kids. The ones who were swatted didn't reach for ONE THING. Not even the good things. The ones who were verbally and physically re-directed played with the toys and left the other items alone.
Now tell me this: Which kid is going to be more successful in their learning? One who is going to just sit on the floor and rock back and forth and not know their boundaries unless a physical strike is involved? Or the one who has a parent who takes the time to explain what is right/wrong and TEACH them.
First, don';t believe the tripe about hitting reinforces violent behavoir. Its pure crap. Those clowns who do not sufficiently punish their children are creating a herd of horrid little disasters and aren't doing the kids any favors. For many/most children time outs and stern words only work for so long. Those are the kids that are growing up to be totally unmanagable. Don't let yours become like that. Not one of my siblings grew up to be violent nor have any of our kids. We were all spanked. Oh, and all my kids, who were all spanked were hnoors students and now are on their way to being successful adults.
Second. Do not punish your child in a resturant. You will make matters worse. Excuse yourself and do it out in the car or otherwise away from others. There are two good reasons for that. Punishment should always be private as a matter of the child's dignity. And when you pop him/her they are likely to scream about it. That's rude to the other patrons.
After you have punished the child, explain what you expect when you go back in. Then go back in to finish your meal.
The appropriate age for a swat on the bottom for a temper tantrum in a restaurant is the age at which the first temper tantrum is thrown.
Screw these anti-hit liberals, don't smack your kid, yeah and there kids are the most f-----d up ones with no respect toward their parents. Get control why they are little and smack there hand, to let them know who is in control. Time out is bullshit and works for some kids not others. Don't worry what people think in the long run you will have the disiplined child, not these do-gooders who say" oh No never smack your kid" Come on!
If you can tell it is a tantrum and not crying for important reasons, then they are old enough to swat. They know better if it is just a tantrum they are throwing. A swat will tell them that tantrums are wrong. It is a good idea to take them into the restroom and do this, then talk to them as well. Let them know the reason you are doing this. Even if they don't fully understand what you are saying, they will understand that a tantrum means bad consequences. Say the same thing every time this happens too and they will learn what you mean. Then next time you are in the restarant or whatever, you can threaten to "take them to the restroom." This will teach them good behavior in public and that tantrums are unacceptable.
Like many have said when they are old enough to throw a temper tantrum they are old enough to be spanked.
These days it is tough to give a swat in a public place--people will look at you like you are the post evil person in the world. But I applaud you big time!!
One thing about kids/toddlers is that a swat dosen't do all that much through all the padding.. It is much more effective to give a swat or two on their bare behind. But that is even tougher to do in public these days. But, if I saw it I would go over and give Mom a big hug:)
never
My daughter is 22 mths old and i just did it for the first time last week and she sure understood that i was mad and she stopped!!
Dont ever. Any form of contact like that is abusive and will only hurt the kid. It will only lead to worse beatings. Anyone who would physically hurt their own kid should be shot.
My parents hit me and I bit their heads off!
Don't do it. You will look like a fool and the kid will keep screaming. It does not work. Go to family restaurants and practice good manners. Make a game out of it. Toddlers will get on board with jsut about anything if it is presented as a fun game.
I don't think at any age that a child should be swat in public. I think if youdo that you make your self look bad. Also it make that clild feel bad when older. I think if you child acts up than leave and don't go out any more that day. This will teach the kid that you won't put up with this. That if thay act up that won't be able to be out. This has worked on my kids and a few friends i know also.
I started my son when he was 1 not hard but just so he knows that what he was doing is wrong besides you dont want your kids running all over you
Never should spank a kid. But if they have to, mabye 5 or 6.
Don't swat him, just remove him from the situation. Keep your cool and be in control of your emotions and you will be teaching him how to control his when he feels overwhelmed.
what has physical violence ever taught you? Never.
WELL DOCTOR PHIL SAYS THAT NOT B4 18MONTHS BUT AFTER THAT A LITTLE SPANKING IS FINE...BUT MY DOCTOR TOLD ME IT WAS OKAY TO SPANK MY 12 MONTH OLDS HANDS FOR HITTING ME...BUT THEY SAY REPETITIONS WORKS FOR UNDER 18MONTHS JUST KEEP SAYING NO OR STOP AND FIX MAKE THEM DO IT WHILE SAYING IT IT'S WORKING WITH MY 15MONTH OLD
u should either tell them nicely to sit down and if they don't listen go to the bathroom and spank them
Except for a couple of you who said TAP DAT AZZ when the child knows better, I'll see the rest of you "June Cleaver" types on Jerry Springer as the parents who's kids are Running the House. TIME OUT to a child means You Will NEVER Do Anything To Me! You can train a puppy to behave, but they will still grow up to be DOGS -- it's in their nature - they have teeth to bite just test them and see. My mom knew how to boomerang her shoes, but we all turned out just fine -- Computer Systems Engineer at age 21.
I myself would not swat in public just because there our those HOLIER then THOUS out there that think hitting is a bad thing. I believe in a spank now and then just to bring them back to reality then discuss the situation.
If your child is throwing a major tantrum them remove them from the area and calm them down. Your child may be bored, tired, irritated, and frustrated. They may be fine but worse comes to worse then get your dinner to go. You may have to sacrifice your eating out once in awhile. If it is mild tantrum then think about what he is thinking, how he sees being confined in a chair. Try to do things to distract him and keep him occupied. Try a quick walk around the restraunt until your food arrives (assuming that you are with your spouse to watch over your things). Kids are kids, they can't be perfect all the time, the important thing is to keep your patients with your child. Your child feeds off of your emotions, he sees you stressed he will become stressed. Remain calm.
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