Is it really a big deal that my son still has a blankie?
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Tell daddy to suck it up and let the kid be a kid. There is absolutely nothing wrong with him wanting his blankie. If he was 20 years old, that would be a different story. Good luck.
I think it's fine too.
While it may be embarassing to daddy, the ill-effects of calling him a 'baby' or 'just grow up' are more harmful than walking around with a 'blankie'.
While other 'sources' may say, "don't listen to your husband", I'm sure your husband wants what's best (emotionally) for your(s) child also. Show him some other examples of kids, or get some online resources of other examples, - and present it to him in an accommodating way.
But in the end, - it's not something that should be allowed to cause a 'rift' in the marriage.
BTW: emotionally complete adults come from being emotionally complete childish children. (with plenty of imaginary friends and discipline at their level).
Some kids have comfort toys - it sounds like your son's blanket is one of his. I used to always sleep with a cabbage-patch doll when I was little. Don't listen to your husband. If your son really wants his blanket, then let him have it.
There's no reason to make him give it up. If he's just using it at home or in the car then why put him through the stress. He'll give it up when he's ready.
I think if he just uses it for sleeping a playing around the house then let him keep it. I still use mine(15)just to sleep with though it is like a security blanket for him.
Dont make him stop.. He will forget about it someday., when he'd be 10 or so.. And you're right, it doesnt hurt nobody.. Let him be happy... It is not a big deal!
I would allow him his blanket for as long as he likes. When I was young I always wanted my blanket with me in winter.
If it makes him calm&happy I do not see anything wrong with it!! He will get rid of it when HE is ready to !
I don't think its a problem at all. He's not hurting anything and doesn't seem that attached since he doesn't take it with him everywhere. My cousin had a blankie he was attached to when he was little. He kept it for years and it did go everywhere with him. He just turned 30 a few days ago and he turned out to be a fine, young man even though he carried his blankie until he was 6 or 8 years old.
No...not at all. You mentioned that he doesn't take it to daycare so that will be a plus later on down the road. When he gets to that "school age" it may be time to start weaning him off the blanket.
I think its totally normal! He is only 4 yrs old, let him keep his blankie!!
My son is 10 years old and he still has a blankie, he only uses it when he goes to bed. There is no problem there, let him have his comfort.
He seems to be using it as a security shield at certain times. If he is happy let him use it, he will eventually stop.
My son is 4 years old also and he still has his blankie from when he was born. He sucks on it everyday wherever he goes it has to come with us. My boyfreind and many others think its time for him to get rid of it. I definitly dont agree i told my boyfreind to get rid of his favorite thing first, but of course he wouldnt. I think it is so cute that he loves his blankie so much. Its not harmong no one and it keeps him happy so i see nothing wrong with having it at all. dont take it from him.
Your Son is fine.. So let him be.. I would draw the line if he starts dragging it with him to High School, or on his first date.. other than that.. There's no harm in his wanting to hold a blanket.
Tell your husband to relax, he's not taking it to his NFL tryouts.
At four years old no. My youngest son took his blankie everywhere until he went to school. He is now 19 going to college and playing baseball. He has a wonderful girlfriend and is doing great. I don't think the blankie had an ill effect on him. It is just a security thing.
I am going to have four children soon and my third child is attached to her blanket. I never gave her a pasifer and she is almost three only at bed she wants her blanket. I am thinking they grow out of it. Next year he will be going to school soon. We all have our favorites even as grown ups we like our certain pair of pjs or certain pillows we like. He is normal dont worry about it. Im not the type of mother who babys on children to much but i think its always ok to make your child feel safe and loved. Its alot better than seeing him with a pasfier your not trying to keep him a baby so dont worry about it.
Its ok 4 a 4 yr old to have blanket. But when he starts kindergarten hide all of his blankets where he cant reach them cause if he is at attatched to them for to long when he starts to have friends over and stuff people will tease him and make him feel embarrassed and sad.
Who was the most reasonable and loveable of the Peanuts gang? Linus, of course...he of the Blanket.
Of course it was just a comic strip, but it sounds like your husband wants your son to just "grow up and be a little man". If your son was inordinately attached to any of his blankies, he'd be demanding to take one everywhere. I don't see any harm whatsoever in allowing him to have it if he finds it comforting. Whatever your husband thinks, your son is still a small child!
And ten years from now, you'll be nostalgic about the days when a mere blanket was the "problem"!
i'm having an issue with my 2 year old step daughter about having a blankie. normally, it wouldn't be that big of a deal since she's only 2, but when she was an infant, instead of a pacifier, she stuck her blanket in her mouth, so now she has an oral fixation to go with her attatchment. so we're having to keep all blankets out of her sight until it's time for bed.
but as for your son, 4 years old is a little old to still be doing the blankie thing. not too long from now, he's going to be starting school, and the last thing he needs is to give his friends a reason to make fun of him. he's a big boy now, so he needs to start acting like one.
You should let him have it. He's only four there's no reason to take it from him. In due time he'll stop using it .Let him grow in his time.
NO it's let him have his blankie. At least he isn't in bed with you, sucking a thumb, using a bottle, or a binkie. I'm 22 years old and still have my childhood teddy bear...and i still use it too. It's a security. He's starting school and getting holder it helps him settle down and get through life there isn't any harm.
I'm sure his dad would have no problem if it was a truck. He will let go when he's ready probably sooner than you think.
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