Am I a bad mother?
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Definitely NOT. A bad mother wouldn't care or bother to write on Yahoo for help. You're just busy and heavily pregnant. Trust me, once she starts school, she'll go leaps and bounds. I think we try to 'educate our children too young and forget to just play with them. Yes, they enjoy learning and are like little sponges but learning involves much more than counting and knowing your ABC's. As long as she is loved and cared for, keep up the good work and take it easy for the next few weeks before you give birth to your new bundle of joy.
NO your not a bad mother
Every child develops differently. It does not make you a bad mother. It seems every mother thinks they are a bad mom at one time or another. If she is happy, then be happy with her. She will learn all she needs to when she starts school.
You're a fine mom. Those are all fine things for a 4 yr old to do. People push academics so much now, don't worry. It's not necessarily a sing of being smarter or ahead later.
no ur not a bad mother and the fact that ur thinking ur a bad mother is making u a better mom cuz u worry and thats what we do but every one will always compare there children to others but ur kid might not no the abc and the other kid might but that kid might not know how to count to 10 and urs does...but i think shes doing good for a 4 year old :)
Kids develop at their own pace. There is a lot more pressure on kids these days to perform tasks at earlier ages, but there is no evidence that the ability to do them sooner will correlate to future success. She's falling right into the middle of the pack for 4 year olds. Work with her when you can, come up with multiple ways to introduce the same topic so learning stays fun. You're not a bad mother simply because other children can do more.
She is doing fine there is no reason to push her, she will learn in her own time. Learning needs to be fun! don't be so hard on your self it sounds like you have enough on your plate. I taught kindy for the last 2 years and alot of the children are at her level. She is fine don't worry. REAR READ READ that is the key!
This does not make you a bad mother. Maybe you should consider putting her in daycare. Some actually teach kids besides letting them play all day. If you think it could be a medical issue, then have her tested. Why not hire a tutor to work with her a few hours a week.
no, not at all. it just means that you don't have the time to spend with her because you are busy taking care of making sure that you have a job to provide for your family. she will catch on. just work with her when you can. i know it is tough sometimes and you can't always work with her but every little bit helps. she is a bright child. she will be just fine. hope this helps. good luck.
NO!!
She is 4, and every child learns at their own pace. Counting to 10 at 4 is average, she has an imagination, and can copy your writing.
You shouldn't feel that you need to 'work' with her, have fun, but incorporate education in it. For example, sing the ABC songs, when climbing stairs, count them. Read to her every day, and have her help with the words. This works great if its a story she already knows by heart - then she can know what word is where, and praise her for her efforts.
Every experience can be fun and educational.
I am sure you are not a bad mother. Sometimes children will pick up certain things faster than others may. Don't work yourself up I am sure with a little time she will pick up her abcs and writing.
Congulations with the pregnancy I wish you the best.
No, it doesn't mean you are a bad mother. Kids learn at different rates. I could only count to 4 when I was 4 (because I needed to know how old I was when people asked me). Of course that was a long time ago, about the time when people realized the earth was round :)
no you are not a bad mother... you are a busy loving mother...she would catch on faster if you could get her in pre-k, it is state fund. so my 3 daughters went free. but if not, you can get some books with numbers and letters... she would love to do the activities in them...and my youngest daughter likes the magnet letters and numbers that stay on the fridge. she can spell words as i made supper... she will catch on fine in kindergarden... just made it fun ...she will learn..
I don't feel that you are a bad mother. What parents and people don't understand is that all children has their own pace of learning. You can't compare your child to someone elses child even if they're the same age. Yes, I believe that education begin and end within your home, but don't beat yourself up about it. Your child is fine, when she start doing her abc's and counting to 20 you're going to trying to make her stop. You daughter is specia in her own way and not in the way we may want them to be.
vanjac6
First of all, every child is different, and some learn faster than others and some are more studious than others. You work 40 hours a week and you have a four year old child and another one on the way! Your child probley gets barely enough time with you, since you are gone all day at work, and whatever little time she/he does get with you, I'm sure its not much. And now since a new child is coming along, that is gonna take more time away. Cause newborns need a lot of attention! That really sucks, I feel bad for your child. Your gonna have to work part time, at least to take care of this child and the new born baby coming along. You can't replace the lost time with your children. They grow up really quick. Know that this new born is gonna affect him/her too, cause they need that extra attention, and now what little attention they got, they are gonna have to share it. Your not a bad mom, but you need to make time for your children. Do you want them growing up saying "mom was never there" you got one shot at this, don't **** it up!!
No, your not a bad mom. You have to feed her and wash her clothes and by that time your sleeping. Try to work counting and the ABC song into everything you can--in the car, at walmart, ect... You know a few years back I bought the leapfrog DVDs when the first came out. It was just to back up what I was teaching and planning to teach. I put the movie in and he watched it twice in a row. He learned the ABC's immediatly. He watched the other and knew the sounds. I didn't even have to do much work--not that it was my intension to skip out.
Anyway the DVDs are $10 each at Walmart. Also, use thick lined paper and make her name with dashes- you know so she is able to trace it. She'll learn-- and you know mine was soo board in kindergarden because he knew everything they taught, plus. Don't worry Be happy!
Hi - Every child will develop at there own pace. I used to compare my children to the next child as well (i have twins boys aged 2) i no longer do this because everything is going to happen when your child is ready. You are not a bad mum and don't be so hard on yourself. Be proud of your daughter for what she has achieved so far and try to use that quality time that you spend with her to tell her that she is amazing because there is always going to be another child that is maybe one, two steps ahead of our own children.
I wish you all the best on the birth of your bubby.
you are not a bad mom.she is developing at her own pace and level! you are doing a great job!!
No you are not a bad mother you obviously care alot. I have a daycare and I work with the kids alot on letters not so much numbers yet but mostly abcs andI have them trace and write there letters to there names. 2 out of 4 of my 4 year olds can write there names. The other 2 are slowly learning it's not a big deal if they don't get it right away it will come with kindergarden when she is a little more mature. You are doing fine.
Children are sponges and they're going to learn at their own pace regardless how long you are able to work with them. Some kids pick things up quickly while others just do whatever and are just as happy. I don't think that anyone would call you a bad mother for doing the very best for your family and you're certainly not a bad mother for being worried! That just shows you care!
All children are different...just work off of what she does well and it will be alright!
No you are not a bad mother. Every child learns at a different pace, and just because your daughter isn't doing things other kids are at her age, doesn't mean she isn't smart. She may grow up and be the valedictorian of her class while the other ones you are comparing her to are in the bottom 10 percent. You are doing a great job. Keep your head up and enjoy the time you spend with her, pretty soon you will have another one to keep you busy.
of course not, she will get there, sing the abc song with her more often, STOP comparing her to other children, that is the worst thing you can do, she is 4 come on lighten up on her and yourself, let her enjoy being young she sounds bright the rest will come in its own time, don't worry and don't compare
You are not a bad mother, and she is pretty smart for someone who is not in pre k and does not have the constant attention.
It is ok that you work. You need to work and don't take that away from yourself.
I was told when my son entered school at age three, He was special needs, that he was way ahead of the game on abcs and the sort because most kids do not learn this stuff till kindergarten. Children who go to pre k just learn things a year early is all. Your daughter sounds like she is right on track. You can always take her to the local school and have her tested when they are having Pre k registration and they will tell you whether or not she is behind.
Now I was not bragging on my son, he is Autistic and many Autistic children have unusaul talents. My son learned his letters and numbers at age two by watching blues clues. If you are really worried look into the Baby Einstine tapes for pre k children they say that it is worth the look.
I hope something I said helps, and please do not think you are a horrible mom. Just invest in some learning tapes and that will help. Oh and children ususually don't learn how to write till kinder.
You are not a bad Mother - if you feel you should work with her more then do it - it's never too late.
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