My four year old still has a dummy, is this bad ?
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I personallly think it is bad, it will affect her speech and it doesn't look very nice either. Though it probably is easier to take it off her now, because she's older and you can actually explain a reason to her, rather than with a young child, you just take it away and they fret because they don't know what's happened.
A common reason is that there are no dummies left for the newborns, so the fairies are asking all the little children to send their dummies to them. Pop them in a little bag and tie them to a tree, and tell her the fairies will repay her. Then leave her a little gift under her pillow.
YES ITS BAD FOR HER TEETH...
don't allow it in the day, or try telling her santa needs it for poor chidren that don't have one. It worked for my middle one
No it is not bad, just other kids could be cruel and laugh, why not try to replace it with maybe some special toy, she has her eye on, and do in that way, like replacement, good luck with that.
not good... best thing to do is just throw every one you got away... cold turkey... she might be ill... and maybe you will be too... but it's a temporary thing and you two will soon be back to normal...
she starts kindergarten soon... you have got to do away with it !
in my experience my number thre son had the same problem as a three year old, so i planted it in the garden with him and asked him to water it every day so a dummy tree would grow, it worked .
no...but 5 year old still sucks her fingers...but she's not to do it at school. the dentist has said it may make her front teeth stick out...but i don't believe it as teeth move all the time and i'm sure when she stops...they will go back. that's why when a kid gets braces...they are supposed to wear a retainer when they are removed.cos the teeth will move back without support.
Yea i think it is bad for your teeth. But i don't blame mothers for giving dummies. Its the only way to hush kids up. But for your child i think it might be exceptional to give here a dummy. Why not give her a vitamin tablet or something, in one way she
could be sucking something aswell as vitamins good for her. I really dont know know But in general, the dummy is bad for kids teeth
Apparently aswell, if children become to dependant on dummies then there speech becomes slurred.
if you want her not to have it try bribery it works with children however don't bow to pressure from other people it wont hurt her to have it and she will discard it when she is ready
Don't worry about it.. Trust me no child ever uses a dummy after their first day at school.. kids can be cruel
As long as it is only at night or nap time it is okay for now,however soon you will have to try and ween her off it which you can do by telling her she is a big girl now and that dummies are for babies. I'm in the process of doing it for my three year old and its not easy,especially at night when they refuse to go to bed without it but it is for their own good. Sometimes it is easier to start these preocesses in the summer as during the winter kids need their comforts at night time. Good luck
If a dummy is a (binky) my 3 yr old step daughter had one when i first met her it went into a cookie jar i told her she was too big for it it worked good luck and at that age it is bad on the new teeth that will come in later
Dont worry if she only has it at night. One of my sons kept his under his pillow right up till he had started school. He used to come home go upstairs and have a quick suck and he was ok. No one knew and it did him no harm. He is a lovely 35 year old now.
Look, if it's the same one that's terrible.
seriously, there are no hard and fast rules. My daughter sucked/sucks her fingers and has a permanent scar from it. Simple answer is that if it is going to cause too much of a psychological problem removing it then don't. You could try allowing her to only have it at certain times and then (conveniently) forget about it to gradually get her off it.
You know what? If she has special needs and sensory problems, I think she should still be allowed to gain comfort from a dummy at night if she needs one. She will probably use it less and less of her own accord and eventually stop. I understand what the others are saying about taking it away from her, but if she has special needs, she probably is not able yet to comprehend why you're doing this, unlike other four year olds. Perhaps you're more worried about what other people think rather than what works for your family, but if it's only at night, I can't see the harm. Many children a lot older than your daughter suck their thumbs at night, and it really doesn't do that much harm - even dentists are divided on whether or not it is harmful to the teeth.
Start slowly weening her off the dummy.!
Try to replace the dummy with a teddy bear for her to hold .!
hi, i think you are making allowance s for her,but for her own health you need to take this of her.after a couple of nights she will soon get the idea. It might help to make a star chart and hang it on a wall, so you can give her a sticker each time she sleeps with out making a fush, and after 10 nights reward her with something nice.but explain first what your doing
I have a home daycare, and every parent I know (including my sister and 3 brothers - I have 10 nieces & nephews) take away the pacifier by age 2. I have a 18 month old in my care right now and I only let her have it when she naps. (Her parents let her have it more often, but I don't agree with it, but I don't tell them that!)
My boyfriend and I personally think it's bad to see a child 3 years old or older with a pacifier in their mouth.. how can they talk with that thing in their mouth? I don't know...
HOW TO GET RID OF IT: one of my brother's with his 3 kids they didn't buy the older versions of the pacifiers - they kept the infant size and it was to small for them and they stopped taking it. One of my nephews lost his one and only pacifier and my brother and sister in law told him that if he couldn't find it then it was gone and he was done with it - it worked for him.
Another trick I have heard about is to cut the end of the pacifier - if that was gone, most kids lose interest in it.
I also found this website: http://www.helpforkidspeech.org/articles...
Hiya
Just to let you know I tried the 'fairies' the other day. My son is 4 on saturday and I thought it was time he gave his dummy away. He only ever used it at night.
So we put the dummies in an envelope with a note to ask the dummy fairy to give the dummies to the little babies who needed them. Then we went for a walk to the postbox and he posted them.
My son was fine about it! I was so surprised. He felt really grown up and he is now officially a 'big boy'!
Give your daughter a little bit of notice, discuss the dummy fairies first and tell her that soon she will have to give her dummies away to the babies then choose a day and do it. She may fret for a few days but I am sure she will be fine.
My son has only asked a few times but was fine when reminded where they were. I hope the fairies work for you as well as they did for me!
My daughter is 3 and I am trying to wean her off a dummy too. She only has hers for sleep but is happy not to have it when she is with other people. We have talked about the dummy fairy which she said she will when ready. Another idea is to leave it for father christmas. She will give it up when she is ready. You wouldn't consider taking a teddy away so why be the same with a dummy? Do what is right for your situation.
my son stopped his when he was 2, we explained to him that he was a big boy and that santa would be needing them for very small children and that he would get an extra special present fom santa for giving up his dummy!
it is bad for her teeth in the futer. that is the number one reason y kids get braces when they get older. i sucked my thumb for years and then when i wen into the 5th grade i got braces put on beacuse of it. So a few ways to get rid of it is when she is sleepin go in their quietly and take it. Also when she talks to u say u dont understand and take it out. my neice is 3 and these are sum of the things we use on her and now she only has it in for attention wen she wants sum 1 to talk to her. so just periodically take it out and she will start to forget about it
she'll give it up when she's ready and if her teeth are a little out of shape dont worry, they go back when she stops using it, my daughter had one til she was 5 and her teeth went back into shape within a week, i was amazed!
yes it's bad for her teeth! You should have taken it away 3 years ago. Just take it away cold turkey, that's what I did with my son's bottle at 12 mo old and he didn't even notice
If she is only using it at night then that's not so bad as when you see children of that age in town or the supermarket with a dummy stuck in their mouth.
I would continue to let her use it till Christmas Eve then see if she will leave it out with the biscuits & sherry etc. for Father Christmas to take away. This worked for my nephew, he was more than happy to let Father Christmas take it because he knew he would be getting new toys & he never asked for the dummy again.
This is a problem! Do you have a friend that is going to have a baby? Tell her that the new baby is going to need a "dummy" and maybe she should give the baby hers. Let her pick out the wrapping paper and help wrap it.. and then take her there to give it.. it worked for us..
my eldest daughter had a dummy till she started nursery but near xmas i told her that santa wanted her dummy in exchange for some really cool prezzies and she gave it to me straight away and has never asked for it since... why not try and give her a teddy and say to her that this will comfort her when she needs it because she is getting a big girl now but tell her its an extra special teddy usually these sorts of things work
good luck
my grandson is 5 on new years eve he still as a dummy dont worry she will do it in her own time .my daughter as told her son to leave it for santa to take for a baby ,then he will get some nice presents,so fingers crossed,
my daughter is 28 months old. She loves her dummy! I am getting her used to the idea that santa clause will be taking her dummies for the little babies in return for a new dolly. im hoping when the time comes it wont be too stressful for her. A dummy is such a comfort for our little ones. I hate the thought of taking it from her but yes it can be bad for their teeth. I know it will be harder for your little girl being special needs. Is she fond of little babies? Maybe she would like to give her dummy to the baby. It will be hard for her, but dont feel you have to keep it from her if after a few days she gets very distressed without it. Keep her teeth brushed and allow it for bed time. Good luck
this is a comfort thing but you could suggest asking her if she would leave it for santa and he'll leave you a special present for being a good/brave girl. i did this for my daughter and i left her a special prezzie on her bed from santa, you can always keep a dummy in just incase she gets 2 upset from it but try and not give it to her.
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