My 2 year old likes to hit other kids i have had her in time outs but nothing works help?
Answer:
I don't have any parenting experience, but I do have a plethora of psychology training so I'll approach your question from an empirical based perspective.
consider this:
1. ensure time outs take place at a place that is actually negative i.e. if they go to their room where there are toys, taht's not that bad
2. do not make time outs too long - for a 2 yr old esp, a 5 minute T.O. is excruciating and could exacerbate the situation
3. punishment of the child is vital (but not by hitting) - this can take the form of removal of a positive thing like a toy, a certain kind of food etc.
4. time outs must immediately follow the bad behaviour, or else you'll have lost the opportunity for the child to make a connecitn between the two.. even if you say that it is
5. make sure EVERY instance of hte bahviour is punished
6. ensure that the intensity fits the crime
7. time outs are always better than "positive" punishment (ie.. applying something, like physical punishment)
8. punish with an explanation
9. combine your punishment with a redirection to positive approrpiate behaviour
These facts are proven with all animals. Although parents may disagree, they are proven in humans, dogs, rats, and pigeons.
Good luck.
OH..something works...SMACK HER UP! DO NOT be afraid to spank the **** out of her.she'll learn quickly that way.
don't allow your child to continue their normal activites until they cease hitting. They forget quickly if they do things wrong and you need to find a way to help them consistently see a connection between what they get to do and their behavior.
Bill at www.bravemanstuff.com
this might be mean to say but. spak her just to let her know you are serious and tell her"its bad to hit other kids if you do it again i will spank you" only spank her when you see her hit another kid
do you slap your child? sometimes they imitate what they see or what happens to them and they think its okay then..I think its just something they have to grow out of, unless you think if you explain that hiting is wrong or bad and your child will understand...or just keep telling them no it takes a while for them to get that its not nice to hit
tell you the truth timeouts never worked for me so i would say you would unfortunately have to give her some corporal punishment maybe a pop on her rear (it always worked for me when my parents spanked meit straightend me right up)
DEAR YES THERE IS SOMETHING FOR IT IS CALLED SPANKING JUST POP HER LITTLE LEG ONCE AND AND RAISE YOU VOICE JUST SAY MOMMY IS REALLY MAD AT YOU RIGHT NOW AND I DO NOT WAT TO TALK TO YOU RIGHT NOW PUT HER IN HER ROOM AND HER IN HER ROOM AND SHUT THE DOOR AND TELL HER WHEN YOU CAN STOP CRYING YOU CAN COME OUT I AND WHEN YOU CAN TELL MOMMY THAT YOU ARE REALLY SORRY BACK IN THE 50-60-70- WE GOT SPANKED CAN ANY ONE REMEMBER THAT WITH NO QUESTIONS ASKED ARE OUR MOUTH WASHED WITH SOAP ARE MOUTH SLAPPED FOR SASSING AND TALKING BACK HOW MANY OF YOU REMEMBER THAT TAKE CARE AND HAPPY NEW YEAR AND GOOD LUCK
i have to go back and forth between allot of different kinds of discipline with my children, but i recently read a article about hitting, and the main point it brought out was if you hit a child for hitting a norther child, what does that teach them, that it is OK to hit. so simply tell her "do not hit, hitting isn't OK, be nice' and over time it's supposed to work, but you have to be regular with it, not on/off. it did work for my first child and now were trying it again with the second. hope that might help.
well if she dont listen and still do it then scare her and lie to her that if she dont be a good girl you and daddy will leave her all alone.....
Instead of forcing one of my kids to say they are sorry - which inevitably resulted in a 'sorry' with rolling eyes and a quick return to the same behavior - I tell them they hurt the other person's feelings and tell them they need to think about a way to make that person feel better while they are in time out. After the time out I ask them what they are going to do - if they don't have a good answer they get to go back to time out.
I had a kid that bit and kicked and hit me.. it was her way.. she got mad and just lost it... I tried all the nice punishments. then I got pregnant and the hitting needed to stop NOW.. as I didn't want to get hurt or get one in the stomach.. so I did what I should have done a long time ago and it worked fast. If she was violent in any way to the dog or me or anyone... I would tell her that she needed to know how that actaully feels.. and I tell her that I am going to show her and I do whatever she did and just as hard.. if she threw something at me, I would pick it up and say calmly and in contorl 'now you need to see how that feels' and I threw it back at her. Within one week she stopped totally.. we talked about how to handle anger.. punching pillows, tearing up paper et. She is in grade 2 and started to write and draw it out.. for a 2 year old I would say 'no' and show her/ him how it feels and say.. when you are mad... take this black crayon and pound it on the paper. or something more simple for a two year old.. if he is prone to anger.. he needs a way to deal with it...
At 2 years old this is a hard one...some kids just don't understand how to interact and some are just mean. You need to figure out which factor is a play here. If she is doing it to be mean and time outs aren't working...you will need to think of whats important to her and threaten to take that away. If she is doing it because she doesn't understand, you need to get down to her level and say "no ok to hit" and put her in the time out spot and say "take a break". Another thing...time out shouldn't be punishment as much as "hey you need to take a break and think" so you might rename it "thinking" time or spot, chair, etc.
You might also try positive reinforcement when she is interacting well with other kids...like "good job, nice girl". Good luck.
My little boy has a cousin that used to hit, bite and take things away from him all the time. They were about the same age and size. Her parents would never try do anything about her behavior so finally I told my little boy to do it back to her. He was only allowed to fight back if she started it. It took a little while but when she finally figured out that he was not just going to take it anymore she straightened up. As for my child he knew better than to start the fight because he knew I would spank him or give him a time out.
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