17 & TTC crazy or what?
Any thoughts will do Thanx!
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Do I think you are crazy? No, having a baby is a beautiful thing. But at least do it descent and in order. Make sure this is the man you want to spend the rest of your life with and not just lust or a first time love thing. Having a baby can be hard at times but they are the most presious gifts from GOD. Thats another thing when God feels its time for you to concieve then it will happen. I got married in 2001 and got pregnant in 2004 so it totally depends on God as well. Congrats on your engagement!
If it's what you truly want then go for it. I guess your fella has a good job and you have a home?
I had my 1st when I was 22 it was bloody hard work but not for one minute do I regret having him so young.
I'm Married to his dad and we now have 2 other children.
I think you should wait untill you're older and you've grown up & lived life some more. Do you know once you have a baby YOUR life is OVER for the next 18+ years?
Are you ready for that? Are you trying to get pregnant because of the person you are with? Do you think that a baby will hold the 2 of you together forever? If you said yea then you are so kidding yourself.
A man can get up and leave at anytime. Wait until your married. If you both want a baby right now then why hasn't he married you yet??
I Started ttc at 17? with my fiance go for it! if its what you TRULY want! then who are we to stop you?1 xxxx
hi im not gonna say you should wait but you really have a lot of life ahead of you and plenty of time for a baby first you should get married to see if this is the man you really want a baby with alot of things change when you get married and have children it is your choice of course but make sure its the right one because once its done there is no turning back so good luck to you!!
Well, I'd suggest getting married first and then conceive! Supposing you are still in high school, wouldn't be better to graduate first? Get married and then conceive!!!! You do have plenty of time, but I see no harm getting pregnant once you go in the right order as I mentioned and you are both stable financially!! Babies cost hon, I have three and do private school and we waited till I was 30 to start, so we had enough money and I could be a stay at home mom!!!!!!!!! Formula and diapers are just the beginning, they cost even more after that, (karate, x-boxes, ninetindo ds's, soccer uniforms for school, etc.), so make sure you can financially do that!!! Finish school, get married and then try!!!!! Everyone matures at differnet ages and you may can handle it, but please go in the right order!!!!!! Good luck to you!!!!!!
Do I think you are crazy for ttc at 17? YES. Have you graduated high school yet? Are you planning on going to college? You need to at least do both of these things before even considering having a child. I had my first baby at 19 and although I wouldn't change it for the world because I love each and every one of my children I do wish that I would have been able to further my schooling so that I could have been at least a little more financially prepared.
You are very young but if you are both commited to one another well go for it,but you both have to be really sure about your relationship,you dont want to be left holding the baby it has to be a decision for you both and it is for life.
You are not crazy for wanting a baby so bad BUT you are crazy though for trying now at 17.
You have plenty of time to have a baby! You need to enjoy your teenage years as a teenager. Do you plan to go to college? What about your boyfriend? Do you guys live together on your own or do you live with your parents? Do you have jobs with promising careers and financial stability. It is so easy to love a baby but to financial support one is different. Before you "try" make sure you are living on your own w/bf, paying all of the bills and have extra to spend. Do you have health insurance? Do you know how much daycare costs? Last year i spent over $7,000 for my son.Then there is diapers, formula, clothes, carseats...that stuff is very expensive. try answering these questions and it may make you want wait. you have many years still their is no rush!
Yes, you are too young! But you need to do what's right for you. So if you do choose to continue trying to concieve and are successful, please don't ask us hardworking taxpayers to support you.
Get married first and make sure you know without a shawdow of a doubt that you love this man and want to have this child. Im only 26 but the way I lived when I was 17, just 9 years ago is totally different, hell I was different at 19 and 20 then I was at 17. Make sure you dont rush into this and you really want a baby, they are a lot of work.
I know excactly what you mean me and my partner started trying when I was 18 and he was 19, we knew it was what we wanted to do. I think for me it was the best decision as I can have my family now then start my career when they both start school, I will be 24 then.
As long as you are taking it seriously which I can see you are and you have financial stability, then do what you feel right. Yes raising kids is hard but its just as hard when you're 30. And the benefits and rewards far outweigh the sleepless nights.
As for people saying your life is over when you have kids, thats ridiculous. I feel sorry for the kids of those parents. My life only got a 100 times better when I had children.
Good luck whatever you decide to do.
I would say that you are too young, you need to graduate high school and you need to know exactly what it takes to have and care for a baby. It takes money , of course, does he have a good job? Do you plan on getting one or going to college? What about a house? I would seriously sit down and think about it, and you are not gonna be able to go out and do whatever you want anymore, I would seriously wait until you have lived your life and done what you wanted to before you bring another life in the world. It is a hard job being a mom
Well if that is want you want i say go for it, how can people say if you have kids young your life is over? It's only just beggining! I wish you the best of luck hun xXx
17 does seem too young. Most women tend to go through a transitional phase between 19 and 21...which means when they get old enough to start getting out and going to more of a variety of places then they tend to loose interest in the one they're with, and go experience the single life. There are high percentages of girls who do this and sware they wouldn't.
In my opinion i would wait a couple more years and make sure the lifestyle you have is the one you're gonna keep (no matter how sure you seem right now). Also the fact of he's not even 21 yet, are you guys financially stable, babies are expensive and very needy, can you dedicate your full time to one?
My suggestion is wait, but no one on here can tell you what to do, you're gonna do what you want anyway, so good luck.
All I have to say is that when I was 19 I was pregnant and had a miscarriage and I thought at that time it was going to be great and really wanted it but now at 26 I look back and say to myself what was I thinking, at the time I was wanting it so bad and now I can say I'm ready now, I have a career, I have travelled and I truly found the one I was meant to be with and it isn't the same guy as I was with then, but at that time I thought he was Mr. right.
I also have a friend who got pregnant at 16 (by mistake) and she says she doesn't regret having him but she says it was extremely hard, especially when it was her parents you took care of the child when she went to university, but the point is she knew she had to go to school to make a better live for her and her child, since it didn't last with the child's father.
Hope this helps, since I was in your shoes and now looking at it 7 years later.
I had my first child at 17 (not planned). You need to really think about this before you do it. Do you really want you own life to end at 17?? Your outlook on liIe ismuch different now at 17 than it will be several years from now. It's much harder than you could ever even imagine to be!!! Believe me I know. I also though I was going to be with my boyfriend forever. But it didn't end up that way. Most statistics it will tell you the same thing. Could you take care of you and your baby by yourself? Without falling back on your parents for help? If you want to make a grown up decision about having a baby at age 17 then you need to think about the grown up consiquences of having a baby at 17.
Good luck in whatever you decide to do.
Nothing wrong with having a baby young, but please get married first! Your baby needs a stable home life, a mom and dad who are married.
hi there i say go for it. if u and ur patner want a child so bad and will stand by the child no matter wat then theres no reason for u not to..ppl who tell u to wait tell them to keep there nose out...havin a baby is the most natural thing in the world and the most rewardin thing in the world goodluck .. xx
I would say that at 17 your to young to be ttc but if thats what you want to do then you will do it no matter what..I just hope that you and your boyfriend are both working and able to provide for the baby yourselves, if your not working then I strongly suggest that you make getting a job both your number one prioritys as its not fat for other working people to pay for the yp keep of you and your child. Also have you got a permanent house that is suitable for a baby to live him? Are you able to provide enough clothing and heating along with food, these are all essentials! I am not meaning to be mean but you need to realise that being a parent is a huge responsibility and once the baby is here you cant just pick them up and drop them when it suits. There a life long commitment. There will be no more lying in bed til you feel like it, no more going out with your friends when it suits, these are just a few examples. Yes having a baby is very rewarding but you have plenty time to have a family there really is no rush, if your fiance and you are that sure your in love then why not date for another year then maybe think about getting married to confirm your commitment to each other and then when your maybe 20 and more grown up and wiser maybe talk about starting a family. Good luck
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