My daughter says she is scared of her room.?
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AT 3 it's hard to communicate with your child effectivly.Try letting her draw you what she thinks scares her.Watch what she's watching, of find out if anybody is scaring her...Fear is not something children are born with ...IT has to be learned.IT's an aweful feeling to know that you're child is afraid and you can't help them...Keep the lines of communication open...If she is use to sleeping with you she just might be trying to ween her way back in bed with you.
find a way to make her feel safe in it. so she isnt sleepin with u. get her a light or something she wants to make her feel safe. make her a part of it as well, take her shoppin n say ..to her "will a light make u feel better?" if so get her one, then say "u now need an angel bear, n let her pick it out" then when its time for her to go to bed, walk her thru the steps that she needs u to. turn her lil light on n give her her bear. tell her that she is gonna be safe now. and if she needs u just let u know. get a babi monitor as well tell her that u can listen to her thru it and things will be ok. u have to train n teach her to sleep in her room yet feel safe with out u in there.
Well, the time out chair may just be her way of trying to keep you from punishing her. But, if she is scared of ther room, ask her why she is afraid. Does she see things? Does she hear noises she doesn't recognize? Is it only scary at night? Then, go from there. Sit in her room with her and when something she thinks is scary happens, explain it to her. If the problem comes up at night, try a nightlight or one of those lamps that sends pretty pictures across the walls.
Sounds like she is scared of not having your attention. Try putting photos of you and her Dad near her bed, so instead of calling you in there, she can look at your pics. Also night lights are a big help, as well as a special pillow, or toy that comforts her.
This is the age when kids develop a very vivid imagination. My 2 1/2 year old son is going through it right now. Be comforted that this is just a phase. Scared of the chair? Sounds like she knows how to get your attention. As for the bedroom, my husband and I spend time with our son in his room. Helping him to realize everything is ok. At bedtime, along with a night light, one of us sits in his doorway until he starts to fall asleep. He has not freaked out in quite a while. Good luck!
Well those are both places where she spends time alone. Maybe she is trying to tell you that she doesn't like being by herself?
Get her a cute night light, or paste "glow in the dark" stars on the ceiling and or walls. She might be pulling your leg about the time-out chair, though. Sounds like she is pretty clever.
Does she have a night light, and a special soft blankie or stuffed animal to cuddle up with? I know when I was a little kid, my blankie gave so much comfort if I was scared at night.
Also, when you tuck her in at night, maybe you can make a show of checking the closet and under the bed for monsters and shutting the closet door firmly so if one comes, it cannot get out to scare her.
Actually, now that I think about it, nightlights can create scary shadows, so watch out for that.
You might try monster spray. When my boy's were younger I used to spray a blue berry scented linen spray in their room before bed to scare away all the monsters.
Ask your daughter why she feels this way and help her understand her feelings. Fear is the rational feeling of the 'unknown' so work with her to make her room as comforting as possible. Assure her that her bedroom is the one place that is all her very own and she should be the safest there.
Have her pick out a theme for her bedroom; Dora, Barbie Princess, horses or whatever is popular for children her age. Maybe paint the walls a very calm, comforting color, pick out pictures for her walls and definately include some lamps or night lights. Keep all the closet doors closed, curtains/blinds drawn so there are no shadows and last but not least explain that she only has to close her eyes and have pleasant dreams.
My daughter was 3 and she was afraid of bugs. Taking her outside was hard as even he tiniest mosquito would start her in a crying fit. You just have to deal with it the best you can. They will eventually outgrow their fears once their mind has become to understand there is nothing to be afraid of. Good luck!
I wouldn't have known what to say unless you put that chair part in at the end. She says that she's afraid of her time-out chair because she doesn't want to be in it.therefore the two could be connected. She could be saying that she is afraid of her room because she doesn't want to be in it. It probably isn't only being in it..she doesn't want to be in it alone. My advice is to maybe spend some time in her room with her...while she is in bed sit by her until she falls asleep and gradually leave sooner and sooner until she is comfortable being in it alone. This should help.:)
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