My guy bought me a teddy bear, candy,rose, card, balloon, and a ring. am i being selfish for not liking it?
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You're being selfish. He bought you a teddy bear, a rose, a card, a balloon, and a ring; and you're upset because the rose wasn't pretty enough, the chocolate wasn't your favorite, and he didn't sign the card (like you wouldn't know who it was from)? Was anything wrong with the teddy bear, balloon, and jewelry?
BTW, running around to gather that much stuff involves a lot of thought, and the fact that the rose was half dead means he bought it a few days BEFORE valentines day- so he was trying to think ahead. Besides, it was all a gift- did he actually OWE you anything?
i think you have the right to be upset!
A bit of both, dont be to selfish and tell him you hate it all, just tell him thats its a nice thought but he should have put more effort into it.
sounds like a gold card member.
he thought to buy it didn't he?
You should be happy he tried. If you gave me that attitude, you wouldn't get a thing from me next time. And when you asked why, I'd tell it was cause I didn't wanna get it wrong like last time. Wouldn't you feel stupid after hearing that? That it was your own fault you don't get stuff like that anymore.
Didn't put the thought into.? I wasn't supposed to see my boyfriend on Valentines Day but I surprised him with gifts at his house. he got me NOTHING!! Just be happy that he tried. the thought was there, maybe he was just trying to mix things up...or maybe he forgot.atleast you got a little something. Be happy...!
listen its the thought that counts. would u rather he buy u nothing at all
It's kind of fitting that this is in the Toddler & Preschool section!
To answer your question.yes!
As well as self-centered, greedy, materialistic, ungrateful, petty, mean and spoiled. I'm sure there are a few adjectives I missed...but that was all I could come up with in the 10 seconds of thought I devoted to your stupid question.
omg, consider yourself lucky. awhile ago i was reading another question about a woman who got a carton of ciggarettes from her husband, and it was actually a gift to him from a coworker that he regifted. be thankful for what you've been given!
will at least he gave you something even if it was crappy...so just be happy he was thinking about you in some kind of way
You have a right to be upset, but remember he DID get you something. Most men completely forget or they buy the first thing they see. Men aren't good at this sort of thing. Next time drop hints as to where he should go for help. He'll appreciate the help and you'll be happier with the results.
I think that if I were him I wouldn't bother again. He did put thought into it, if he didn't you wouldn't have gotten anything except a man out all night with someone else.
Maybe he's not the right guy for you. What did you do for him?
good luck & bless
he obviously tried and made an effort, he got you the stuff! So yes, you should appreciate that. Maybe he assumed that you liked dark chocolate, and maybe the rose died after he bought it. The fact that the card wasn't signed ... I don't know. Appreciate that he did anything, be a little upset about why he didn't personalize it .. but it's just valentines day ...
Complain, Complain. You sound like a friggin beotch to me. You want some wine with that cheese??waaaa waaaa get over it you big baby
See, you're why guys just give up and don't try anymore. It's never good enough, is it?
Did he give you a good faith effort? I think so. Do you think he got the stuff he did hoping you wouldn't like it?
If you don't like it, you don't like it. For goodness sake be gracious to him, though. He made an effort.
You didn't say anything about the ring or the teddy bear.
Be happy that he got you all that stuff. I love dark chocolate (yummy), he may like dark chocolate and assumed that you do too. Take the rose turn it upside down and thumb tack it to the wall. It will dry perfectly that way. He is a guy, he probably just forgot to sign the card.
That is a lot of stuff to 'not have put any thought into'.
What did you get him?
Yes. You're being selfish. All I got was a card. Be grateful that he cared enough to spoil you even more.
Perhaps you should date guys who just throw $50 on the bed when they're done.
He could have done better BUT at least he did something. Imagine how you would feel if he showed up with nothing at all?
You complained about the rose and the candy (could have been that there was not much left to choose from at the store or he had already spent a bunch of money on the bear, balloon, candy and ring). but what about ALL OF THE OTHER STUFF?
As for the card, my husband is lousy in the card department - he too is guilty of having given me unsigned cards. But he cooks me dinners, pays the bills and works his butt off so I can stay home and raise our son. Could he do better? Sure. But I definitely appreciate the things he gets right a lot.
Yes, you're being selfish.
I think the thought was there, although he didn't put an entirely huge amount of effort into it.
Things to consider:
- maybe he didn't have pen because he bought the card last minute
- maybe the rose was half dead because it got too cold from the store to the house
- he didn't know you didn't like dark chocolate (come on, how many men really pay attention to what you eat??)
- there was nothing wrong with the balloon
- and you didn't mention anything wrong with the ring
Hey, alot of guys don't get their girlfriends/wives anything for valentines day. Or if they get a card, they pick the first one off the rack and a dozen roses because it's the easiest thing to do.
Remember there are 3 sides to every story, and even if you weren't as impressed with the things he got you, he did try to do something for you.
Give the guy a break, he did put thought into it or you wouldn't have received anything. If it means that much about the card not being signed simply take it to him with a pen and say dear did you realize you forgot to sign. He obviously thinks a lot of you, why not give a little of that caring in return.It's all in the thought of the gift not the cost of the gift.
What did you get him?
Maybe you don't really like this guy. Why else would you be so critical? :-)=
Keep in mind that many people received nothing at all.
You have the right to be upset. It's nice that he tried to do something for you, but you're right he didn't put any thought into it. It could be that he waited until the last minute, which explains the half-dead rose (all the nice ones were sold). Sounds like he went to the grocery store on his way to see you and picked up a few things. You said he bought you a ring. Is it a nice one that he put thought into or just some random thing that isn't even your style? Don't be upset about the chocolate--guys just buy candy in a pretty box and think it's all the same. He probably just didn't know which one to get. He should've signed the card though.
At least you got something for Valentine's Day. He didn't have to get you anything. If you want something in particular, go get it yourself instead of relying on someone to get it for you.
well at first i would have said yes you are being selfish for not liking it. BUT once i read underneath your question then No i dont think you are selfish. How long have you gone out with this guy? If you just started dating him (say less than 3 months) then yes just appreciate the gifts and let him know in a few days that you dont like dark chocolate and mention casually that the flowers are dying and he needs to buy flowers that arent fully opened yet. BUT if you have been going out for more than 3 months he should know you and I would be PISSED if my guy got me almost dead flowers and dark chocolate when he should know better. And he should have signed the card. Is he stupid?
Be appreciative and be upset-- just don't let him know the latter. He deserves props-- he did try, and for most guys this is a lot of work. My husband bought me flowers that didn't even arrive for V-Day, and the last time he bought me flowers, they were UGLY! I gave a girlfriend a quick call to vent and then was able to tell my husband how much I appreciated his efforts (cuz I did) without wanting to be annoyed at him. Valentine's Day is a lot of pressure for everyone-- girls have expectations, guys have anxiety! He might not be a romantic guy-- doesn't mean he doesn't love you to death. Remember the things that he does that make you fall in love with him-- that's what matters on a daily basis-- and tell him the reasons you love him. To put less pressure on him, tell him you don't care about Valentine's, but you need him to let you know how much he loves you at random. Every day should be Valentine's if you're in love!!
There is an old motto in play here: "It is not the gift, but the thought that counts"
I read these gifts in two ways:
1) He was trying to get you something for Valentines day but was not sure what you would like, so he went out and bought all the traditional stuff (flowers, candy, jewely, stuff toy, card) hoping you would at least like one or more of these things.
2) He waited too long to buy the gifts, and then picked up whatever he could find, including a half-dead flower, chocolates that you never eat, and a card that he forgot to sign.
I can't tell you which one of these is the correct scenario (or if even either one was correct). You would have to examine your boyfriend's trends and think about it yourself.
From what it looks like to me, at least he was trying, although I really would have signed the card and put a short note or a few wods of my own in there. I think you should give him the credit, especially if you love him.
And Valentines day does go both ways...Did you remember to get him a little something? If so how much thought went into it?
However, you are "upset" because you think that he doesn't really take you seriously, or perhaps he is having a problem because he can't seem to please you. This is a sign of bigger issues you guys need to work out.
By the way, not sure why this was posted in the Toddler and Preschool section - Is your boyfriend still potty training? If so, I would definitely give him credit because it is hard for preschoolers to think of the right gift for their girlfriends :-)
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