How do I tell my co worker that we do not need his wife to provide daycare for us..?
my fiances work is allowing him to switch up his schedule so that he can be home when I am at work and at work when i am home, which eliminates the need for daycare, and saves us 400 dollars a month. The problem is that i do not want to hurt this womens feelings or in anyway make her feel that it was her home or her tradition of wearing a veil that made us change our mind. She seemed very concerned that the veil would be a problem for us, do any of you have any suggestions on how to tell them in a way that doesn;t make them think badly of us?
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Be honest with her and tell her how much you appreciate the offer but that your work schedules have changed. Maybe you could work out a part time arrangement, we all need days to go run errands or go to the doctor or whatever. Ask if she would be willing to allow you to call when you need a day, like drop in service. That way she knows that you trust her and wouldn't mind her watching your child. Hope it works out for you.
Be honest with her. Tell her you guys really need to save some money. But schedule regular play dates for your two daughters and offer to watch her daughter and her watch yours one or two days a month so you can get things done without having to drag your kids around (ex: grocery store, beauty salon, oil change).
Honesty IS the best policy! :)
It sounds like honesty is fine. Just say "my fiances work is allowing him to switch up his schedule so that he can be home when I am at work and at work when i am home, which eliminates the need for daycare". You could still ask her to babysit as needed and even invite her over to visit with you and the kids.
Just tell her the truth.about his schedule opening up.surely she will understand! Offer to take your child over there occasionally to play with their child, since they are probably friends as well. Invite them over for some american hospitality and return the favor!
just tell them. Be honest tell them that your husband's job switched his schedule
Just inform them that their services are not needed anymore and explain why...not in to much detail because you don't want to sound like your blabbing an excuse. Be honest.I would do it sooner than later, not the day you are suppose to drop your kid off. If they can't accept it, who cares, you are saving $400 a month.
wow that would be hard but be honest just tell her with the holidays coming y'all where able to change y'alls schedule and y'all could really use the extra money yall would be saving i think that would be just fine i am sure she would know her religion and beliefs where not a problem for you
Explain what happened and then offer to set a play date for the girls to get together another time.
Why would you hurt her feelings? You aren't trying to be mean or insult anyone. What she thinks is really not your problem. Tell them that your husbands schedule was switched and you don't need daycare anymore but would love for the kids to get together still for play dates.
Just tell her the truth and that it you will not need her anymore because your fiance will get to be home with the kid now. I think she will understand and maybe if you ever just need a baysitter for a few hours once in a while see if she will be intrested in that.
Go over to her home and explain. Don't just do it through your co-worker. Talk to the woman up front and honestly.
My husband's co-worker needed someone to help with day care. I offered to help and she beat herself up when she realized she didn't need my help any more. I felt horrible that she would worry so much about it and I was perfectly okay with not watching her child. I was a little disappointed as I was looking forward to it but her coming over to talk in person made me feel better. We now have plans (when her baby gets here) to start meeting up on weekends and having fun all together.
Talk to her face to face. Let her ask you questions but also be sensitive. If you want to offer to hang out once in a while on the weekends with both your kids. Best of Luck!
Just be honest with her...that you ahve both changed your schedules around and have managed to work it out that you don't need daycare...or ask if she could watch your child in case of the odd day that things don't work out.
Honestly if you were to explain that your circumstances had changed I don't think she would mind. You could thank them for the offer and say how much you really appreciated it but fortunately (this is a good thing) your husband's shift changed allowing him to keep the baby. Emphasize that by your husband keeping the baby it saves your family $400 a month.
It might also be a good gesture if you asked the wife if she would be available for back-up care, in the event of an emergency or if your husband's schedule got switched back.
I would just tell them that you appreciate the offer but you really don't need the help right now. If her concern is her daughter not having a playmate you could offer to get the kids together. I would make sure that you keep the door open in case you do need her help later.
Just be honest, you have a great reason. That's awesome that your hubby's employer let him do that. Just thank her so much for offering, but you don't need daycare anymore, and tell her what happened. She won't be offended, it would be different if you took the baby elsewhere, but you're not. Don't worry, she should be glad you're able to save money that way.
The best solution is to simply state the truth. Call her on the phone or ask to visit their home again so you can talk to them about daycare. Explain that this opportunity with your fiance's employment just arose that is permitting you to always have a parent at home with the baby. Assure her that if that hadn't been the case that you would have welcomed the idea of her caring for your baby. Thank her for the generous offer to help you out. Also express gratitude for her hospitality when you visited. Perhaps she would be willing to help out on occasion when that inevitable thing occurs when you need someone else to care for your baby. Or, maybe she would be willing to do one day a week for you so that you and your soon-to-be husband can have some precious couple time. Acknowledge that you know she was concerned about how the veil may pose a problem and that was in no way a determining factor with the decision not to have the baby in daycare. You can choose to be honest, grateful, and appreciative, but you can not choose how other people are going to think.
I would just be very honest with her & tell her that your fiancee's work schedule is changing & he will be able to watch the baby while you are at work & vice versa. Also explain that this will save you approx $400 a month. I would tell her that IF I needed daycare I would be thrilled to have someone like her to watch my child but as of right now I don't need it.
You say, we've worked our schedules out so that we no longer need daycare and thank you very much for your much appreciated care for our child. Can we still pop by to have the kids visit each other occasionally?
She's sure to understand the merit having the parents looking after their own children rather than someone else.
Explain your situation to them. Let them know about the change in work schedule. Maybe you could use her occasionally for a sitter when schedules overlap and noone can be there for the baby. Or set up a play date a few imes a month. It is always nice to have a great sitter that you can trust!
Well, the truth sounded good enough to me! Don't make it so complicated... just tell them how the situation has resolved itself, and you are grateful for the offer. If you are honest, they will appreciate that more than any other reason you could give. Call her up (or go over) and say: "Hey, guess what? My husband's work heard about our problem and decided that he could switch his hours! Isn't that great!? Now (child's name) can stay home with both of us!"
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