Am i just over reacting or should i be concerned?
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Maybe you can talk to your son about standing in line and why he needs to do it. Maybe he just doesn't understand why it's important.
Also, is there anyone other than that teacher you can talk to about how your son's doing? There are good and bad teachers, obviously, and the other teachers may have different perceptions. There's a lot of pressure on teachers these days--I've heard more than one complain that it's difficult to bring every kid up to No Child Left Behind standards, especially when some parents show no interest in helping--and it could just be that she thinks dealing with a kid who's not obedient is too much work on top of everything else. I don't know if failure to listen is really an age-dependent thing; did she offer any advice on how you can help him progress?
He's 4!! For goodness sake stand up for your kid to this teacher and remind her that he is an individual who is a baby! Not a bleedin' soldier!! he is a child...he will make mistakes..if she can't handle that in a gentle nurturing way then she is in the wrong job!
b0ll0x to the teachers...lines get on my t1ts sumtimes
Listening is not a reason to keep from going to school..No you are not over reacting
I would ask a proffesional if I were you but your son is probably just very bright and has a hard time staying focused. It's not a bad thing, I wouldn't hold him back I'd just try to emphasize with him that he needs to do what the teachers ask of him. Kids will be kids.
I think you should be the judge. Who on earth does this teacher think she is, saying something like that? He's 4 for goodness sake! If your son doesn't perform or behave as well for your teacher as he does for you then it's a sign that he has a poor teacher.
He's your kid, you judge. Just because he doesn't stand in line doesn't mean you should hold him back. that's why they advance, so they can learn more.
You should be the judge. If he can handle the intellectual side of school, the social skills will fall into place - just work with him at home to make sure he understands that he needs to do what his teachers ask.
Because he doesn't listen to the teacher doesn't mean that he isn't ready. Some kids in school don't listen to their teachers. You know what your son is capable of. If u think he;s ready, then he is.
How can she say now that he won't be ready in August? It's a long time off. In the meantime you can turn any misbehaviour around.
Go with your gut. If he gets to kindergarten and isn't thriving he can stay another year...no worries, no regrets. If anything he will get used to life in school and the new rules, activities, and routines.
What a big fat load of rubbish. Yes he's ready for school! What she meant to say is "i'm not very good at my job and cant be @rsed with the kids". The only way to learn to do all the things such as get in line is to go to school and do them.
I think you should test him yourself . This way you could show that he could do the work .Good luck !
I would take the teachers advice my son turned 5 in August and i started him when he was barley 5 and he is getting by but struggling. My son is very intelligent but school is hard. My son would be excelling now instead of struggling if I had waited. I found out to late the general rule of thumb is start boys at 6 girls at 5. Development and intelligence are 2 different things. I hope this helps
Is that the only reason she thinks he isn't ready for school? That's crazy! Trust your judgement, your his Mom, you know what's best. Not standing in line when asked to me isn't a huge problem, especially if he is doing everything else he is asked to do.
My first thought would be to take a closer look at the teachers. Have you spent a day visiting his classes, to see what the interaction is? If your perception of your son is so different from the teacher, maybe something is happening in the classroom - may be he has a sugar imbalance that alters his behavior - may be he and the teacher don't get along.
Don't immediately assume the teacher's perception is correct. Investigate all the factors - including the teacher.
Personally, I think that you must be the judge of whether your child is ready for school. Plus, you can always teach him to pay attention to teachers and follow their directions. For example, you can pretend that he is in school and you can be the teacher and you can show him how to behave.
If he is not behaving in a manner when he is away from you that is expected at school then he will have a harder time. It could be the adults he is around at the nursery. I would follow your gut instinct but think and talk to his teacher with an open mind. Ask her if there is any other reason other than him not wanting to stand in line when asked. Sometimes brighter children become bored and act out by not listening because of the boredom. Maybe it's time to get him out of that nursery. Or maybe you don't expect him to listen at home. How many times do you have to tell him to do something before he does it? I'd think about all of this and then make your decision. If he's not going to listen in school then he'll be labeled and have a harder time the remainder of his school days. Good luck and God bless!
Send him to school if u think he's ready for it. You'll always wonder if u don't send him and if he does have any problems then u can always take him out of school...
The teacher has no right saying what she did, i would have words with the head of school before your child even attends.
Children hav varying degrees of ability, some earlier than later. It doesn't matter either way, take Psychologist Jean Piaget Theory '( all children get were there going, they cant be forced, they learn in their own time)'. And hav you ever thought that your child could be to bright, children who hav too much knowledge, ignore trivia stuff in any case. Let him be a child, dont force him to grow up, and as for you, just relax, enjoy watching him grow. x
they told us that too and we did not listen our son was ready he is now in third grade and on the honor roll they are probaly trying to do there best but you know your son better than any one trust your intution and do what you think is best for your boy not what they think
NIce question for me you should take her advice if you think its good for your son if not teach your son with your own way and never give up becaue you are a mother and you must know your role...Just do your part and God will do the rest..
A very hard decision. We lived in Santiago Chile for 2 years and the boys were 2 and 4 when we returned they were 4 and 6. The teachers thought that they were retarded . After much discussion it was determined that the boys were hearing in English and translating to Spanish . A slow process but it supplied the teacher with a plan to slow down and answer their questions.
Put him in School. The teachers are use to those things and in preschool or kinder-garden That is what they do is get the children ready for first grade. I thought my son would have a problem in preschool but his teacher can get his a attention like no other. Don't let some one discourage you about sending you son to school. Anyhow it may seem very far away but by next fall he might change so much when it comes to following direction and participation. well i hope that helps.
Hold your horses- he probably isn't ready for school, no matter how bright he is. Wait a year, he'll probably do much better.
He may not emotionally be ready for school, it has nothing to do with his intelligence.
My son was 4in september, believe me he has more social/emotional/behavioural development problems than listening to the teachers!! He will certainly be starting school this year. Nobody knows a child better than his or her parents, your teacher had no right to tell you this and is completely wrong. Sometimes teachers make you feel like all the hard work you put into your child is worthless and that they are better able to decide what is best for children. WRONG. Parents are the main educators of children up until they start school, ive nearly finished a level 3 childcare course and hope to go on to train as a teacher in september, and we are learning about the importance of working with parents as they are the people who know their child best, NOT the teacher. Believe in yourself and your son. Your teacher could do with refreshing on 'partnership with parents'.
You know your son better , I saw this happen to one of my grandchildren , I REMEMBER SAYING TO THE MOTHER WHEN HE START SCHOOL COME BACK AND TELL ME HE ISN'T READY , HE WENT TO SCHOOL AND GOT ON GREAT, SOMETIME'S NURSERY/PLAYSCHOOL CAN BE BORING AND THEY LOOSE INTEREST. If YOU think he is ready send him to school in august and take it from there.He may well be too bright for nursery , send him to school
It sounds like he is intelligent enough to go but if he can't follow instructions from teachers then he's going to have problems.
Explain to him that he should stand in a line when the teacher asks him to and also to do as the teacher tells or asks him to anyway. There should still be plenty of time to rectify any issues between now and August
Only you know your child...but it may be that he doesn't have the maturity skills needed to function with the other kids.
Of course he's ready- not all children behave in the same way and it doesn't mean that one is anymore advanced than the other. He will learn to stand in line etc at school and go along with the routine of the class. School is alot more structured than nursery and many children don't start to begin to understand rules properly until school age. I've worked in nurseries and seen many children who 'don't stand in line' who were perfectly able and ready for school. You know your child best- don't listen to her.
His teacher is basing his readiness for school by his inability to stand in a line is there more to it or what?? I would go with your own judgment with this one.
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