What method of discipline do you employ with your toddler? Does it work well & how well behaved is your child
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Have you seen those dog collars that administer a slight electric shock? They work so well on dogs. There were times during the Terrible Twos..
No, I didn't, just thought about it.
Lots of love, talks, time outs in the corner (old school, but I'm old). The swat on the butt was reserved for emergencies. Usually the emergency was the result of an adults failure to keep up with the toddler, but it still served the purpose. What is an emergency? A toddler suddenly jolting for the road. Toddler understands that's a no no. A swift swat is the emergency reminder in a dangerous situation.
time out in the bedroom or a corner
First we do warnings, then time out adn after time out he'll get a hug and told why he got into trouble and he will then say sorry... It works really well actually, he hates having to stand still (he is 2). And he is very well behaved... he is quiet and helpful anytime we go anywhere.. he doesn;t throw fits while we are out... he says please, thank you, and excuse me to everyone without being told, he shakes peoples hands... (and if he know them then he will kiss the back of the ladies hands... I taught him that... lol!! ) and he love to cuddle and give hugs and kisses. It really jsut depends on the child and the way a parent handles situations . that is who they learn from afterall..
I used the method in the book "1-2-3 Magic: Effective Discipline for Children 2-12" by Thomas Phelan. She's a good kid, 13 now. I recommend the book. My other favorite book of all time was "How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk" by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlich. They also wrote "Siblings Without Rivalry" but I didn't need that one since I only have one kid ;-). Good luck on your fabulous adventure!
My 18 month old is just starting the tantrums of kicking, screaming, and hitting. Thankfully it's not often. When she does it I take her arm or legs with a firm hold and tell her "No...no hitting" or "No.no kicking. That hurts Mommy!" Sometimes she looks at me with a real serious look as if she's trying to really understand what I just said and sometimes she cries. If she keeps it up and won't stop then I put her in her crib for a three minute time out. Then, when I get her I discuss it. She's a preemie and I'm not sure if she really understands when I explain things, but she looks at me as if she does as she will sometimes repeat words that i say to her when I am explaining why she got a time out in the first place.
firmness. Saying what I mean and doing it if I say I will. Cause and effect. My most difficult child DOES NOT take corporal punishment so I never use it. My easiest child takes corporal punishment as the worst thing that could ever happen to him and a swat ALWAYS does the trick, but he rarely evers needs it. Children are all different and employ different techniques, the less physical the better, but likewise the less mental cruelty the better. Communicating and instructing your children is fantastic because they come to understand you as you do the same with them.
Not bad for a big ole dutch farmer!
Blame it on having a Japanese wife (she is always employing wisdom on her husband)
I used behavior and reward. I also used time outs/relgated to bedroom techniques. We had set rules, she wasn't handed everything she wanted, she had to earn her priveliges by behaving and following the rules. Privileges consisted of television, videos, video games (we didn't a computer back then), going to the mall, (she loved to go and "people watch"). As she got older she would try to argue and negotiate and would tell us that she had "rights". As far as I was concerned her rights were to have healthy wholesome food in her stomach, a roof over her head, clothes on ther back and a warm comfortable place to sleep. The rest were priveliges she had to earn. When she reached "the terrible twos" and embarked on her tantrums I gnored them, when they got out of hand and I felt I might break down I would set the child gate up in her doorway and put her into her bedroom. While she was growing up I had parents of her friends tell me how much they wanted to "adopt" her. If I saw her teachers out in public they would exthol my daughter's virtues to no end. While her studies weren't always the best she was a respectful student and by the time she was in highschool had gained the respect of most of her peers as well as faculty and staff of the school. Now at 21 she is completing her two year degree of which she has maintained a 4.0GPA She is in the student government of that college as well as working part time for a well known Jeans retailer where she consitintly wins the awards for customer service. She was asked to take on the job of assistant manager of the store after only two months of working there, but she had to turn it down due to her educational requirements. Late last year she was also recruited to sit on city council as a temporary member this term as the seat was vacated due to the untimely death of the council member. At first she didn't want the position but they basically hounded her to take it for almost six months so she gave in.Howe well behaved is she? Around here she's a pain in the butt...because she is my child. Out in "the real world" she is a respectful, respectable and well respected member of society...I did my job well.
Time outs, explain in simple terms how it makes you feel when they are bad, and in cases where they may hurt themselves or sometone else a swat on the diapered bottom. just keep at it.they'll get it faster then you think.
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