My son is 2 and has autism im sick of people making comments about him when i take him out?
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Unfortunately, there are several spoilt children out there who's screaming and general misbehaviour has more to do with bad parenting then a condition, so I suppose comments are to be expected. Just politely tell them he has autism, and they should leave it at that.
You need to join a club of parents that have autistic children. I did a search and there is all sorts of them online. They would be the best people to talk to about your situation.
People will always look and make you feel uncomfortable. You know you're not the world's worst mum and you've got to get to the point where you don't care if they think you are. Complete strangers might pass comment but does it matter when you will never see them again? I used to feel self-conscious like you when my daughter was younger as she has autistic tendencies. In the end I got sick of justifying her behaviour, after all why should I? Let them stare honey and just carry on doing what you're doing - loving your son and being a great mum. x x x
you poor lamb there are many people like you out there, join the autistic society, there will be one near you, they will give you support, i fully appreciate where your coming from, stick your head in the air and just have the knowledge you know your better than them!! most of the people out there would not know where to begin with a autistic, good luck hunny and keep smiling,
You shouldn't have to explain anything to anyone! I would never make a comment to another mom about their child in a store. That is so incredibly rude and childlike of them...I would simply say "I'm sorry, do I seem like I need advice?" Sounds rude, but they won't say anything again especially since they were being rude in the first place.
Honey, you don't need to explain your sons behaviour to anybody... Especially not strangers.
Be proud of him, and know that he is precious... Thats all that matters.
They mean NOTHING to you, but your Son very clearly does!!
When you feel low, remember that YOU are the one that HE turns to, to tenderly kisses him to sleep, or pick him up when he falls. You and he are important... No-one else.
I hope you have a lovely Christmas, with your precious boy.
x
Unfortunately you have to deal with it. Who cares what others say. Ignorance from other people shouldnt bother you
are you sure he has autism though? maybe since he can't talk, it's just a language delay.. kinda the same thing happend to me.. my son took forever to talk.. i took him in for evaluation and they diagnosed him with "slight signs of autism". they put him in a special education class. 4 months later they re-evaluated him and said he didn't have autism but he did need speech therapy (I ALREADY KNEW THAT).. but now they look at his past records and always ask " does he have autism".. and i always have to explain that it was a mistake!! he only had speech delay.. he use to yell a lot too because he couldn't communicate with me.. they get frustrated.. his language is much better now though.. so to answer your question.. NO you don't have to put a sign on your son and don't have to give explanation to anybody.. just try to calm him down.. forget the others and you do what you got to do.. don't feel ashamed of your son either.. hopefully it's just a language delay too .. good luck..
You shouldn't worry about those looks or comments that others give you. I know it sounds hard, but as your son gets older it will be more obvious that he has autism, and others will be more understanding. Right now, they just think that he's an unruly child.
Good luck, and remember to take a breather and try to relax.
good luck take care , to hell with the sado's
That is very wrong, and people need to shut up. I use to be a preschool teacher and had a child in my class who had autisim.I also have a neice and nephew with autism. One thing I have learned is that these children are borderling genius and need to be appreciated.
You're a strong person for dealing with people in society and there stupidity. Your son is also only 2 years old, people need to get a grip, he isn't the one who's the freak, it the people in society making fun that are the freaks and they should wear a badge stating that they have a big mouth.
some people are just so cruel, my little brother has vitiligo and you want to see the looks he gets!! the funny thing is that the majority of people who do stare at him are full grown women who should know better,it knocks me sick!! probably comapring him to their "perfect" children,makes them feel a bit better!! i always stare at them back and even say things to them,it irritates me like mad:-(
You dont have to explain anything to these people. I would just say "Thank you for your input" if they make comments about his behavior and forget about it. They'll get over it too. I understand why you get upset.. we all do if people make negative comments about our children when we know they cant help it or didnt do anything wrong. I think the best example you can give to your son is to just bite your tongue and go about what you were doing. Good Luck honey.
Iknow how you feel my son and daughter have Autism and people used to stare and say what a naughty child i would do this and that if he /she was mine, my daughter is now 16 and very hard to handle she went to a swimming pool once and one of the attendants was seen to mimick her taking the mickey the school complained but i hit the roof i get so frustrated and annoyed at people but stay strong and i wish you and your son all the luck in the world and a very happy christmas and new year good luck
Babe that is truly sad, how can people poke fun at or have any inclination of what you are going through ? I would just ignore them and think to myself, he is mine and I love him, it sounds like you are doing well with it but people are cruel sweetheart. I always think well it may come to them one day and they will experience something similar, then they will think oh s**t what have I done to that poor little man and his mum. If you want a friend to talk to love try pauline.neild@btinternet.com . and give your son my love. That as made me cry.
Well unfortunately some people, who are considered mental normal, seem to have a less then normal mentality when it comes down to dealing with others who have mental disabilities such as your son. My friend's older brother also has autism, and I have personally seen the kid freak out on his sister and unfortunately the parents who are both "normal" didn't help the situation any of the times.
Try not to take any notice,and i know that its hard.Some people can be really cruel and many of them will never understand because they don't have child with autism.You shouldn't have to tell every tom dick and harry the reason why your son behaves the way he does sometimes.It is none of their business.I always get looks when I'm with my son,and he doesn't even suffer from autism.I would just try and focus on your son,and don't even batt an eyelid at these people who think its great to stare.If you wanna chat ,email me!** kazzy.bryant@blueyonder.co.uk
Hello,
My heart goes out to you, I did some voluntary work a few years ago with people who had profound learning difficulties including what would be called autism. So I can really understand how difficult it can be for you to cope.
**I dont want to excuse other people's disgusting behaviour towards you & your son. But such people often respond in that way because they have no understanding of what autism is, so they fear what they dont understand. Their reactions sound extreme, uncalled for, intolerant, they are biggotted, & hostile,etc.
I know saying this doesnt help you, but its clear that your feeling extra senstive about it because of your circumtances with the father of your son leaving. You are allowing these reactions from people in public to get under your skin and to hurt you and to upset you in away that they wouldnt give different circumstances.
**I dont see why you should have to explain anything about your sons condition to anyone in public, unless they ask in a genuinely kind or interested way. You DONT HAVE to justify yourself or your sons condition to anyone.
**What matters most is that you love your son, and I'm sure he knows he's loved too. You must not let other people's lack of understanding hurt you, thats the bottom line as far as I can see it.
In other words other people who dont understand can go way, & you dont have to engage with them, your sons autism is non of there business.
**In other words if other people have a difficulty with someone who has autism thats actually their problem NOT yours.
**In all of this please dont forget to be VERY kind to yourself as your probably feeling very vulnerable, fragile & emotionally sensitive. Please be good to yourself, lifes hard enough without beating youself up too.
I really do wish you a gentle and kind time over the holiday season and I hope things go better for you and your son in 2007.
Warm Regards to you both, IR
People will be ignoant. I commend you for all our work. I work with children with PDD and know fom experience that parents ofetn fail to bring their children out in public for that very reason. Your child needs the socialization -- it will help him inthe long run. Plus, through all your hardships, you are psycho-educating the world. Most people don't know what PDD looks like in person. It is so much different than what can be written in a book. Each time you bring your child in public, you teach people how critical it is to advance research and help our children. ACCOLADES TO YOU! (and thanks!)
I have a friend whose son has Autism. She made these little business cards she printed from home that said something on the lines of." Please bless my son, he has Autism...etc..etc" You could get creative.
My children do not have Autism, but they sure take there turns at acting a fool up in the store. I have learned, mostly, to just ignore people who stare, make faces, and and comments. People can just be some darn rude it's pathetic. But sometimes I get the best of myself and put poeple in their place. I've told people to not be so rude, and that it isnt easy shopping with 4 boys. I've told people to mind their own business. Most of the time, I put on a smile, hold my head high shoulders back, and make due with my circumstance. I have even told many youngsters "See, this is why you use birth control!"
Unfortunately, there isn't anything you can do legally to stop them from making comments while in public places. However, I highly suggest you join a autism group for support and guidance. Just remember, don't listen to their comments; what they think doesn't matter ten seconds later.
Unfortunatey this world is filled with unaccepting people,who think that they are here to judge others! There is not much you can, or should do. You are trying to live your life for the benefit of your son, and to be honest I wouldn't care what people think!! They are making a judgement without even knowing your little boy, and therefore they are the ones with the problem!! Don't allow others to stress you, as raising a child with autism is hard enough! You just concentrate on him and yourself and forget the freaks that judge ... they don't even deserve an explanation!! I know it can be hurtful, but you need to just shut them out as they are not feeding positive energy, and your little one will pick that up. No wonder he screams and gets upset, they freak him out!! You don't owe them anything!! Ignore them!! I wish you well!
There is no reason to put a label on ur child just to please other people plus most people have no idea about autism. I think maybe if some1 makes a comment u can say he's autistic.
I think if people are aware of things they won't prejudge but u have nothing to worry about u know ur son don't worry about those outside. B strong a nd confident!
This is all new for you so give yourself time to get used to all the stuff that comes with this diagnosis. I think you'll find as he gets older you won't let this bother you. There is nothing you can do short of stopping every jerk who gives you a nasty look and lecturing them to deal with it.
tell them to piss off and mind their own buisness, even if he wasnt autistic and doing naughty things, it is a part of growing up, think people forget they were kids themselfs and that their kids probaly had strops too, some people can just be really cruel and ignorant, i agree you shouldnt have to wear a badge on your son, the next time someone looks at you, say to them do you want a photo as it lasts longer, that will shut them up, or really stare them out, see how they like it!!
You could always say, "The child has autism--what's YOUR excuse?"
my friend has a son who is autistic and i am very close to him, it was me that had to go to school and calm him down and gain his co operation when he wouldnt respond to anyone else, i accompanied him to doctor, dental and hospital visits because he wouldnt go with anyone else, my love for him was way bigger than my concerns of what strangers in the street thought, you know why he is behaving the way he does, and thats all that matters, the one thing i have to tell you is, that, the little boy, who could be so very frustrating at times grew up to be a charming 16 year old young man, who still has problems dont get me wrong, but also turned out to be a very very promising talented golfer, representing his country-and won gold medals in several countries, its been a journey, but with a little work, and help, very rewarding. forget everyone else, those close to you know, and understand, thats all that matters
sadly that is the way of life i can not even imagine the stress that you have in you life and to have that as well must be hard but remember at the end of the day itis you and your son and sod the rest of the world.
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