Sick toddler after visiting with relatives...?
My problem is I do not know how to address it because I know that it is going to offend them if I tell them that he gets sick everytime we visit. They only live an hour away so they expect us to visit a lot and I don't know what do to. I have cut back our visits to about once a month or every other month. I have been keeping track with our visits and when he gets sick and it seems like there is a connection.
Do I address it or just ride it out? If I address it all hell is going to break loose. But at the same time I am the one who has to stay up with him when he is sick and I am the one who has to take time off from work.
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I had a similar situation with a part of my family, who actually blew smoke in my children's faces! We have stopped going over there and instead we meet up at the mall or for dinner at a restaurant where smoking is not allowed. I would take your child to the doctor after one of these visits and if the doctor does say that this could be caused by the smoke, tell your family this is what the doctor mentioned and that you would really appreciate it if they could not smoke in front or around your child when you are visiting. It may offend them at first, but they will realize that you are only looking out for your child's best interest and health. Besides it is not good for a child to see any of their family smoking. Good luck!
Can they visit you instead? Then at least he would remain in your environment, and may get ill less frequently.
Tell them...My daughter having some issues with dogs for awhile and i straight out told my mom(who lives in another state) not to bring her dog because i don't want her getting sick again...And the same to my family members that i'm not taking her over because of the dogs..It was much easier for me than it will probably be with you since i'm not close to my family but still tell that...And you might be suprised by there response..
tell them its the long rides that you think is making him sick and that you think that they should come to you to see him. to see if that is the problem good luck .
This is your child's health and not something to play around with. Why don't you have the relatives visit you? I would rather deal with all hell breaking loose then my baby getting sick every time we visit relatives.
You need to address.It is your child's health & he needs you to care for him unconditionally.
Well, you could isolate you & your toddler from the rest of the world...then again, there is some evidence that your child builds immunities and will be less sick as an adult. The staying up with your sick kid-and staying home-part of being a Mom-kids get sick...My son had lots of ear infections, especially as a toddler-lots of runs to the Dr. but he rarely gets sick now he's grown...
Perhaps you could mention that your child has been sick frequently and that the doctor thinks it may be due to allergies that haven't been identified yet. (It actually might be.) Say that the doctor has instructed you to avoid cigarette smoke and pet dander, among others, so you need to avoid taking him places where those exist.
As long as there is no smoke in your house, and no pets at home that could be bothering him this might work, at least for a while. Maybe they would like to visit you instead.
ARE YOU SERIOUS, look first and formost you duty is to the child, and don't be worried about offending people, hell would you like to keep the child ill, and make all these others happy?
Buy them an air purification system as a gift - you will eliminate the risks they are induring everyday and you will solve your problem. I was at an Ecoquest demonstration and their system is amazing. No, I dont work for Ecoquest, I have my own home based business. Seriously, make sure if you dont want the cost of one from Ecoquest - you check one out on consumer report. They take all the crap out of the air.
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