Why are parents not teaching kids manners anymore?Kids are out of control and do not listen,fearless rude ect?
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it's hard - good parenting does not come natural to many. We want to be gentle and fair, but it's hard to do that and still create structure. It's something that needs a lot of effort.
Thankfully there are great resources like Gordon Neufeld's book Hold On To Your Kids - give it a read!
Hang out with families who have great kids - their parenting will rub off on you in a good way, and your kids won't pick up nasty habits.
A lot of parents today are not your typical parent. A lot of young parents that haven't even graduated from high school. More broken homes than what there used to be, causing the parents to fight or win over their children. They then forget the real reason as to why their parents. A lot of parents don't know how to disipline and or may be afraid that it may turn into something that its not or should be (like spanking). Some are drug and alcohol addicts. Such a shame to put these kids through that. My son is 4 and you bet he knows how to say please, thank you, your welcome and so forth. He opens the door for me, cleans up after himself, and just a joy to be around. A lot of parents keep their kids home, not exposing them to an environment that teaches them how to react to such influences or dilemmas. It's a mixture of lack of respect for themselves, selfishness, depression and lack of motivation and knowledge. They're lazy, insecure, and rude. TV is also a reason. A lot of parents use that as a form of babysitting. I don't know. It's a lot of things, lets just leave it at that.
Some parents lack good manners for themselves.So how can you transplant that until u posses the same.Moreover the TV & society does the rest.
LOL...spend a week with my 5 yr old son and see if you feel the same way... I have tried everything I can (besides therapy) for my son...and he still will not listen...he will make his hands into puppets...(he calls them ducky...since they look like ducks) and blames EVERYTHING on "ducky"...He's not like this all the time.but a good majority...He listens to his dad...but not me...or really any female...Not sure what his deal is...trying to take care of it before he goes to school in August 2007...
some parents just don't care or are afraid to spank their kid s cuz they will go to jail well you wont go to jail if ya don't beat them that's a fact let someone try to tell me i cant spank my child if shes acting ridiculous because she cant have a toy but my child knows better and i don't even have to spank her never have!! but I'm sure there will come a day i know what you mean they rule their parents I'm only 21yrs old mom at 16 and another on the way i can honestly and proudly say we are good parents and we do discipline her when needed!!
Now a days people think chatting with your child and trying to reason with your child is better. I was raised getting my butt spanked and know the consequences if i didn't listen to my mother or father. I have respect for my elders and everyone else. The only trouble i have ever been in is unpaid traffic tickets. I am a sharing person!! I raise and discipline my children the same way with a little differences!! My children are respectful and do as they are told from my 6 yr old to my 1 yr old, but i show my children love and care and try to spend as much time with them as i can as a single mother!! I am not going to lie they are typical boys and get in trouble but they know where the line is!
Are you a parent? What age of children are you talking about?
I think a lot of those kids you are talking about are teens. And they are all mostly like that because they are hormonal, alien beings. Early 20's they straighten out and most will become the productive members of society their parents raised them to be.
I like to have a more positive view of humanity. I think MOST of the kids out there will grow into kind, caring people. Give them a chance!
I agree, what happened to saying "please, and thank you" it's like a thing of the past.
Keep pushing the message!
Too many parents these days are concerned with being their child's buddy or best friend. A child needs a parent to teach them "Thank you", "Please" and I teach mine to say "Yes Ma'am".
I've sent packages, even money to people and never gotten so much of a "thank you" and sometimes I wonder if they even get the thing I've sent! It's rude.. it really is. I don't go along with blaming on how you're raised either.. I wasn't raised to say "Yes Ma'am" but I do it now myself because it's proper. Common sense needs to kick in at some point.
I totally agree, my daughter is 15 months old and she can say Please and Thank you, she is a very good mannered little girl. My husband and I were just talking last night about how children are rude and mean and dont listen to their parents. But manners is one thing that our daughter will have. I think its important.
a lot of people want to blame it on young parents. i am a young mother of three and all of my children know their manners because i have made them do it how hard it it to say please and thank you or to respect others i think it is all of the new thing company's are coming out with and parents just buy and kids tear it up parents don't make kids work for what they have any more i think that is crazy if they had to earn the money for it they would respect it more its Christmas time and i am sure that some parents are going all out way would you care if some one got u every thing u want
my five year old told Santa that he wanted Dr. Pepper shirt OR the cars movie and my sis could not believe that was it (cuz they go all out ) but i am glad at least he is learning that he can't have it all
Oh, people still try and teach their kids manners. The problem is many parents or adults in general lack manners themselves and the kids are just learning from how they see adults behave.
People have a tendency to think that it should be "do as I say not as I do", this is a fallacy because the best teaching tool is to lead by example.
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