Is it wrong to let your 4 year old son play in you hair?
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Oh give me a BREAK... You and your child are bonding...
Now, If he says anything about that then you need to tell him... “Oh, he better never see you naked. He might get the wrong idea about body parts.” In other words.. If your hubby sleeps in the buff, he better get some PJs on..
What about stuffed animals? Should your kid hug a football at night? What about action figures?
Hell, I played with Ken dolls down the street with a little girl. She liked to play with Barbies. Heck, I even braided my sister’s hair when I was 4. My sister and her friends dressed me up in girl clothes and makeup when I was 4….
Believe it or not… I like girls… Sheesh…
Absolutely not. Being gay doesn't happen that way. If your son is ever to be gay, then he already is. There is no doing or undoing this. It's from birth.
And he's 4! Come on, playing with your mommy's hair is fun when you're that age.
If all of a sudden that stopped, he would become confused. He might put the blame on himself.
If you're able to, ask your mother-in-law for an embarrassing story about your husband doing something 'girlie' when he was young. That'll give him a taste of his own medicine.
Good luck
your son must be tiny.
well if your son is 25, then it sure is wrong!
no, i dont think it's wrong..a lot of kids boys and girls play with hair...it's just a phase
get him his own barbie
sorry couldn't recommend GI JOE. he's hairless
Sorry to be blunt, but your husband sounds nuts.
What does hair playing have to do with being gay, and how bad would that be anyway?
4 years old is the time that kids really like to act out lots of different things. Just let him be himself.
I think the only portal it would open up would be him walking up to complete strangers and pulling there hair.
He might have some kind of "fetish" in the future, but I think that being gay is something not learned but just is. I think love your son for who he is...don't worry about gay/straight at this point in his life!!
Oh brother.
It's normal. If you have a son that loves you enough to want to play with your hair let him. My kids always used to. I have to admit though, they seemed to prefer to put it all in front of my face and mess it into a nest, then I would make scary noises...lol They loved that.
gosh hes 4. four year olds are very inquisitive and want to touch and play with almost everything. i dont thihnk its wrong and no i dont think that its a"portal" to gayness.
No hunny, he's only 4 - he's curious about the world, hair has a unique texture that little kids are drawn too, don't worry, just becasue he's plays with your hair won't make him gay! heheheeh - this little guys gonna be just fine!
portal...??gayness?? that is the sillyest notion ive herd today...let him play with your hair...unless you dont you son touching you...man i thought i herd it all on this...it just gets worse and worse...
He just wants to stay close to his Mommy. Playing in your hair has nothing to do with gayness. Does your husband play with your hair in front of your son. Maybe he is just mocking Daddy.
It might cause a problem with playing with other people's hair but I'm sure it won't make him gay.
no no no no, it is actually good for fine motor skills...besides he is exploring and I know a lot of straight hair dressers that are the best ha ha. Tell your husband to relax.
What are you thinking. Letting a kid play with your hair is like giving him a gun. It will only end in tradgedy.
OMG that is so funny. Open a portal to gayness? People aren't gay because they do hair. It is a biological thing. If your son is gay, he was born gay.
I have a guy friend that does hair. He is built like a lumberjack and is DEFINITELY not gay. The straightest guy on earth. He just likes womens hair and decided to make a profession out of it.
Let your son play with your hair. It is sweet.
Oh my goodness that is a really nutty thing to think. Some of your most famous hair stylist are men and they are not gay. That sounds like whoever told you that is extremely homophobic! Come on now...Would they say that a boy who wants to cook in the kitchen with mom is going to be gay? Totally ridiculous!
drapes or the rug?
No, as long as the the other person doesn't mind it and he is being gentle, let him play with people's hair. There is not "portal" to gayness". And let him do things considered for girls if he wants to. If he is gay, he already is gay and there is nothing you can do about it. You will be hurting him if you made it seem like you don't love him for exactly who he is. My husband and I are totally fine with our daughter doing boy things- it's society who has defined what boy things and girl things to do are. He already can see all around him what society has already defined for him- you don't have to "set him straight." So cherish your son and by the way, that is normal behavior for ANY child to want to play with hair. Have fun with it! This is a great way for your son to learn how to be gentle...
no...no.no.
its fine to let your child play with your hair... not all hairdresser are gay, don't ya know... just tell him he can play with your hair but you have to instruct him not to touch just anyone's hair. little boys need just as much contact with their mom's as little girls. ..in no way will this make him gay, it will just create a great closeness between you and fond memories of you when you are no longer part of this earth... i remember my mother's hands...though she has long since left me i remember her hands and touch and can call them to mind and find her comfort still...
maybe your husband is a bit jealous, ya think
I only have 2 things to say about this.
1. Let your son play with your hair it's normal.
2. YOU ARE NOT BORN GAY!!!
That second one is for all you people that have the wrong idea about the gay issue.
This is such an absurd train of thought, I cant even begin to form an answer.
My daughter pulled my hair so hard when she was little, but my son loves it when I lay him on the bed and my hair is down and it falls around his face. He grabs it gently and plays with it. My son is not going to be gay because he plays with my hair, neither will yours. It may mean that he likes women later on that have hair like yours... Or it could also be the reason why a lot of men like long hair. Hmmmmm.
What? Your husband is crazy. That has nothing to do with being gay. It is a completely normal thing for boys to even want to play with a barbie sometimes . Nothing at all wrong with it. I have 3 boys and when they were younger they would try and use my make up or things like that. They are now DEFINITLEY NOT gay.;lol Dont worry about that stuff.
Yourhusband's talking rubbish...let your son play with you hair. There's nothing wrong with it, or with other 'girly' activities, like ironing, hoovering washing up ect, allow him to join with these activities, for his future wife will thank you for teaching him.
The problem isn't a small child playing in hair but a grown man not being open enough to educate himself to the fact that being gay isn't "created." I'm not trying to be rude but you may need to just remember if your husband is going to be closed to science, you may face defending your own beliefs as well as your child's as he grows. I hope your husband will be interested enough to learn more about this if it troubles him.
THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A "PORTAL TO GAYNESS". PEOPLE ARE EITHER GAY OR NOT..JUST LIKE STRAIGHT OR NOT..THERE IS NOTHING YOU CAN OR CAN'T DO THAT WILL CHANGE SEXUAL ORIENTATION.
SOUNDS LIKE YOUR HUBBY IS HOMOPHOBIC..DO NOT LISTEN TO HIM..YOUR SON IS FINE PLAYING WITH YOUR HAIR AND AS LONG AS YOU EXPLAIN TO HIM HES NOT ALLOWED TO TOUCH ALL PEOPLES HAIR HE WILL LEARN LIMITS.
BY THE WAY MY HUBBY PLAYS WITH MY HAIR AND HES NOT EITHER GIRLY OR HOMOSEXUAL..JUST A LOVING MAN SHOWING ME HIS AFFECTION! lET YOUR SON DO THE SAME, IT WILL IMPROVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP AND LOVE WITH HIM.
oh please. playing with your hair will not make your son gay. my son is also 4 and love to sit a brush my hair or his.for my child its a stress reliever. and something different to do. his dad is in iraq currently. this will not make your son gay. its just your son wanting to be near and have mommys attention
what a silly question. A person likes what they like, that's it.
There is nothing wrong with your son playing in your hair and that is not going to make him gay? My son plays with a dollhouse sometime, that does not mean he is gay? He is 4 years old, tell your husband to let him be a kid and leave him alone, there is nothing wrong with his behavior.
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